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  1. #1
    CWhit55 Guest

    Default Ex-Girl Friend Wants To Hang Out

    Not sure if this is the wrong forum to post this in, if so mods please move.

    My ex-girlfriend has agreed to hang out at my house on Monday. Nobody else will be home and it will be just us. I was texting her and the texts went something like this:

    Me: I haven't seen you in forever, we should hang out.
    Her: Yeah, sure.
    Me: How bout bowling? You can kick my ass like last time.
    Her: Noo I hate bowling.
    Me: You should come over then, watch a movie and order lunch.
    Her: No sex or anything.
    Me: I just wanna hang out.

    Etc.

    I obviously would like to sleep with her again, but I could deal with waiting some time and not sleeping with her right away. I could see getting back together with her, but my immediate goal is reconnecting talking/having sex.

    I don't wanna come off too strong, but am not too much of a p*ssy to go for it if the situation comes up. My questions are:

    What (kind of) movies would you suggest?

    What (kind of) food would you suggest?

    What would you say are some commons signs that she wants me to make a move (specifically the initial move of just making out)?

    If we do hook up how do I know (or should I even try) if she wants me to take it further?

    Also, should I make her (ask her to) pay for her food when we get lunch?

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    Default Re: Ex-Girl Friend Wants To Hang Out

    ok well obviously you guys broke up for some sort of reason. why not show her a different more fun and confident frame. instead of an unoriginal idea of food and a movie. why not put a twist on it. have a cooking contest. where the winner chooses the movie. any movie that can be found within reasonable time. i would suggest keep the limits to a video store or redbox. then put a twist on the movie. tell her it should be a movie you have both seen and the loser at one point thruout the movie gets to choose when to mute it and you guys do improv to the movies. putting what you would say for it. i would keep this to about 1-2 minutes. more than that and it ruins the fun and laughter you guys made and rather just gets boring.

    but if your not down for something as random or funny as that. then i would suggest an in between movie that is funny and a mix of ur guys taste. romantic comedies are funny. the proposal, the ugly truth, 50 first dates. sh1t like that. and as far as food. something messy. so you can flirt and be playful. one thing i like to do is tease her then maybe wipe something on her cheek. trust me most girls will flirt back and try to do it back.

    in the end it doesnt matter what you do, only how you do it. so choose something you will have fun with and then go with it. and if you dont know how to cook. no worries, i can give you the recipe for chili spices and a chili recipe that is the bomb. and with cornbread is surely to win without a doubt. :P and yes i have done this plenty of times hardly ever lost and damn was she a good cook .
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    CWhit55 Guest

    Default Re: Ex-Girl Friend Wants To Hang Out

    Thanks for the response

    I guess I should have mentioned the reason we broke up was a friend of hers liked me and would constantly talk shit about me to her and about her to me. It created a lot of Tension between us and we ended up fighting a lot and breaking up.

    We started talking again recently because the same girl told a ton (>50, a senior high school class) of girls I've never met, but were mutual friends of the girl my buddy was sleeping with, that we hooked up (not true), and so I texted her with a "story that only she would really appreciate."

    I don't have a large movie collection, and I don't drive (suspended license) so she's gonna have to drive to my place and once she's here I doubt she's gonna wanna leave. I do, however, have on demand movies and figured we could go through the movies together and find a movie we agree on. Romantic comedies are the obvious solution.

    I guess I should also have mentioned, I don't have much issue finding girls and picking them up, and I know the basics. My real issue is dealing with a girl that I've already slept with/dated and have not seen in a long time.

    I figured we could order Chinese or Italian, close delivery restaurants, sushi's always great for girls if they like it, and that we could order things we both like and share, rather than ordering two different things.

    Also, watching the movie in my room, where the only way to relax and watch the t.v. would be on my bed, next to each other, rather than in the living room, where she could theoretically sit all the way across the room from me.

    Any more suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

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    Default Re: Ex-Girl Friend Wants To Hang Out

    This has worked for me (a bit different as I was the one who broke up first)...

    1. Have her come over to your place.
    2. Make her dinner (this isn't needy - this is what guys who have their shit together do).
    3. Drink some wine.
    4. Play cards or watch a movie (I prefer cards or something where you are interacting with her).
    5. Don't make a move, and don't flirt too much - just show her you are a guy with his act together who is fun to be around.
    6. If it feels right, give her a kiss before she leaves. Be the first one to pull away.
    7. Say goodnight and let her out.

    If you can accomplish all this, you will get her back.

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    Default Re: Ex-Girl Friend Wants To Hang Out

    well said bill. i agree with this. his stuff will show a strong confident frame of a guy who has his shit together. do that and you will be set especially for the reason you guys broke up
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    Default Re: Ex-Girl Friend Wants To Hang Out

    for movies... you can go the chick flick route (anything girly or romantic or cheesy, hehe) or the horror movies route (which can still make you guys laugh)

    good luck bro.

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    Default Re: Ex-Girl Friend Wants To Hang Out

    Horror movies are great, if you watch a lot of discovery channel documentaries like me, they actually have had many specials on attraction. Horror movies are great because they increase mc3-r's. Think of it like an emotional spike.

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    Default Re: Ex-Girl Friend Wants To Hang Out

    Watch Inception or a similar movie and debate on the ending!

    haha... sorry, just joshing with crob here


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