Looking for advice…
I've got a Mindset challenge. I feel that if I sleep with a woman, I've made some kind of commitment or obligation. Dunno where this comes from, but it's the programming in my head. I find it hard to believe a woman will sleep with me without expecting commitment – that if I get her into bed, I have to go into boyfriend mode. The whole sex without commitment thing does not come easily for me.
I don't get how to be a sex partner only as opposed to a nice guy. I get attached easily. So I also have a tremendous fear of being trapped in a relationship that I don't want, and get freaked out by intimacy as it feels like a potential trap. This is leading, unfortunately, to avoidance of nice experiences and opportunities because I'm afraid I won't be able to extricate myself once I've been intimate.
Any suggestions/resources on how to unpack this mindset? Anyone else dealt with these issues successfully?