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    Default The mood has vanished

    Hello Guys,

    One girl sent an email to me on Valentine's day to ask about my whereabouts. I took her number, asked her for a date, and after a little period of sickness for me and a load of text messages, we got a date and I kissed her (she put her tongue almost immediately). I couldn't fuck her because of logistic problems (and I think she was craving for it).

    She was extremeley eager to see me, always initiating the conversations, very excited on the phone, contacting me everyday while I was sick.

    We kissed on last sunday, her last day before going to vacation for a week. She continued last week to send me text messages everyday telling me about everything about her trip, night and day. But I got bored with all that texting, I had other things to take care of. So I nicely told her to enjoy her vacation and I delayed a few responses in order to keep her apart.

    By friday she stopped texting me. She replies when I text her, but the responses are delayed and the mood has just vanished (although she's not cold at all). I think I have killed it. I have been inconsistent with myself.

    Is there anything to do ? And if not, what could have been done better ?

    Thank you for your answers.

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    Default Re: The mood has vanished

    Yo Blue Dragon,

    Firstly, sounds like you have a class 5 clinger on your hands. They're really not worth the sex.

    Secondly, I'm going to assume you responded to all of her texts at first, because you were excited to receive a woman's attention, then you grew tired of it and cooled off.
    You were incongruent. Her sending you all sorts of texts is kindof like a shit test to see if you'll respond to each and every one of them quickly. If you would have been cool from the start, letting her earn your interest, instead of texting her back every time she sent you a little quip about her day, you would have stood more of a chance.
    Although, I stand with my opinion that this one is a clinger and should probably be dropped.

    If she isn't a clinger, you could throw her a little cliffhanger to spark her interest again: "OMG, the craziest thing happened to me today..." When she texts you back: "OMG WHAT!?!?", just chill. Don't text back right away, and when you do text back, keep the game alive, "Let's hang out Friday at 632, I'll tell u then" boom.

    Also, don't take texting seriously. Texting is the most meaningless form of communication known to man. It's transient. It's 'throwaway'. It will always take a backseat to face-to-face communication and phone conversation.

    Check out this blog/video for more info on effective texting: How To Text Her | Jake Berreth Dating

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    Default Re: The mood has vanished

    Hello Jay Bee and to everybody who will come across this thread,

    I got a 2nd date with that woman, and I am not sure she is what you call a "clinger". I am mostly under the impression that she was playing a role in order to get my attention and to keep me under hers.

    By the way on the 2nd date she first refused to kiss me. The break in our interactions probably cooled the mood. But as soon we reached the bar (of her choice) I sat next to her and initiated flirt, kinos and kiss and it went very well.

    Then I started to escalate and put my arm around her, playing with her hair, slowly reaching the bottom of her back and touching her leg. I made a stupid comment about what she was wearing under her dress (just a thong) and then she told me "we are going to fast, I don't know you that much".

    I replied that I was very eager to know her more and while we stood next to each other she kept resisting by repeating that I was too straghtforward, that I just wanted to fuck her and so on... I realized that comfort was broken and I stopped my escalation in order to have a more conventional and friendly talk. Every time I made a C&f comment (like "You are a weirdo, you send me a mail on valentines day and say I am going to fast. Don't tell me you want marriage first") she laughed and I managed to kiss her at times although she sometimes turned her neck to refuse it.

    Then we went like that for a few minutes, she gave me a few kisses, but still refused mines, and I felt I could not go any further and then we left the bar and walked together to the subway stations holding our hands. Her grip was sometimes firm, sometimes loosy. She told me about her past life, about her studies (and asked about mine), and she seemed to expect from me to listen to it and to remind what she was saying. Then when we separated I tried another kiss and she just replied to me "Goodbye". It sounded to me something like "You are a nice guy afterall !".

    After that she sent a few funny lines about me by text and I replied to her by jokes on her.

    I think she was really interested, and not only for sex, but my overall attitude has cooled her. And even though she looks eager to see me again, I cannot help but think that I put a foot in the friendzone.

    I'm thinking about giving a last try, but I am uncertain about what to do next, so if you have any advice...

    Thank you and sorry if my post contains some text errors but English is not my natural language.

    Have a nice day.

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    Default Re: The mood has vanished

    there is lack of attention. U acted too.needy and did not let her chase you. U forced her to kiss you many times. It increased her value more and more. Let her chase you, be valm.

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    Default Re: The mood has vanished

    Thank you Dicemaster, your advice worked brillantly. But to my shame, I screwed up again.

    We got a 3rd date and I let her chase me. I sat next to her, just holding my hand around her and started casual conversation with a little tease. She initiated kisses and hands holding. The more we got confortable, the more we escalated. One hour later I was hard, my hands between her legs, smelling her hair. She made compliments about my eyes, my boldness, my wit, and I made compliments about her seduction techniques

    Then I made the dangerous move to ask her to get out from the bar and to go to her place (for logistic reasons). She immediately threw an ASD to me saying "No way, I won't fall into your trap". I was horny and about to argue but I stopped in the middle of my sentence and shut my mouth. She gave me a kiss and told me "let's go", then took my hand and we left the bar.

    While walking in the street to reach the subway station we stopped by a photobooth and made a picture of us side by side like we were a couple. Then things started to be pretty awkward. The further we were reaching the station, the more she was getting nervous and at a certain time I completely lost my thoughts. In the subway, while we were waiting for the train, she became very anxious. I tried to calm her but I was so clueless that I failed miserabily. Strangely, she was looking constantly at our picture. When the train came I took her into my arms and I kissed her (no resistance) and she told me "Go away" with a sad look on her face.

    I wonder if I have not reached something looking more or less like a LMR. I put a lot of pressure on her by letting her taking the lead to HER place and by not trying to reassure her. Complete beta attitude.

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    Default Re: The mood has vanished

    I think U was nervous, when u two were in train station.I ve been there, u failed to create to some rapport, and also comfort. All u had to do call a cab, talk about funny stuff. during this period kinos etc. Next time be more comfortable. I think u made LMR.


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