Welcome to my World
You know, I have always been curious about romance. They sound like they are the best thing, but clearly men who don't use it are successful. There's an even greater, underlying fact though: men who know how to use it are extremely successful.
My friend is a guitar player, and women pour over him like crazy because every now and again he'll play the guitar for certain ladies. The even more amazing thing is that he's usually a jerk and inappropriate, yet not only women, but men also think he's the greatest guy in the entire universe.
The matter of romance is not using it often. It's about using it at sparse intervals to increase your worth. If a woman knows you can cook or she knows you can be extremely romantic if you want, then she will see higher value in you. If you show no romance, but you demonstrate resilience and some form of manliness, whether it be the jerk mentality or something else, then she will like you.
Now comes the issue of men who are highly romantic.
These are the men who drown women in gifts, dinners, movies, every thoughtful thing they can think of. They do this to show a woman "here, if you choose me, this is what your world shall be". Thoughtful, and seemingly glorious, but may I put emphasis on a word in the first sentence of this paragraph:
Women don't like to be overwhelmed with things. Being overly romantic could also be seen as being needy and desperate for the girl. Overall, romance overdose can serve to be lethal to any attempts to pick up a girl.
I would say, however, that a little romance goes a long way. A good sense of being romantic is nice, but to be truly romantic, you need to know when to do so.
"There is no better than adversity. Every defeat, every heartbreak, every loss, contains its own seed, its own lesson on how to improve your performance the next time." - Malcolm X