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    Default How to not win her back and let go.

    Just in the little bit of time watching this forum and then joining, I've noticed the same type of post again and again. Guy's who are heartbroken and want that one girl back. They will invariably go into a big explanation about their ex, and will ask for advise on how to get her back. And honestly the best thing they could do would be to let go and move on, (LGAMO). It's cruel, cold, heartless advice for the brokenhearted. Hell, I'm not even sure how to do it! But it must be done. If not for you then for your future girl, children relationships. I know, I have been there. I have wasted a lot of time, and destroyed good relationships, because I held on to something that was flawed from the beginning. Granted I think a lot of these guys are not as thick in the head as me, but if there is one guy that decides to actively do whatever to let go then great! Okay I'm rambling. What I'd love is for you experienced guys to give up some tricks on how you let go or moved on from that one girl whom a different you might of said got away. The floor is open. Good luck, and good vibes. Ciao, FauxPas.

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    Default Re: How to not win her back and let go.

    No contact works like a charm. I have been through several break-ups in my life-time and this rule has saved my ass. Also, the best way to get over somebody is to get under or on top of someone else! Work out, hang with close friends or family, and listen to music.

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    Default Re: How to not win her back and let go.

    FauxPas,

    Bro' this is gonna sound cliche'd. PUAs will have a better chance of letting go because they have educated themselves. So education re relationship dynamics and oneitis. This will lead to awarness and awarness is the key.

    Being aware that you are suffering from oneitis, being aware of the theory that it is better to use your head than your heart. Being aware that oneitis is realy just an infatuation and doesn't really exist. Being aware of forums like this so you have a support structure to get the right kind of advice.

    Hope this helps
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    Default Re: How to not win her back and let go.

    I just broke up with my nice HB9.5 two weeks ago, though I felt I love her. but that relationship was started at the time when I had no PUA skills, I did everything a man possibily can do to kill the attraction in the eyes of a woman and because of that It was hard for me to keep that relationship going. so I broke her loose and my mind is now free of burden for hooking up with new ones.

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    Default Re: How to not win her back and let go.

    The thing is I was there too. I had so much advise from everyone that met my ex that I should brake up with her but I didn't listen. Then we she broke up with me I had advise that I should let go but I didn't. If you are in "love" you aren't going to listen to anyone. Even if you know it'd better that way.

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    Default Re: How to not win her back and let go.

    FauxPas here. Hey a big thanks to all who have stopped by and a real big thanks to those who have posted/added. Thank You!!!! And those stopping by please add! One for all, all for one! Good luck, and good vibes. Ciao, FauxPas.

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    Default Re: How to not win her back and let go.

    Good post, FauxPas.

    I wrote this a while back. Seems that we are on the same wavelength.
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    Default Re: How to not win her back and let go.

    Quote Originally Posted by Coze View Post
    The thing is I was there too. I had so much advise from everyone that met my ex that I should brake up with her but I didn't listen. Then we she broke up with me I had advise that I should let go but I didn't. If you are in "love" you aren't going to listen to anyone. Even if you know it'd better that way.
    ^This. That's the main issue in my opinion. It's emotion stuff, you can't control it. You can learn how to deal with it, keep it in check, but at the end of the day it still affects you.

    Like to be honest, I got dumped 3 weeks ago by a girl. I liked what we had, but it was nothing exceptional (and sex kind of sucked haha). Despite that, I can't help but hope to get her back, and think about it at least once every 3-4 days. The thing is, do I want to date her? Nope, I don't think so. Would I go back with her if I had the option? I would hesitate, but I would end up doing it yeah. Even though I know it would end badly. Probably a need for closure.

    I read somewhere than men are actually more romantic than women, more idealistic about love, more reluctant to break up, more depressed after a break-up, and so on... And I seriously believe it to be absolutely true.

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    Default Re: How to not win her back and let go.

    Truly after reading posts with regards to this subj, and tryin to give advice to someone I ended up sending a text to two exes(I like to really fuck things up simetimes lol) anyway as soon as I did I realized that you can't allow your emotions control you. One of them replied and I deleted her reply because honestly there is no point.

    At the end of the day we must remember why we join forums such as this one. When I was with these ladies I had no skills(not saying now Im the shit) but at least no Im consious of what Im doing and when things don't go as planned I adjust for fire and fire again.

    I guess the point is we have to remember that yes we loved these ladies from the past, but maybe we were a tad hooked on them because like it has been metioned in previous posts we weren't males with many choices or felt capable of making shit we wanted happen, instead guys like myself just took whatever we landed and ran as far as we could with it.

    At the end of the day here we are now and we have to remember where we were and how far we have gone. When my ex replied I felt no joy, no inner desire to reply back right away. I felt nothing. The only thing it did was remind me that Im a better man now and that I have a choice. Either mope around about someone who wasnt right for me, or interact with as many gorgeous ladies out there till I find the right now for me which I will choose because I wanted to. Not because she was what I just happen to catch.

    Just my personal thoughts.
    To my bros who served with me.
    "When it comes your time to die, be not like those whose hearts are filled with the fear of death, so that when their time comes they weep and pray for a little more time to live their lives over again in a different way. Sing your death song and die like a hero going home.


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