I have known this woman for a while, about 1 year – she has a boyfriend. Anyway, I have been "dating" her for a while now – we always go for lunch, at least once a week, on a somewhat secluded restaurant where it will be unlikely that any of our acquaintances will find us. We always sit side by side and discuss everything: our dreams, expectations, our childhood, etc. And she frequently complains about her boyfriend. The chemistry is superb!
On the physical escalation side, everything has been going very slow – so far she initiates hugs with me and I always kiss her on the cheek. I touch her inner thigh; hold her in my arms occasionally, etc.
I have tried to escalate more, but she will not reciprocate – she actually freezes - sometimes she even tries to slow things down a bit.
However, she frequently looks for me, and bumps into me every now and then at our workplace – we are co-workers.
Once I told her that, whenever her boyfriend would go on a trip, we would then have a lot of fun together (in a naughty manner). She did not say anything.
Indeed, her boyfriend went away recently for about a month. During this time however, she flaked on me twice and kind of avoided me. Immediately upon his return, however, she resumed looking for me and bumped into me at least five times during a single day.
Ok, if she does not want to hook up with me, why does she constantly look for me now? And why does she agree to go out with me on lunch dates?
What is going on and what can I do to step up the process and smoothly close her?
What can I do to go from an emotional affair to a full blown sexual affair, if she keeps not reciprocating and sometimes even pressing the brakes?