The Hot Guy Myth: The belief that a physically attractive man gets a lot of women because he’s good looking.
Most men and women assume that if a man is physically attractive that he gets with or can get a lot women mainly because he is good looking. It might seem safe to assume that since a guy is handsome that a number of women will be attracted to him, will want to be with him and eventually sleep with him. Even though most people believe this is true the reality of the situation is most “hot guys” don’t get as much women as most people think.
The media plays a big part in why most people assume that a hot guy(HG) can get any woman he wants. When women see guys like Johnny Depp or Idris Elba they would say how hot they are, how much they love them and how much they want to marry them and have sex with them. Other men see women say this about these guys and assume that any guy that looks as good as these guys will get a large amount of women. We all know these guys are rich and famous, but just based on looks I’ve heard women say that they would have sex with these guys in a heartbeat because they think that they are so good looking.
What most women don’t realize is that they are lying when they say that they want to have sex with Johnny Depp or Idris Elba just because they think they are hot. There are a small percentage of women who do but most women are lying. On the surface it may seem like these women would have sex with these guys just because they think they’re physically attractive, but the reality is most of these women are attracted to these guys because of who they think these guys are either from what they have seen in the characters they play in movies or something they read about them in a magazine interview. So these women subconsciously feel like they sort of already know these guys and feel some sort of connection to these guys. That is were the real attraction comes from. They might still think that these guys look good but most of these women don’t just want to have sex with them just because they think they’re hot.
The fact of the matter is if Johnny and Idris weren’t rich and famous they would have to try to get woman just like every other guy. If a guy that looked better than Johnny Depp walked up to a girl on the street and asked her to have sex with him she most likely wouldn’t do it even if she thought he was hot. I had a friend say if she met Idris Elba at a party she would do him. I said to her “you would only do him because he is famous.” She said even if he wasn’t she would do him. She said if she seen a guy who wasn’t famous, looked as good as Idris, and met him at a party she would do him just because she thinks the guy is hot.
I used to go to a lot of parties with this girl. We went to this one party and she pointed out this guy that she thought was hot. She said that she thought he was hotter that Idris Elba. So I asked her if she could sleep with him right now would she do it? She said yes. My friend didn’t know that I knew that guy. When she went to go to the bathroom I went over to him and told him that my friend wants to do him. He said he was down. When she came out the bathroom and I told her she didn’t believe me at first. Then I started pointing her in his direction and he was looking over at us and gesturing her to come over to him. To make a long story short this hot guy wanted to do her and she didn’t do him. She was talking all this stuff and she didn’t have sex with him.
So for people to assume that a guy gets with a lot of women or gets to sleep with a lot of women just because he’s hot is ridiculous. Most women, even if they think a guy looks good, still wont sleep with a guy because either they don’t want to get caught up in their emotions if they have sex, they are scared of catching a disease, they fear they might get pregnant or my personal favorite: they think a guy is a player and has a lot of other girls that he’s having sex with. (He must be having sex with a lot of women right, He’s so hot!!!)
Also sometimes a woman might not have sex with a guy for reasons that have nothing to do with the guy. Some women will cancel a date with a guy because she isn’t feeling sexy. So you will have a hot guy not getting a girl because she doesn’t feel like she looks good. So in this example his physical attractiveness is irrelevant to the situation. The assumption of a (HG) getting any woman he wants would only be true if most women just had sex with men based off of physical attraction.
Some people think that a (HG) would have an easier time picking up woman than a not so hot guy(NSHG). The HG has only a slight advantage over the NSHG in the sense that a woman might notice the HG quicker than the NSHG. The good looks of a HG can be compared to what the world famous pick up artist “Mystery” from Vh1’s “Pick up Artist” does when he is doing his Peacock method which entails dressing or wearing something that will make you look interesting or ridiculous (depending on your taste) in an effort to get a girls attention. So at the end of the day the only advantage that the HG has is that he might get a girls attention faster than a NSHG. His advantage stops after he has got her attention.
The physical attractiveness of the HG is temporary. His good looks are like a flame lit on a match. Eventually the flame will die out. This doesn’t mean that the woman doesn’t think he looks good anymore, it just means that it wont take long for the woman to get over that fact that the guy is good looking. Him just relying on his good looks wont be enough to keep a woman around for the long term or in some cases keep her around long enough for him to have sex with her. The hot guy would have to have more going for him than just his looks in order to really make a connection with her. You have to remember that a woman is most attracted to a man that connects with her on an emotional level. The HG and the NSHG both have to have a great seduction game. So is the myth true? Not Really. When all is said and done it’s not really all about the looks. The man who will get the most women is the one who is persistent and has the tightest game.