I know, I know. I wrote Death to the neg. Why am I talking about negging?
Well, I had an odd situation that made me question this. I was FB messaging this LSE chick who is also a model (paradox, I know). We've talked in person a total of one time, and that one time was an hour upon hour upon hour long battle of frame control (as you can imagine with her being a model). I said something epic on a friends status standing up for true masculinity, which caused her to PM me. Coincidentally, she had just broken up with her boyfriend within the last few days (though I hadn't noticed). We get to talking, yet it's still an awkward dynamic--I'm not sure whether or not I already have attraction or am perceived as coming from a place of higher value.
So what does any guy do when he's not sure where he stands with a girl? I throw out a neg. More specifically I throw out what I like to call a sandwich: Compliment, constructive criticism, compliment.
Now she takes a while to respond (I'm sure the wheels are turning in her mind to say something witty), and though it all worked out more than okay, I kind of felt like a d*ck. I didn't know she has such LSE, nor did I know she already held me in high regard. Furthermore, I got to thinking: completely apart from this one scenario, if you ARE aware of all the variables, is it still an okay thing to do? In other words,
Does negging Low Self-Esteem girls from a place of Higher Value lower her perceived value of you?
I know it's definitely not a dealbreaker, but as a man, a real man, I think it's an important factor to consider.