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Thread: In a funk, no IOIs from 8s or above

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    Default In a funk, no IOIs from 8s or above

    Uhg, Im in a rut guys, I have just lost motivation to get out there and play. I will go through the motions this weekend and hopefully power through and get in the mood. I keep sticking in conversations. It isn't necessarily that I don't know what to do next, its that I keep gaming HB6's and HB7's and I want 8's and above. I can see them looking at me but I just cant seem to crack them. I play flirty with them and what not but I just cant hold their interest in the conversation. If I can just reach a hook point I can move to isolation but I keep feeling like I don't get IOI's from the 8's and above, maybe I am looking too much into it cause I am used to bigger signs from the 7's and below, I dunno.

    Anyways now that I'm done being a depressing loser, what do you guys do when you find yourselves in a rut to pull yourselves out? Read certain books, look at motivating videos, re read your notes or guides??

    The funny thing is that I am seeing improvement in my game and talking to more girls more often with generally better results. I am just frustrated that I am not getting the results I want yet. I know it will take more time and practice. Maybe I just need to vent. Cheers!

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    Default Re: In a funk

    I just take it less seriously, go on the forums look up some funny pick-ups, and give them a shot. The less you care about the outcome, the more fun you'll have. And that will help. Other than that I'd say create your own confidence, if it doesn't go as well as you wanted don't sweat it, and don't let it bring you down. And always think, It's her not you, and that SHE is missing out. I hope this is of some help, and if not oh well, I tried.
    "Act like you're interested, not like you care."

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    You are right man. I have kind of noticed recently I have just cared a little bit more than I did the last few weeks. Sometimes you just get caught up and frustrated. And exactly as you said, it should be FUN!! If its not fun for me then I'm doing it wrong. Thanks for the post!!

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    Default Re: In a funk

    I think the pressure of it all is getting to you. The best way to really truly be confident is by not putting too much thought or care into it. That way, you seem cool, collected, and relaxed.

    The more you think, the more stress you build and the less that aura of confidence decreases.

    The best is walking into a place and girls just gawk at you. Why does this happen? Because you don't care what is going to happen next, you just play with what is dealt in front of you.

    The best way for me to gain that confidence/motivation back is honestly to go out and talk to girls. Have a few warm up sets, then go out and kill it.

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    Default Re: In a funk

    I heard a phrase once: "Even a pig finds an occasional truffle."

    I was a pig, but I got a 2 HB8/9's before the age of 30. After I started this journey, I had my first 10 after 12 months and since then, I'm doing just fine. -- That being said, I was in the EXACT same situation you have.

    Here was my issue:

    1. We usually have a fear to open those with 2-3 points above us. So you probably look at yourself like a 6 or 7. Please just take this as criticism. I don't know you, so I might be wrong, but that's just what it was with me. I had Approach Anxiety like crazy with 9/10 girls.

    2. Even when I started to get all cocky, eliminate most of my aa (of course it never fully goes away permanently ), and was able to do 8's (when I could even find them), then I had no issue opening 9's and 10's, but I had to realize that I may only see a 9 or 10 MAYBE 5-6 times a month if I was lucky. You just are NOT going to get one unless there are a lot of them that you can work on. Even the best guys don't always win.

    3. Put another way, it's so much easier to get 6/7 girls because there are usually 10 times as many. Someone needs to write an essay on the similarities between rating girls and earthquakes. Both are on scales of 1 to 10, and both become more deadly and rare the closer you get to a 10.

    4. ** Try social circling... I've been lucky enough to land a couple playboy level hot girls, and all of them were from getting myself into social circles where those girls existed. One I wound up dating for a long time. Would I have been able to cold-approach, land and close? Maybe. But for me social circling was so much easier because it's a way of bringing girls to you.

    5. Another thing you can do, is try to just focus on getting a number and leaving because the closer you get to nailing a 9/10 for the first time, the more you get nervous as hell deeper into the set and then the chances are that you can screw it up. On one hand this advice sucks, but on the other hand, I was a badass at text-game before I was good with talking. So for me, that just work better in my situation because I was able to spend 3 days on text escalating a girl to my house. Sissy, but it worked at the time.

    6. I don't know what the magic number is, but for me it was about 5 10's and a dozen 9's where somewhere in my head a lightbulb went off and I said "ok. fuck it. i am going to just talk to whoever the hell i want, society be damned." And that's how i've lived ever since. My issue was always that I "needed to get a 10" instead of "wanting to get a 10." After you do enough, the "need" goes away, it turns into "want" and it just becomes more fun because your obsession turns into confidence/fun.

    Not sure if any of this helped...
    - CR

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    Default Re: In a funk, no IOIs from 8s or above

    Thanks for the posts guys. Sometimes it is easy to get caught up in the BS. I have taken a step back over the last 2 weeks and have just focused on having fun. It has been great with some good results!!


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