Re: Diffuse an AMOG in your social circle?
This post has dejavu. This was my last response.
Sucks about your situation man. First off...pick your battles. Starting off the night by stating "girls sit in back" may sound alpha, but is actually on the childish side. Alphas know WHEN to take the lead, and the answer is not ALWAYS. It's still alpha to LET someone else take the lead under your permission. Again...pick your battles, because it is 100% impossible to have your way all the time. How you handle it when it doesn't go your way defines if you are alpha or beta.
Even though I say this, I have been a victim of similar situations. The first instinct is some desperate attempt to get the power back and makes you look AFC. Once I learned to let go of always having to be in charge, I felt a little better. Still....he sat next to your girl and put his arm around her. Total cockblock.
The simple answer is that he does not see you as the leader of the group. I can tell you if he did, he would fear your response if he acted in a way you didn't like. Honestly, I don't have much experience in having an alpha male see me as more alpha than him if he already sees me as inferior. It's usually because they are from my past and we already have a certain dynamic.
You need to have a sit down with him. Seriously. Tell him that his behavior is unacceptable. Don't try to convince him. Simply state your expectations. If he doesn't agree or continues his behavior, you have to cut him off. It's that simple. This is why there is only one male lion in a pride. He doesn't try to subdue the males to get under his rule, he simply kicks them out for good. I've done it before because I don't have time to butt heads with someone that doesn't respect me from the door.
"All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."