(kinda long, sorry)
Background - Just got divorced, just started traveling, more interested in finding gf types for a few weeks, maybe traveling together longer, not just random pickups
So go to the bar last night for party, ended up talking a cute girl next to me all during dinner, for several hours at the bar after, then back at my place where we came to smoke. Interaction went exceptionally well, tons of Kino, no awkwardness, sexual innuendo, lots in common.
We hang out on the porch here, not very good for kino as we're in big separate chairs. Doesn't seem like the jump in bed type, so I'm not sure what to do. She eventually says she's tired and asks me to walk her back to the hotel.
Decide to escalate a little as we made plans for the next day to hang out, I put my hand on her stomach and go in for a kiss slowly. She doesn't stop me, but turns her head down a little and isn't coming towards me so I stop right in front for a sec, and say "no?". She says she doesn't want to do something she regrets. I want to keep it going instead of blowing out, so I play it down. She gives me a long hug instead (didn't feel like a friend hug) and kiss her on the forehead. Walk her back, talk a little longer, email exchange, another hug and peck and done for the night.
Today, she comes down, but it's not the same as last night. I go for a hug at the door and it's reserved. We go hiking and eat (I don't pay for her). There's a little kino, some from her, but not at all like last night. Conversation never stops once again, but not as playful. She tells me about a lover in another country that won't work out.
We talk about doing several things together in the next couple weeks. I'm not sure if I should try to escalate again or not, not sure if her stopping on the trail is supposed to be an opening, and not really wanting uncomfortable, so decide I'll try to again when we get back to my place to pick up her stuff (she has to go on to her next village across the lake). But, she checks her email and gets an upsetting email, starts talking about how her dad died a year ago and gets choked up. Try to give her a comforting hug, it turned into one of those one arm things. Figuring this isn't the best time.
Boats stop early on Sun, so I walk her down. We make plans to hang with one of my buddies tomorrow in her new town at 3p tomorrow, which only gives me about 4 hours there before the last boat.
So, I'm falling into the friend trap right? Plgh. I've got a very narrow window tomorrow and it seems that tomorrow might be my last shot at turning this around.
What do I do??? She's only here for a couple weeks, so I don't have a lot of time to mess around. Should I try to ramp it up tomorrow? Maybe just tell her I'm not looking for friends but would to be more with her? Email her that? I really like her and could definitely see meeting up with her again, traveling together. (we're both traveling for a year plus). She's the only girl I've talked to here that I actually liked.
Would REALLY appreciate any help here. Any pointers on what I should have done differently today would be great too.