As title says.
I realized recently that by becoming more and more independent, I ended up closing myself a lot.
I know a lot of people, and consider I have a lot of friends. I do a lot of activities, and in most of them, as in at work, or in classes, or in parties, I know everyone, they are all my buddies and everything.
Thing is, I chat with them, have fun, but never really talk about my stuff. They all consider I have my personal life, and they're not supposed to ask, and I see it the same way. They talk about their stuff, but I don't.
The problem being that once I'm outside of these, I'm just by myself. I don't give my number to anyone of these guys, and I don't take theirs, so I end up hanging out by myself.
I kind of like that, and I enjoy walking down the city streets, getting a coffee, etc, but in the end I realize that I'm a solitary wolf, not an alpha wolf. It's especially problematic when I have a gf, as I'm always by myself, which looks quite antisocial,but also because I have no idea how to deal with someone wanting to share stuff/life/schedules/etc
I'm not sure what my question is, but would you have advice? Is it a normal step on becoming alpha, or did I end up on a totally different track? How do I change that?