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    Skithiryx is offline PUA in Training
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    Default How did you all become happy with yourselves?

    Now I heard that a great couple consists of two complete souls, and not two half souls that would "complete" each other. But in order to be a complete soul you have to be pleased about yourself. Is this true, and what do you guys think about this?

    I currently have an inner game issue. Even though I have the best body around and a lot of girls are scared to death of my good looks, I am just not happy with myself. Do you people have advice for me so that I can fix this attitude of mine?

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    Default Re: How did you all become happy with yourselves?

    In order to solve inner game issues, a deeper emotional circuitry rewiring is required as opposed to a temporary 'quick fix'. Listening to motivational tapes, confidence seminars, confidence building tapes, etc will only mask a more complicated problem.

    First of all, everyone experiences this; some more often then others, but nevertheless we are all human. Depending on why you are not happy with yourself will stem from a certain point of view of yourself. It is easy to say, "well don't think of yourself that way" or "think of yourself as ... or as having...". These will not trick a simple mind. One must reframe (jeffries) themselves in the way they want to see themselves and this can be done in many different ways such as affirmations, broadening or narrowing your point of view, or even changing a lifestyle focus.

    It is hard to diagnose the problem and provide a solution with the information given. If you care to elaborate i'm sure we're all here to help a brother out.

    As for your first paragraph, the whole souls completing one another is beyond me. However, in order to have strong game, you need an even stronger frame (aka inner game, confidence, etc..).

    Hope this helps

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    Default Re: How did you all become happy with yourselves?

    Hi Skithiryx, I understand exactly where your coming from. My cousin is so good looking everywhere we go, even during the day, women will approach him! He isnt very confident, and doesnt know how to handle this, I have lost count of the number of times I have had women say to me "is he for real or is he joking around", they cant believe someone so good looking can have such little confidence!

    Inner game is the key for success and happiness in all area's of your life, most of this is developed through experience and NOT through programs, like SvenGali pointed out. From personal experience I can say, this generally can confuse you more. Get out there, mingle, prove to yourself you dont need other peoples approval and that you are already complete exactly the way you are - its just a matter of believing it, and you will develop your inner game. If anyone does happen to know a good inner game product though I would love to hear about it. The only good inner game products I know are ones that get you to do exercises, such as badboy lifestyle getting you out into the field and slowly in a step by step process develop yourself from the ground up, or hypnotica's collection of confidence, both which I would recommend, but only if your willing to follow the steps and put yourself out there in the face of rejection.

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    Default Re: How did you all become happy with yourselves?

    Thank you for the replies; I had the feeling that no one would understand. So I now decided that I'm going to talk everyone I see from now and not just certain people. But, Penticle, are you serious that your cousin is that good looking? I've never had a single woman approach me before in my life.

    @SvenGali: One reason I'm not happy with myself is because I am currently in college and working at age 24. I see people I have known before who have already finished their schooling at age 21, and for some reason I am genuinely jealous of them. I even see some people who seem to be living in a fairy tale (if you want more info on this just ask). I had no clue that there were actually people on this planet that hand things handed to them on a silver platter. However! I don't mind life being a challenge. If something isn't difficult, then it is no fun to me at all.

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    Default Re: How did you all become happy with yourselves?

    Dude I know where you are coming from. I'm 31 yrs and old and not a bar looking guy for what I been told through my life. At times I landed chics and wondered how the hell I did it. I'm relatively sucessful in the military. What I am trying to get at is that even though I have ass tons of things going for me I still suffer from some type of inner issue shit that drives me crazy.

    One thing though like it has been previously mentioned is that you need to reach past your comfort zone. Or as I just recently read in a book "lean past it" till your comfortable and then lean some more.

    Myself I am fixing to start that one deal called Demonic Confidence and I will post it so maybe you can read it once I start. This is way past what I normally do so it will be a challenge but fuck it, got nothing better to do but to challenge myself some more so we will see what happens.

    Chin up bro! We are all here for similar reasons so you are not alone in this shit!

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    Default Re: How did you all become happy with yourselves?

    Skithiryx, FauxPas here! Real simple. Hard to actually admit. Up until 3 months ago I would dare say, you would have a hard time ever meeting anyone as angry, and negative towards myself and everyone. I still deal with it but at a far lower level! My exercise, to myself...." No negatives, no negatives". Anytime a negative enters my minds thoughts, this is what I say. If you are anything like my friends, you will pass your friends up. I was making pretty good money while my buddies were in college. When they came home I'd play big shot, I'd buy them food give them a couple of bucks, and of course buy drinks, I bought a lot of drinks!! Within 7 years they had passed me at such a speed I didn't even see the dust! I'm still dear friends with them all. I only say this to remind you to keep your eyes on the prize! You're going to do well young man, you will do well. Good luck, good vibes. Ciao, FauxPas.

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    Default Re: How did you all become happy with yourselves?

    Hi Skithiryx, Yes he is that good looking and when we go out he has a constant stream of women taking action to flirt and get to know him. Maybe your not as good looking as you claim to be if women dont approach you! LOL just teasing.

    I am confused though about your inner game proble, you mentioned you had a problem with inner game in regards to attracting women, but when you elaborated you said it had to do with issues you have with college and still working at 24? Are you saying that how you feel about college is related to how you feel about what women think about you? If it is, I am here to tell you, it doesnt matter, women (for the most part) do not care how old you are, or even what your studying, and how long its taking, all they care about is how you make them feel, if you can show them a good time, if your fun and confident. Forget about where your at in college, girls will like you for you, not these external factors that are meaningless. Think about it, when you go to a club, and your with friends, and your having fun with friends, does you having fun and enjoying yourself have anything to do with what car your friend drives, what job he has, or what he is studying? NO! Why do you think women are any different :-)

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    Default Re: How did you all become happy with yourselves?

    I thought that this is an inner game issue. Don't we need confidence to have a solid inner game? Don't we need a solid inner game before we sarge? The Mindset I posted earlier was ruining my confidence, which then lowers the quality of my game.

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    Default Re: How did you all become happy with yourselves?

    Here just out this post of mine Inner Game Landmark .

    I was at this same spot a little while around for a week or two. Like some of the others have said everyone here goes through this you just need to take time for you and to contemplate what your true needs and wants are. Don't think of what you need to do to impress anyone just think what you need to do to make you happy. It won't come to you instantly but one day you'll get it and snap out of your slump. In being alpha were constantly watching out for the rest of the group and our actions so sometimes we need to check in on ourselves. Once you figure it out reward yourself and go snag a 10
    In life you get what you put into it.

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    Default Re: How did you all become happy with yourselves?

    Well, good thing is that 1 - you know what you feel bad about and 2 - you want to fix it. It's better than 90% of the people who feel not confident as a whole, and feel ok with it

    And let's be honest, I don't know any human being who doesn't have down moments, they always come back. brain is quite a b!tch, always taking us back to the things we don't like about ourselves. Whether you start comparing yourself to your most well-off friends, or realizing your great ex found a better looking than you bf the day after dumping you, you can't help but go back to these moments

    The difference is that we take them, and build upon them, we check what we don't like, and improve it; and I think it's a great thing


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