I've come across this problem a couple of times in my life. The first time it happened was in high school. And now it seems like it's happening again.
The best way I can describe it is this; I have two modes. One we'll call Bandit. The smooth talking, charismatic charmer who can win over people on the street. The other is just the normal me. I say the other one is normal simply because it's been there the longest, I consider both to be just as real.
Here's the problem. I can't seem to break away from people's view of me. I guess you could say I'm trapped in their frame. Once they see me in a certain way, I have a hard time breaking away from it. If they meet me while I'm being Bandit, then that's who I am around them if I ever see them again. But if they meet me when I'm in my normal state, then I'm stuck with that. I know, the solution would be to just act like Bandit all the time, but that's really draining for me. And it's driving me insane. Cause all my current friends here at this summer job just see me as a normal guy and I know that I'm not. I'm better than that, but every time I try to show them I get locked up. I need some advice. I don't know how to break out of this frame I'm trapped in. I want to merge the two personalities so that I can be charming and charismatic to everyone. Has anyone ever had this problem before?