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    Dax Zephyr is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Cool Gaining confidence

    So I was thinking, how do other guys usually gain confidence?

    I haven't always been the confident one. I know some claim that they've always had it, but I couldn't say the same. But as I grew older, I found funny ways of gaining confidence.
    My methods were:
    -Role Playing/Acting
    -Finding role models in cartoons and movies
    -and playing with my perception

    How did you guys gain your confidence?
    (in life and with women)
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    Default Re: Gaining confidence

    Honestly for me, It came down to just not giving a F*#% and being myself. Once you stop caring about what other people think everything just falls into place. If you can get that Mindset down all that's left is to practice confident body language and be able to converse in a calm manner.
    "Act like you're interested, not like you care."

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    Default Re: Gaining confidence

    Practice, repetition & a conscious effort...

    Also- reminding yourself of the past times you were successful can help get you in the right Mindset.


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    Default Re: Gaining confidence

    For me it comes down to the realization that the only way to succeed is to take a shot. You can't fail if you don't try, but you also can't win.
    "It's only after we've lost everything that we're free to do anything."

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    Default Re: Gaining confidence

    You miss 100% of the shots you don't take.
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    Default Re: Gaining confidence

    Quote Originally Posted by T-Mal View Post
    Practice, repetition & a conscious effort...

    Also- reminding yourself of the past times you were successful can help get you in the right Mindset.
    its true about conscious effort, sometimes a lot of guys forget lol. I made my friends hit on girls all the time, yet they forgot what to do, and they forgot what they said.

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    Dax Zephyr is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: Gaining confidence

    Nice replies, this is good feedback!

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    Default Re: Gaining confidence

    i have had that problem too but dont know how to over come it. Most of the time its rejection which gets you afraid and next time u dont want to repeat yourself so you'll be like what to say what to say

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    Default Re: Gaining confidence

    Quote Originally Posted by mangofreak7 View Post
    i have had that problem too but dont know how to over come it. Most of the time its rejection which gets you afraid and next time u dont want to repeat yourself so you'll be like what to say what to say
    I think it comes with practice and a bit of trial and error. try this for a while:
    -Talk to people more (male and female) learn how to engage them more in your conversation
    -Practice on females that don't make you nervous. i dont want to sound like a a jerk, but every guy has female friend which they arent attracted to. just practice engaging your female friends more, with a bit of flirting.
    -trial and error

    This is what i did to solve my conversational skills problem. Especially about practicing on other females. store clerks and cashiers are great for practice and confidence boost


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