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Thread: The Ups and Downs of Pickup

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    Default The Ups and Downs of Pickup

    Hey, guys
    We all know that their are ups and downs as we become better. You fall down then after a while your game turns around then you fall again. In general you get better, but I got to say I've fallen pretty far this time.

    Ok, I've gotten pretty complacent over the girls I have. I've collected a fair ammount and lost alot of them perfecting my midgame. I got solid in that department and now I have 2 girlfriends but honestly. I haven't been approaching like I used to, I've turned totally AFC and I can't break out of this slump. I've been stuck in it for a little over a couple of weeks and I'm just trying to get my head on straight.

    I might read some of my old posts to reboot some of my old mindsets about the game. This feeling that I'm stuck hitting my head against the same wall is aggravating. This is the first time in a while that I haven't felt myself progressing and becoming better. I need help what do you guys say to fix this. You guys are the only people I feel that are equipped to fix this.
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    Default Re: The Ups and Downs of Pickup

    You seem to have much more experience than I do but I'm curious. What's your goal? Cultivate the 2 relationships or go out single again?

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    Default Re: The Ups and Downs of Pickup

    Make yourself get out there, and make yourself open

    This forum here - is not particularly insightful, but I was there just a few weeks ago
    http://www.puaforums.com/pick-up-fie...-fix-soon.html

    It will come back to you if you are opening. You're getting stuck on something you used to be comfortable with, you're the one that needs to evaluate what that is

    My guess - you've stopped trying so hard now that you have 2 girls

    Nothing wrong with that, but it's up to you where you want to be

    Good luck
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    Default Re: The Ups and Downs of Pickup

    the hard time for me is finding time, but still plugging away

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    Default Re: The Ups and Downs of Pickup

    I never really understand what you guys mean by "finding time" or "I have stopped approaching." I'm not trying to be disrespectful, I just legitimately don't get it.

    I don't intentionally sarge. I never go out with the sole intent of picking up women. Admittedly, I am in college so that does ease things, but even so I predominantly don't pick up women on campus (most just aren't in the right headspace. I have the same thoughts about FB.) I love picking up girls via extended social circles, clique bridges, and cold approaches when out and about (shopping, dining, etc.) But I'm not at The Cup (a favorite local coffee shop) to pick up girls; I'm at The Cup because I'm a busy man and have a sh*t ton of work to do. I'm pushing 24 hours and coffee is the only way I'm not going to crash before meeting deadlines. So I type, sip my coffee, look up, and see a girl. I'm out, I'm back, and I jump right back into writing.

    I don't think you should only be sarging up the mall, especially solo or with a wing. That's just creepy and weird.

    ...mostly weird.
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    Default Re: The Ups and Downs of Pickup

    Quote Originally Posted by DareMe View Post
    You seem to have much more experience than I do but I'm curious. What's your goal? Cultivate the 2 relationships or go out single again?
    my goals are very specific.
    A) I want to have a group of hb10s that are constantly fighting for my attention.
    B) be the alpha dog of this group
    C) Be able to have sex at what ever time I want to with any of them.
    There a little extravagent but then again. Like making money, you get what you believe you deserve.

    Quote Originally Posted by The Red Baron View Post
    Make yourself get out there, and make yourself open

    This forum here - is not particularly insightful, but I was there just a few weeks ago
    http://www.puaforums.com/pick-up-fie...-fix-soon.html

    It will come back to you if you are opening. You're getting stuck on something you used to be comfortable with, you're the one that needs to evaluate what that is

    My guess - you've stopped trying so hard now that you have 2 girls

    Nothing wrong with that, but it's up to you where you want to be

    Good luck
    No I totally agree with what you are saying. I've been contemplating getting rid of one of them so I can push myself a little harder and get out of this comfortable situation. thx, it means alot listenning to somebody whose been in my situation. I thought my issue would be an isolated incident.

    Quote Originally Posted by Cody View Post
    I never really understand what you guys mean by "finding time" or "I have stopped approaching." I'm not trying to be disrespectful, I just legitimately don't get it.

    I don't intentionally sarge. I never go out with the sole intent of picking up women. Admittedly, I am in college so that does ease things, but even so I predominantly don't pick up women on campus (most just aren't in the right headspace. I have the same thoughts about FB.) I love picking up girls via extended social circles, clique bridges, and cold approaches when out and about (shopping, dining, etc.) But I'm not at The Cup (a favorite local coffee shop) to pick up girls; I'm at The Cup because I'm a busy man and have a sh*t ton of work to do. I'm pushing 24 hours and coffee is the only way I'm not going to crash before meeting deadlines. So I type, sip my coffee, look up, and see a girl. I'm out, I'm back, and I jump right back into writing.

    I don't think you should only be sarging up the mall, especially solo or with a wing. That's just creepy and weird.

    ...mostly weird.
    It took me a second to understand exactly what your getting across, but I agree. I only pick up girls in my everyday life. The reason I get girls from the mall is because I work in the mall. I love the idea that your putting across, that we shouldn't seperate pickup from our lives.

    But at the same time. I will take out newbies sometimes for the strict purpose of teaching them a thing or two. To go out sarging. I feel its sometimes easier for the ones that are just starting out to do it if they go out for the strict purpose of doing it. People like you and me usually don't have high levels of aa, so we appoach anywhere. I feel its good to put afcs out there. It puts more pressure on them to do it. I do feel that they should learn to do it where ever, not just sarging there favorite dive bar or the mall like a predator.
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    Default Re: The Ups and Downs of Pickup

    Let me tell you what happened to me and maybe it will relate to your situation.. I was learning the game really hard and fast going to malls to practice and really stepped out of my comfort zone. I started to build a massive social network and I was getting with a ton of 8s which was cool by me. However, I felt like because of the amount of girls I was getting and how they were responding to me that I no longer needed the game... I had babes so I don't need this anymore. I had a couple girls I was fucking at the time but I stopped approaching and using the game in my social interactions. After a lot of time went by I just didn't have it anymore. I was in a massive slump with only the occasional lay. In my opinion, if you don't use it you lose it. After 2 years I am finally accepting the game and sarged last weekend.

    If you want to break the slump... Go open a set and run a routine. You will immediately feel empowered. At least that is what I did and it worked out really well for me. I am finally back sarging and it feels great! It feels weird being pua when you are a nice guy if you haven't done it in a while. Right when you run a routine. BOOM you are back!

    I am not sue if this helps you but maybe it will help others from not getting too cocky and to continue to practice.

    Crash

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    Default Re: The Ups and Downs of Pickup

    Quote Originally Posted by Cody View Post
    I don't intentionally sarge. I never go out with the sole intent of picking up women. Admittedly, I am in college so that does ease things... I don't think you should only be sarging up the mall, especially solo or with a wing. That's just creepy and weird.
    ...mostly weird.
    Yes, college does make it much easier. A lot of guys who are inspired by The Game & these forums are hermits. For them, going out creates huge social anxiety. I think it's great for them to go test themselves but also have less Game-focused objectives. Before I started going out to practice Game experiments, I had been in a massive slump. I first decided to make other positive changes, then the book fell into my lap. It seemed like a perfect test to pressure internal & external evolution. My wing & I are great friends so sarging is mostly hangout out but we do go out with intention quite often.

    Only going out to sarge is kinda weird pressure though. For example, you walk into a dead bar & then just turn around because there are no targets. Haha. I bet we've all done that.

    I'm starting to get more comfortable now & just chat with people to surpress aa. The Mindset has infiltrated my entire life. I'm opening to people everywhere. In fact, I feel guilty when I see an HB9 & I don't open her.

    Anybody relate?


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