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Thread: People don't remember me after I meet them

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    Default People don't remember me after I meet them

    So recently I've noticed a lot of people don't remember me after I meet them. What really got me thinking about it was what happened today, I went over to my friends place during our lunch hour between classes and after about 20 minutes his room mate walked in, whom I met probably 3 days ago, didn't remember me. I do remember that I was sitting there trying to get conversation going, since we have a similar interest, which happens to be old school video games. The collection I saw was huge so that's what I tried to use as a starter but when we crossed paths today, nothing. Normally when I meet people I'm always nice and try to be interested in their interests but so it seems I'm still not remembered, unless I have a class with a person and I see them everyday. What can I adjust to leave a bigger impression on people when I meet them?

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    Default Re: People don't remember me after I meet them

    Quote Originally Posted by Gexx750 View Post
    So recently I've noticed a lot of people don't remember me after I meet them. What really got me thinking about it was what happened today, I went over to my friends place during our lunch hour between classes and after about 20 minutes his room mate walked in, whom I met probably 3 days ago, didn't remember me. I do remember that I was sitting there trying to get conversation going, since we have a similar interest, which happens to be old school video games. The collection I saw was huge so that's what I tried to use as a starter but when we crossed paths today, nothing. Normally when I meet people I'm always nice and try to be interested in their interests but so it seems I'm still not remembered, unless I have a class with a person and I see them everyday. What can I adjust to leave a bigger impression on people when I meet them?
    You remind me of myself greatly because I always used to (and sometimes still do occasionally) try and get everyone I meet to like me and leave a big impression by being overly nice, asking tons of questions, etc. I find that if you're comfortable with yourself and not trying to "prove yourself" to others, you are able to interact with people better and more naturally which, I assume, will help people remember you more.
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    Default Re: People don't remember me after I meet them

    you could throw an open house party, or a party where everyone brings their friends so it doesn't get out of control, people will remember you for that if you're an awesome host and they'll talk about it too

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    Default Re: People don't remember me after I meet them

    Normally when I meet people I'm always nice and try to be interested in their interests.

    Well there's your problem.

    You want remembered? Then you have to send a shock factor. Stop pleasing others and instead start doing what you want. Think of the people you remember. Why do you remember them? Not all of them are nice, and most of them could probably care less what you thought of them.

    It's not that you want remembered but that you wanted respected, because people remember those whom they respect. One of the most respected qualities that can be found in a person is a complete and total disregard for validation seeking. It's admirable--even enviable.

    What do you get out of showing interest in their interests? In what ways does that benefit you? It has no substantial gain, whereas visible indifference has everything. Everyone wishes they didn't care so much, but they do. Marketing is based on this principle.

    In summary, stop giving a sh*t.
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