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Thread: Rejection Is In Your Head - ALWAYS Go For It!

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    Default Rejection Is In Your Head - ALWAYS Go For It!

    Sup motherlovers!

    I had epiphany earlier today and figured I'd share it with all of you:

    REJECTION IS MEANINGLESS.

    Here's why:

    I spent several moments trying to figure out my percentage (ie success to failure) and came up with a Number Close to 40%.

    FORTY PERCENT

    Let that sink in for a moment. Now, I'm not bragging here, but I challenge all of you to sit down and do the same. You might have numbers that are a hell of a lot better than mine. Mind you, I didn't factor in cold approaches; this applies to girls I've met around campus, back in high school, etc.

    So, do the same and look at the number. Then, FORGET ABOUT IT.

    The whole purpose of this exercise is to show you how difficult it is to recall rejections. See how little significance they have in your life as a whole? Sure, you may remember a few of them and maybe have some feelings stirred, but in the end, close to none of those rejections actually mattered.

    Happy hunting
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    Default Re: Rejection Is In Your Head - ALWAYS Go For It!

    Amen!

    The feeling I get from not approaching stings far worse than any rejection I have received.

    I can recall bits and pieces of rejections but for the most part I don't care after about 10 seconds.

    But when I miss a good opportunity those stick out in my head far longer than any blowout.
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    Default Re: Rejection Is In Your Head - ALWAYS Go For It!

    That's actually a higher success rate than most predatory animals which if five percent.

    You don't always make it all the way, but if you recall times you got rejected, let it be brief and only to learn from your mistakes not wallow in self-pity. Lucky people focus on the good, and that is what helps to allow their luck continue. Successful PUAs likewise focus on their successes rather than on their failures. Focus on where you did well, and your success will continue.

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    Default Re: Rejection Is In Your Head - ALWAYS Go For It!

    Exactly!!!!!!! For some reason we as humans take moment we missed out on more serious than rejection. We will stay thinking about what could have been if we got the courage to go talk to someone. Rejection stings a little but knowing that you could've approached and never did is even worse.
    You lose some you win some, learn from your mistakes and get better!

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    Default Re: Rejection Is In Your Head - ALWAYS Go For It!

    True dat. Apparently I am more afraid of success than I am failure or rejection. I always know how to handle rejection- walk away, get mad, or give up. Doesn't matter. But when I get a chick trying to hookup with me I completely miss the buck. Or when I have the chance to close and low ball it to totally kill my chances. So you could say the worst thing is learning to handle success rather than failure. Since once you start getting somewhere you start to develop an attachment and can get hurt more than a chick you don't know.

    I don't fear rejection I have learned how to brush it off without any pain. The worst rejection though is a girl that accepted you for a while and then dropped you for seeing something you did to screw it up that's the kinda success I fear since I hold myself back from being successful since I don't want to take that leap. But I am learning how to deal guessing with success and get beyond even that barrier to good Inner Game.
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    Default Re: Rejection Is In Your Head - ALWAYS Go For It!

    What I am saying is it always shocks the hell out of me when a hot chick gives me the seal of approval or tries to hookup with me it kinda blindsides me. Like when I approach a 10 and she laughes or teases me that is totally unexpected since I was expecting to get blown off not blown out. But rejection I expect so it never catches me off guard. I just kind of hate missing the subtle hints at them wanting me to escalate since I am not always that calibrated.

    What surprises me the most is when a 10 actually is amused at my opener or entertains me. It comes as a surprise and I lose my focus. I am starting to adjust but yeah I am getting used to opening 10's. So I guess you could say a 10 had never fully blown me off but a 6 has. Now that I know this will open more 10's.
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    Love is a game that's why I don't worry about it anymore. When you let go of your feelings you find your meaning.
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    Default Re: Rejection Is In Your Head - ALWAYS Go For It!

    One great man once told me "it's better to risk everything and fail miserably than never try and wonder what if."

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    Default Re: Rejection Is In Your Head - ALWAYS Go For It!

    Quote Originally Posted by JackSarge View Post
    What I am saying is it always shocks the hell out of me when a hot chick gives me the seal of approval or tries to hookup with me it kinda blindsides me. Like when I approach a 10 and she laughes or teases me that is totally unexpected since I was expecting to get blown off not blown out. But rejection I expect so it never catches me off guard. I just kind of hate missing the subtle hints at them wanting me to escalate since I am not always that calibrated.

