Every time I don't make a move I can't help but feeling haunted by the idea of "what could have been".
It becomes worse if I see the girl ending up with someone else.
Just as an example, tonight (just for information, it's morning here but since 11:30 I've only had 4 beers.. OK, for those who don't drink it's no that few, but what I wanted to say is that since it's now 5:30 this post is not an alcohol-induced rant).
This cute red-headed was standing close to me with her female friend. They were obviously on the prowl. She was a bit taller than I am (not difficult as I'm short) but not much and she was wearing heels.
She was looking at me several times and, I believed, giving some nice IOIs.
I waited, and not much because I was shy, but because I wanted to wait for a better opportunity (a guy had just approached her and I didn't want to go too soon giving the feeling of "here it comes another one", and I was also hoping her friend would have left her alone for a second) and thinking that by standing there all cool I was "playing the prize and the cool guy". Once a friend came to talk to me and showed me upstairs to get a drink, I followed him, thinking I'd introduce myself to her later and believing that with my snubbing I was DHVing her (this guy is one of those dancer with the moves, always present in the club and very popular).
But later.... She was with a guy, and later than that she was making out with the guy. And later than that she left with the guy.
-On a romantic level, I have a quite good prospect with a good looking girl and very good prospect lined up;
-On a work level, I have a fixed term contract expiring in less than one and a half month and, in spite of giving me slightly more than 50% chances I'll be able to get a new contract, I have no offer and no serious prospect so far , which is obviously very farm from an ideal situation in crisis-stricken Europe.
So I'm not that desperate on a romantic level and I would have something quite serious to worry about on the working front.
And what is the bane of my life?
Not having made a move on a girl I'm not even sure e I was going to be successful with. As far as I know she could have very easily given me the could shoulder.
And still, what torture me, as often happens... Is not having tried, not having the comforting certitude I did my best (or at least just tried something).
If I had gone there and been blown out, I'd be fine.
I don't think this is good for me and I don't think this is OK.
Am I normal? Does this happens to you guy?