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Thread: Mistakes that you shouldnt make

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    Default Mistakes that you shouldnt make

    Sometimes I will slip into 'nice guy' mode and say things that I cannot take back. I will go on a limb here and say that most of the guys who come here on this forum are the quintessential nice guy. Now being a nice guy is not a bad thing, period, actually I wish we all could be nice guys and things just go the way it should maybe this world would be a better place. Unfortunately, we cannot be too nice because things will not go the way it should. So the mistakes that I slip up and make when my mind is out of it:


    1. Ask a girl where she wants to go:

    Never do that. That was good in the 50s not anymore. How I learnt my lesson? Actually the girls that I said that to changed their facial expression. Some of them even told me indirectly. And the result? Well just say you cannot recover from that so just move on because the image she has of you is tainted.

    2. Following what the girl wants:

    Always think twice when it comes to going along with what a girl says when it comes to decision making. The result? It will shatter your image in her mind as being a strong alpha guy. You will be seen as a push over.

    3. Giving too much attention:

    If you go out with a girl interact with other people. Do not spend all your time with her. That allows you to recharge the conversation, and keep the energy you have for her fresh. It also reinforce your Anchor as being sociable.
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    Default Re: Mistakes that you shouldnt make

    I must say I too have learned this the hard way. Some guys might have the belief that women wan their opinions on lots of things such as where to go and so on. Now I think its ok to kind of ask their opinion. It makes them feel you care about it. BUT you control the descision. At the end of the day you are making the calls. Her input can be take into considerstion but again this should be applied in a LTR not during the initial phases of dating.
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    "When it comes your time to die, be not like those whose hearts are filled with the fear of death, so that when their time comes they weep and pray for a little more time to live their lives over again in a different way. Sing your death song and die like a hero going home.”

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    Default Re: Mistakes that you shouldnt make

    Yeah I totally agree ridem. It sucks sometimes, especially when you really like a girl but you never lose from an experience you always learn.

    Quote Originally Posted by ridemyr1 View Post
    I must say I too have learned this the hard way. Some guys might have the belief that women wan their opinions on lots of things such as where to go and so on. Now I think its ok to kind of ask their opinion. It makes them feel you care about it. BUT you control the descision. At the end of the day you are making the calls. Her input can be take into considerstion but again this should be applied in a LTR not during the initial phases of dating.
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    Default Re: Mistakes that you shouldnt make

    Good stuff, that first one is killer burned me once

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    Default Re: Mistakes that you shouldnt make

    Wow just realized how many mistakes I have been making. Any other tips?

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    Default Re: Mistakes that you shouldnt make

    I learned this by hard way Every time i acted as nice guy, it was over!!!

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    Default Re: Mistakes that you shouldnt make

    Being a nice guy is actually bad, nice guy acts nice for a lot of reasons:
    he has agenda
    he is needy
    he lacks confidence
    he lacks leadership skills
    he hasn't transformed into a man yet
    he doesn't own his reality
    he capitulates to Women's whims
    he is afraid to lose the girl
    he is rooted in scarcity.
    etc.
    If it frightens you, Do It!

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    Default Re: Mistakes that you shouldnt make

    I think I have the opposite problem with "3. Giving too much attention" Ill be fb friends or something and talk to her for like a week or so hardcore. Then quit taking for like 2 weeks or even a month. Then a straight week. This really confuses the girl and we end up becoming friends...


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