I'm hoping this relax's some of you guys.
The first obstacle you are going to deal with in this game is Rejection, and it's going to be a re-occurring theme.
Let me tell you a story, I met a girl at the store she was at the tea section of my city's answer to "Whole Foods" , we hit it off and I asked her out. We went out for a few drinks and had a great time, I really thought she loved me and we had even made plans to go out the next day, but my work got on the way. I asked her out again later, and she actually told me that she thought I was awesome but would be perfect for her friend.
I knew where I had screwed up, I didn't strike when the iron was hot, there were some moments where I should have done more Kino but decided to wait it off but I ended up getting really tired and loosing my charm by the end of the night.
So I actually ended up doing the blind date thing and met her friend, went perfect, she asked me out by the end of the first date. Second date was this Saturday, it went great, but I was starting to loose interest and I think she was too by the end, at the end of the date she said that we would have more fun if we had some drinks later that night, I agreed, and she disappeared, obviously forever.
I honestly lost interest, but if I had wanted to take her home, I shouldn't have taken her to a restaurant where 2 ex's ended up showing up, what are going to do - probably could have damage controlled it, but you can live.
I go home and spam my friends, find a party, I am having fun there, and I meet a girl that I really like, we end up making out, exchanging numbers, went to the gym together yesterday then she came back to my house and we had sex.
The point being, at my best, its still 2 rejections for the 1 full close. The difference between me and you, I never take the concept of "its her fault" or "there is nothing to learn here" its always your fault, there is always something to learn, and through rejection you are always going to be learning. But I had a blast on every date, met a girl who is a way better match for me than either of the first two, and still closed.
You wont hear these reports from a lot of "guru's" mostly because they are great with words and presentation, and not much more, you cant be the clown on the date, and if you go from the clown to the cowboy over night it freaks them out. be true to yourself, get rejected from step 1 before you invest too much, and learn from every no.
If I am still occasionally getting blown out, then you can chill and keep learning with yours, it will never be all yes, and it wouldn't be fun if it were anyway.