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    Default Virgil's Journal 6

    Hey guys,

    It's only been three days since I wrote Journal number five, but I'm about to make some important changes in my life and those are worthy of their own journal.

    My old self had a lot of positive traits that I've taken along with my new self:

    -Love and affection;
    -A really good heart;
    -Very hardworking for things I really wanted to achieve.



    Now I've developed some new positive traits through PUA:

    -More outgoing;
    -No longer afraid of social interactions;
    -Dare to say what is on my mind;
    -Understanding of people and interactions.



    So that's good stuff. However I am still being held back. That's why I'm declaring war on the negative traits my old self. They're still in there in the following forms:

    -Video game addiction;
    -Feeling of worthlessness;
    -Sleeping problems;
    -Lack of taking care of myself.

    This is all connected to that one negative trait: the video game addiction that has left an enormous mark on my life. I'm not talking about 'addicted' like your nephew playing three or four hours a day. I'm talking 'addicted' as in 'it's all I think about and I play whenever I have time - for years and years.' On June 20th, 1992, my parents gave me a Nintendo and that's when it started. Combined with being bullied in both primary and high school, the role of video games in my life got completely out of control and I can safely say I was addicted to them. My mom even wanted to send me to a rehab clinic.

    For the last couple of years, video game problems have been turning on and off. I've tried to quit a couple of times, and succeeded for weeks or even months, but would always relapse in the end.

    Let me tell you that this determines a lot of stuff in my life. I don't think a video game addiction is to be regarded as less dangerous and influential than a harddrug addiction. It destroys your social interactions, brings huge work/school problems, makes you look like sh1t, takes all of your free time and it actually has an effect on the consciousness. I have often felt like a zombie walking around and people got annoyed with me not remembering anything and not seeing anything going on around me. Furthermore, it made me neglect myself and my surroundings. At times, it has taken me months to go see the doctor or get necessary stuff done just because I felt like nothing mattered but gaming. It filled up so much of my life I still don't really understand how 'normal' people really live without that filling up their time. Also, I had built up a really muscular body, which took me months. I was proud of it but have shrunk a lot because video gaming has often replaced workouts and the last couple of months I've only been going once or twice a week - if I went at all.

    So it's obvious why I want to cast out video games from my life entirely. A couple of months ago I've taken the first step by selling my Xbox 360. Tomorrow I will delete Windows off my computer (I use that for games and Linux Ubuntu for all other things) so that will be taken care of as well. I will also think of what to do with the remaining old consoles and games.

    When I started learning about PUA, I started to take really good care of myself. I always had my hair well cut, bought neat clothes and made sure I had a healthy tan. At this moment I have neglected all of those things and I will once again start to take good care of myself. I will clean up my room and make sure it will remain tidy and clean. I will also spend more time on learning for school and learning Spanish.

    So basically I am starting my War of Independence from video gaming. After I get that part of my life straight, I will devote myself fully to PUA. I will sign my Declaration of Independence when:

    -I haven't gamed in 2 months. Not one second;
    -I look well taken care of;
    -My room is clean and tidy;
    -I passed the test I have next month so I won't get kicked out of college (see Journal 5);
    -I am skilled enough in the practise of PUA to get laid off it.

    It's time to put all this in a higher gear. It's been one-and-a-half years since I read 'The Game' and decided to become a PUA. I immediately planned to write my own book about my adventures and become a guru but at this rate I'm not going to get anywhere. Like I said in Journal 1, this journal came in existence because I wanted to write a PUA book on myself, which turned into a daily journal, which turned into these journals. I've always wanted to become successful at something I enjoyed and have tried so with multiple things (like pro gaming) but this is the first time I feel like I could get anywhere. It's going to take me at least a year to become good enough to put anything on paper, though, so that's for a far later concern. Right now I wish the best of luck to those who are that far - Cody and Suave Kino.

    So there's a bright future ahead of me. I realize I sound negative and depressing lately, but I'm working hard on that. You're going to have to forgive me for now.

    Thanks for reading, guys!

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    Default Re: Virgil's Journal 6

    I can only approve and applause, I've the same problem, and have tried to give it up often, with no success. I'm mostly worried by the time it takes.

    Once, after a martial art class, I was talking with one of the teacher - they're all 100% asian, and have a different outlook on life that I really like
    Him: "Tired heh? So what are you going to do today? Sleep?"
    Me: "Nah, probably watch some movies, play some games..."
    Him: "Yeah, that's what I said, sleeping "

    That just blew my mind. It is sleeping. It is as productive, as enriching, than sleeping. All these years I was taking pride in sleeping only 6 hours a night, but gaming 10 hurs a day, I was just sleeping 16 hours, and wasting my life.

    So as I said, I'm still doing it, more than I would like. I feel it is a way for me to preserve my sanity, but it is still a weakness anyway. But I believe it is extremely important for everyone to limit this kind of stuff, so again, congrats for your strength and initiative on that one.

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    Default Re: Virgil's Journal 6

    I'm pulling for you Virgil. You can do this.

    I also used to game a lot as well. After my first semester in college I realized that if I wanted to be successful I would have to quit the video games. I sold/gave away all of my gaming systems. It sucked hardcore for a week, but then I started reading and just became all around more productive. Now I'm glad that I get so much stuff done and "have the time" to learn random things that I never knew before.

    It's just funny now because when I hear guys talk about gaming I automatically assume they're talking women.
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    Default Re: Virgil's Journal 6

    Dude hang in there, hopefully you are doing good. It will suck at first but the feeling of satisfaction will feel much better!

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    Default Re: Virgil's Journal 6

    Virgil, whats the official language of the Netherlands? Would I be able to sarge there?

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    Default Re: Virgil's Journal 6

    Quote Originally Posted by Suave Kino View Post
    Virgil, whats the official language of the Netherlands? Would I be able to sarge there?
    Our official language is Dutch, but you'd be able to sarge since we're all taught English starting at the senior year of primary school nowadays. Don't expect a lot of people to be fluent, but you'll be able to make an understandable conversation with women.

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    Default Re: Virgil's Journal 6

    I was a game addict too, but it was about 3 year ago, I was used to waste 6-7 hours a day doing online games and such.
    but currently I work 9 hours a day, 6 days a week, I was once a workoholic, until 2 months ago I used to work 12 hours a day 7 days of week :|, I was always tired, my mind always was occupied with work so my conversations with my gf was boring as hell, and she lost interest in me very fast and left me. it shooked me so much and I decided to reduce my working hours and spend more time for myself.

    I'm tempted to write my own journal too.


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