    What surprises me the most is when a 10 actually is amused at my opener or entertains me. It comes as a surprise and I lose my focus. I am starting to adjust but yeah I am getting used to opening 10's. So I guess you could say a 10 had never fully blown me off but a 6 has. Now that I know this will open more 10's.

    My man, beauty is just a sh!t test...don't be phased by a "10" because that puts you below her in value. I stopped using the whole scale because it shows how you view yourself in terms of her value. If she's a 10, you're saying she's above you. Drop the scale

    PS - those realizations came from reading posts on this forum. I think Elitist said the first one and I can't remember who said the stuff about the scale...
    Always leave her better than you found her.

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    Default Re: Rejection Is In Your Head - ALWAYS Go For It!

    Quote Originally Posted by Vicodin24 View Post
    My man, beauty is just a sh!t test...don't be phased by a "10" because that puts you below her in value. I stopped using the whole scale because it shows how you view yourself in terms of her value. If she's a 10, you're saying she's above you. Drop the scale

    PS - those realizations came from reading posts on this forum. I think Elitist said the first one and I can't remember who said the stuff about the scale...
    Well good advice this really helped me for what I am going through right now. I was so mad at her (my FWB) buying her a concert ticket to only have her tell me she'll meet me there then wants me to pick up one of her little BF's. I lost interest a while ago (HB9) but she keeps hitting me up on her own and I am just trying to ignore her and been inviting other chicks to no avail.

    So I found this HB10 on Tinder and through a mutual friend on FB found her on FB. Found her number online by searching her first and last name. But she never liked me on Tinder and never hit me back on the 2 messages on FB. I invited her to this concert and was planning on ditching this chick but ughh I just don't have the balls to call the HB10 and ask her out. I have no comfort and it would be so weird for her to say "Who is this?" "Jack from Tinder" she would be like WTF how did you get my number and probably feel like I was needy. So I decided to just let it go.

    Said okay to the HB9 sure I'll pick up your friend. Feel like such a little bastard. HB10's I mean are my perfect type or someone I am completely attracted to. HB9's used to rock my world but then my standards went up when they started getting needy on me and over-qualifying themselves. But I decided I need friends and I need value so I decided to do whatever the HB9 tells me to raise that value.

    And besides throwing myself headlong at a HB usually never works so...I decided to invite the HB10 to another concert I don't already have plans with someone else. But to be sure I don't think I will ever buy this HB9 (FWB) a ticket again she continually sets up group dates and avoids me when I am actually around so I am over it but just going to go with her to get her off my back.

    As for the HB10 I dunno she is incredible and I want her bad but I don't know how to get her. So I think just wait till the next concert and try to bring her out.

    As far as the rating system goes to me it is relevant because the HB10's are the ones that are the hardest to get and if I treat them like a HB9 expecting them to validate me I am always wrong. I have to go all in on them or they drop me like a hat. I can half-ass it and wait for the HB9's to come around and they are predictable but they don't think or act like the HB10's I encounter. I simply say "Hey concert go with me." to an HB9 and she is hooked off like no effort. But an HB10 only typically accepts me when I am the bomb.

    So I am not dropping the rating system but I will let off it a bit until I can figure out how to get my perfect 10 but yeah treating them like a HB9 doesn't work so "lumping them together" is not gonna fly. They want it all or nothing at all. Until I get some more results maybe I'll think differently but for now 10's are the Mythical Unicorn something I am on a quest to conquer.

    For this reason I may never become a MPUA who can bag 10's. 9's are my cup of tea and they love me but 10's are my weakness and I have no idea how to conquer them. Not saying 10's haven't tried stuff on me just saying they are the ones I am usually always the most non-congruent and the ones with I have no confidence. Maybe my confidence will improve when I learn how to game 10's but I do know not to Long-Game them this is why I invited her in spite of the plans I already had. Looks like I lost this round but gonna try a little bit later with the HB10 and see if I get anywhere...
    When you let go of your feelings you can really then embrace your surroundings
    Love is a game that's why I don't worry about it anymore. When you let go of your feelings you find your meaning.
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