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Thread: Top five regrets of the dying

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    Default Top five regrets of the dying

    The following article is a great read for anyone who wants to become an alpha male, since the accomplishment of that goal would have you avoid three out of the top five regrets of the dying.

    A nurse has recorded the most common regrets of the dying, and among the top ones is 'I wish I hadn't worked so hard'. What would your biggest regret be if this was your last day of life?

    There was no mention of more sex or bungee jumps. A palliative nurse who has counselled the dying in their last days has revealed the most common regrets we have at the end of our lives. And among the top, from men in particular, is 'I wish I hadn't worked so hard'.

    Bronnie Ware is an Australian nurse who spent several years working in palliative care, caring for patients in the last 12 weeks of their lives. She recorded their dying epiphanies in a blog called Inspiration and Chai, which gathered so much attention that she put her observations into a book called The Top Five Regrets of the Dying.

    Ware writes of the phenomenal clarity of vision that people gain at the end of their lives, and how we might learn from their wisdom. "When questioned about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently," she says, "common themes surfaced again and again."

    Here are the top five regrets of the dying, as witnessed by Ware:

    1. I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
    "This was the most common regret of all. When people realise that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made. Health brings a freedom very few realise, until they no longer have it."

    2. I wish I hadn't worked so hard.
    "This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children's youth and their partner's companionship. Women also spoke of this regret, but as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence."

    3. I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings.
    "Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result."

    4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
    "Often they would not truly realise the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying."

    5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.
    "This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realise until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called 'comfort' of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content, when deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again."

    Source: www.guardian.co.uk

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    Default Re: Top five regrets of the dying

    Awesome post Virgil. Makes you really think about your current situation. Fortunately most of us still have the opportunity to change our current Mindset and habits. I guess there will always be regrets in our dying days but we do have the choice of limiting them

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    Default Re: Top five regrets of the dying

    i'm young and i find it hard to fulfill them all. most of them require life experience that only in elderly people can have

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    Default Re: Top five regrets of the dying

    these are the things i say to my parents actually :P.. when they tell me stop having fun only, and living this relaxed life :P..
    and i tell them 'when i am in the last minutes of my life i want to be able to say i did whatever the F*** I Wanted to do - no regrets' .. nice post virgil
    The Worst thing I can be is the same as everybody else. I'd Hate that!

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    Default Re: Top five regrets of the dying

    It took me awhile to learn but the most important things in life are the relationships with have.


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