Guys i've had a lot of problemes with this in the past but i read different routines and patterns and styles of doing it until i came up with my own routine. Now u should know that it differs from the kind of relationship, u can't use the same BFD on a girl who's been with a guy for a year and a girl that's been with a guy for a month.
That beeing said, u should NEVER EVER speak badly about the BF that will only get the HB in a deffensive and agressive state and u will be bringing them closer together. Instead u speak highly of him describe him as beeing the most perfect man/BF in the world then something strange will happen she will start disqualifing him(don't worry if she only says one bad thing it's enough) thats when u resist the urge to disqualify him again and u DEFEND him in a way making him the insecurist persone in the hole world, u need to go total AFC to do this.
All LTR's have 1 or all of theese problemes:
-Failure to commit
-Loss of passion
This is how u respond to theese 5 problemes:
"You have to understand that this guy really appreciates you, because you're probably the best girl that he ever got, or ever will get. I know that... you care about this guy (maybe sp)... but there's just a certain equilibrium where if you've done this guy a favour by being with him and he's not equipped to handle it, since he knows that he'll never get a girl like you again if he walks out, that he's just constantly frustrated and panicked that you'll leave. It's not his fault.
"You've got to understand that for this guy you are his entire world. He cares about you so much, that everything else in the world is meaningless to him. You are his only source of pleasure, and without you he knows that. ..he's nothing. You can't blame him, he just doesn't have anything else going for him, so he needs you."
Failure to commit:
"It's not that this guy doesn't love you. He does. Its just that deep down he has a fear that... you're too good for him... and that you'll realize it and be like, you know....you just have to dump this guy.... and then he'll be left emotionally destroyed because he made himself vulnerable. Yes yes I know that you wouldn't do that to him, but its just that with he knows that you could get other guys (SP)...like me...I just think that he's not an emotionally secure person, and you've gotta cut him some slack."
"It's not that this guy doesn't love you. Its that he loves you too much, and just can't handle it. He's not emotionally available, and because he knows that you're the best he's ever had, he can't handle all of these things that he's going through emotionally. All his life he probably wasn't very good with women, and women weren't interested in him.. So now that he's got this girl, he doesn't know how to handle it.
Being too predictable, not passionate:
"Its not that this guy doesn't love you. He does. Its just that he's so comfortable with you now.. and feels so close to you, that you're more like a sister to him.. Like a special sister, but someone who he doesn't feel that he has to do all these things for anymore, because your relationship is so secure and so predictable.. there's no need for all that excitement, because he knows that nothing will change.. Some guys deal with true love that way.. I dunno, for me, I think that if you really love someone, you have to keep it fresh. But really, its not that he doesn't love you, its just that he loves you so much that he doesn't see the need."
Then she'll start asking u what u would do if u were in his place or what u're like as a BF that's when u tell her i mean REALLY tell her what u're like leaving the bad stuff aside. U'll start creeping inside her head and taking this guy's place.
I prefer all this be said and done in 1 sitting i know it's a mouthfull but still. Here's how i once did it to an ENGAGED SHB 10 yrs my senior and she teaches at my uni:
We were walking side by side and then i started
Xavier: What's u're fiancee like anyway we've never talked about him, why do i get the feeling he's the most perfect guy in the world
SHB stopped dead in her tracks and said : No he's not perfect
Xavier: Oh come on now u're just beeing modest i bet he's tall broad shoulders has 8 packs beautifull eyes thick hair and that he's the envy of all u're friends.
SHB: (nothing just looking at the ground confused)
Xavier: I bet he gives plenty of just because gifts and all of them are very expensive and or very thoughtfull .He makes u feel safe, he always takes care of u never looks at other women, why i'd be willing to bet a million doolars that if Jessica Alba were to offer him a SNL and no one would ever no he would refuse
SHB: I don't know, i don't think so
Xavier: Why? cuz he's jealous, needy,.......(i used failure to commit cuz they went out for 2 yrs and she pressured him into marriage and he had been putting it off)
SHB: (starting to get that deffensive look)
Xavier: Guess what? That means he loves u .
SHB: (stunned look on her face)
Continued with the same lines tweeked the a failure to commit little cuz she's engaged, described myself as a boyfriend, used the Pandora's Box lines on her and BOOM. We broke up a couple of month ago but still, i got her and farked the sh1t out of her and her massive tits just like i always wanted to.