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    Default Letting her down gently/ dumping a girl

    If you get a reputation around your area it can only make it harder to pick up girls. PUAs sleep with loads of girls so I'm surprised there isnít more advice on how to let them down gently as you move on to the next one. When I have managed to break it off with a girl in a nice way its always been really cool and beneficial for me and my social circle. I donít want girls to be pissed off with me after I stop seeing them, talking badly about me to mutual friends or making me feel awkward in town or at a club - it will mess with my game. Does anyone have any advice or stories they want to share on this tricky subject? It would be cool if anyone had any great non-cheesy lines or even a stock text message.

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    Default Re: Letting her down gently/ dumping a girl

    This is a good idea for a thread!

    I recently had to cut ties with a girl who was getting waaaaay to clingy & possessive really quickly.

    It ended up a bit messy & not so smooth.

    I was completely honest & tried to be gentle about it, but I think the main this was, she got super-attached emotionally.

    But I agree that getting some input from others here, could be mutually beneficial!


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    Default Re: Letting her down gently/ dumping a girl

    Hey Cascadingsun,

    You have a good point. I'm actually still good friends (minus the occasional psycho) with most of the women I have been sexually involved with. I'll see what I can do about writing a thread on this. Good idea.

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    Default Re: Letting her down gently/ dumping a girl

    Some good pointers on exit game Cody.

    Its a bit clichťd but when you say, "I donít think we should see each other again" and she wants to know why 'spark' is a good word to use. Its soooo vague, it could be describing anything. Its an answer that doesnít really say anything too specific.

    "I think the spark is gone." Translation: I'm not attracted to you any more/ you are crazy and terrifying/ I'm bored and want to get with your best friend/sister.

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    Default Re: Letting her down gently/ dumping a girl

    Tmalonetn I agree its the girls emotions that rule it. The time that I had a mutual break up with an ex girlfriend it was because she saw herself that something wasnít working and chose not to carry it on as well. She came to the same conclusion I did. Thatís something very difficult to do unless you start acting like a dick on purpose. It was because she and I both needed to be single again and have our own space. I'm sure there are some things you could start slipping into conversation when you start to think you might move on that would give her hints of how you're feeling and give her time to make up her own mind not to stay committed or fixated on you.

    The one line I remember specifically was when I was talking about my future kids (this was a LTR - I don't have kids yet) in a way that made it obvious I didnít think we were going to have kids together. I was talking about a future where we werenít together. A lot of the time couples talk about shared futures and plan their future lives together. Imagining that shared future is kind of what keeps them invested in each other sometimes.

    I am now just casually seeing a few girls and if I wanted to loose one perhaps I could start talking about a future where weren't meeting up any more or about her being with someone else instead. Any thoughts anyone?


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