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    lucifer7 is offline PUA Forums Respected Contributor
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    Default Stuck with an "offer to help"... What would you do?

    OK, I was chatting with this girl who has recently left her boyfriend and we were arranging a second meetup after a first where nothing had happened (I went for the hold hands and she retracted).

    Yesterday she says she couldn't meet as she wasn't feeling good.

    So here I go saying "hey, if you need anything like shopping, medicines... Just let me know".

    Since she was quite chasing me for the second meetup, since she has been living here for years and has a bigger social network than I have, since she lives quite far and I've never been there and since she's got a flatmate.... I wrote that lightly, thinking she would never actually ask.
    Wrong, she did :S.

    I don't wanna sound like an ass, but after having recovered myself from flu I don't feel like catering to someone who's not *that* close on a weekend...
    Also, nothing has happened yet, if nothing would happen in the future I would feel like an idiot after this huge investment...


    What would you do?

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    Default Re: Stuck with an "offer to help"... What would you do?

    look, its ok to help people, but don't be a pushover! don't always be available, and don't let her take advantage of you. if you even get the slightest hint that she's trying to use you, she probably is. be assertive, and be willing to say no (even if that means losing her) have self respect and don't let her manipulate you.

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    Remember it's not about you, it's about her. If you did do it and she's legitimately sick you get points. if shes not and just trying to make up for dodging you, she still wants to see you. Either way you win. Now it just comes down to how much that possible hook-up is worth to you. Best of luck. and i know you're getting opposing viewpoints, and i'm not saying im any more right or anything. It's just how you feel the situation is.


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