Another long post from this guy? Shut up! Iím over here spilling my soul to you and youíre complaining. Ungrateful ass mo fo.
Alright, check it out right. There might be people who disagree with me on this, and thatís ok. This post is completely opinionated and placed within my belief system to help me through my journey. And might be itíll help you too. And yea, Iíve noticed Iím one of theÖ strange people on the forums, but sometimes you need strange ideals to overcome some hard case stuff. Anyway, on to the value!
So, first thingís first. Letís pretend your body and you are actually two different people. Letís define these two different people so that you can tell the difference between the two.
Probably love new experiences
Probably enjoy meeting hot women
Probably wants to succeed in life
Probably likes to live in the moment
Probably loves to be energetic
Probably loves to be in higher states of emotion, such as HAPPY
Doesnít want new experiences.
Doesnít like being in the present moment, wants to analyze the past and future.
Doesnít want you to succeed.
Doesnít want you to meet hot women
Wants to output the least amount of energy, in the least amount of time, to end up with the same result: Survive.
ONLY WANTS YOU TO SURVIVE.
Alright, now you might be thinking, ďThese accusations are absurd,Ē and itís true, they are! Completely hard to believe that even a part of you doesnít want you to have the best for yourself and this is why I look at it like it isnít REALLY a part of me. Itís an extension of me that, right now, isnít playing as the best teammate. Here are the things youíre probably going to have to do to cultivate the bond with your body. Reward your body and it will reward you! Letís completely ignore what your body wants, and only look at what you want! Because thatís all that fucking matters!
-Love new experiences & Love meeting beautiful women Ė Ignore what your brain is telling you and work up the courage and willpower to get it done. Itís going to be worth it, and your body will reward you with endorphins and less pushback in the future.
-Want to succeed in life Ė The way I look at it, and it might not be the same for you and thatís ok, but success to me isnít the results I see, itís the steps and the process of the actions I am taking. Results are an external stimulus, so I know I canít completely control them, but I know I can control my actions. And the more congruent my actions are to the process, the higher my percentage of success will be.
-Like to live in the moment Ė Look, you can spend all that time analyzing the past or attempting to foresee the future and that IS a lot easier, but why not take a second to enjoy this moment, right now. Sometimes it can be hard because you are doing something boring, or something you donít like to do, but youíre never going to get that moment back, so why not just suck up all the value you can get out of the current situation?
-Loves to be energetic Ė If you love to be energetic, you have to realize your body, if youíre like me, probably does not! You have to do things to make it help you. Sleep 8 hours a night, in the dark, with no lights or sound. Itís proven you feel more rested when you do it, and for the first couple of times youíll find yourself sleeping like 13 hours, but thatís because your body is catching up on all that sleep youíve been depriving it of. Also, eat more greens! Salads, spinach, kale, even something small, like one of those Naked drinks, I drink the Green Machine one. Now understand for the first week or so, if your body isnít used to this, youíre going to have gas, lol. It passes, just push through.
-Love to be in higher states of emotion Ė Donít get used to one emotion, use them all. If you want to be dramatic, BE DRAMATIC, if you want to be happy, BE HAPPY, be congruent to however you PRESENTLY feel. But donít be angry about things that are out of your control! For instance, I donít recommend it for the really new guys, but drama is a great way to game a girl. They LOVE soap operas, so why not make their life one! As long as youíre still rewarding them, they will keep coming back.
Back to why I have these beliefs.
As Iím moving along in my journey I find some things happening that fuel this belief, for instance right now, for yet another night, I canít fucking sleep!
I know that my lack of sleep isnít really a bad thing, because itís showing me that some hardcore shit is going on inside of me. It sounds completely crazy, I know, but if this has never happened to you, good for you, if it has, then youíll know where Iím coming from. But what I believe is really happening is I am getting my body on the same page as I am and this is because I have repetitively shown it the rewards of doing what I want to, and not what it wants to.
The other day I had this awesome fucking experience that I want to share with you and that even about a month ago I would had never had because my body screamed that I was doing the wrong thing due to my fears that donít need to be there. I went out on the docks of the beach. To some of you this might be a normal experience and youíre thinking, ďthis dude is a bitch,Ē and thatís fine you can think that because youíre right, by body is a bitch. So the two things that were so scary for me in this situation was that I am both afraid of heights and I am afraid of deep water. There are emotionally anchored things in my past that have caused these, but thatís unimportant because they shouldnít be there. On top of both those things, Iím with a girl, so my life would had been in shambles at that moment, but it wasnít!
As Iím walking out Iím thinking, ďOk, this is happening, but itís alright, this could be an awesome experience, and I donít want to miss out on something that could be an awesome experience, so letís fucking do it.Ē So I commit, my heart starts racing and my brain starts screaming in itís Cartman like voice, ďNOOoOOoooOO!Ē At this moment I realize I should treat this no different from Approach Anxiety, and so I start focusing on the only thing inside of me that will remain constant, my breathing. Become present to the moment, I close my eyes breathe in and then out and open my eyes and the universe rewards me as Iím about 20 feet away from shore. It rewards me by showing me the first jellyfish Iíve ever seen in the wild like that, just chilling there in the water swimming against the tide. A smile comes across my face, my heart beats slows back down and Cartman fades away. It was such a beautiful experience for me that Iím getting all emo about writing it. Lol.
The girl I was with has been a friend of mine for about three years, and Iíve come to embrace my emotions, so I share my insights with her. She knows Iíve begun doing things to better myself, but hasnít spoken to me before this day in three weeks, because I froze her out.
Me: ďThis might sound dumb, but Iím really glad I took up meditation. This is an awesome experience.Ē
Her: ďI donít think it sounds dumb.Ē
But, I digress. The whole point of this post is to tell you, that if you want to do something, and your body is telling you no, and your brain is screaming at you, fucking do it man. Work up that willpower and break through that anxiety, it will lead you to some awesome fucking experiences, and my brain is coming to accept this as well, and sooner or later Iím sure him and I will become the best of friends. But for now, Iím going to keep doing all the shit that he is afraid of, just to show him there are only up-sides.
If you read this, thanks for letting me share this experience with you, and if you didnít, thatís ok, maybe you donít need it, or maybe the universe just doesnít think youíre ready for it yet.
GLHF! Happy pimping! =)