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Thread: I've Been Slacking

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    Default I've Been Slacking

    When I first joined this site, I had one goal and one goal only in mind: to get the girl of my dreams. I wanted to gain the skill to not only be successful with women, but to also be successful with men. All through February, I powered myself through the art, learning everything I could and overall becoming an even stronger and better person. I saw success, and I saw a lot of it, and this made me very happy.

    When March rolled around, though, the success went away. There were no social events, and I stuck with my normal group of friends, not even attempting to get out and see something new. At the same time, college got a bit tougher, and I began to get depressed over all of these things again.

    I all of a sudden became absorbed in two different things: studying and music. I studied when I had to, pushing myself into overdrive and attempting to try and get the grades that I needed. When that was all said and done, I reverted to music. In a time that I was mega stressed out, music proved to be a soother and escape route for me. For hours on end, I would get lost in my imagination as the music I loved to fantasize to rolled out into my ears. At night, the only way to successfully and comfortably get me to sleep was with relaxation tracks. I had become an addict to sound.

    I was still seeing some success in the game. I was successfully opening the girls that I wanted to on Facebook. There is really no opportunity to go and open anywhere else, considering nothing ever goes on here, so I am forced to stick with online game for a majority of the time. I thought I was doing good. What I did see, but didn't feel like addressing, was the fact that even though I was getting women involved in the conversations and really enjoying them, they were doing absolutely nothing to try and initiate the conversation themselves. In addition, I began to attract, in a larger quantity this time, the same over-conservative girls that I had no interest in whatsoever.

    In the end, all I saw were my grades going up, my stress going down, and my game becoming depressingly stagnant.

    Here, I wasted a Spring Break, absorbed in a world where my stress was gone and I was free to finally take a break. Sure, I got my work done, and I was decently happy, but I didn't do anything that I really wanted to do.

    As I was driving back to college today, I began to listen to 50 Cent's book, "The 50th Law". I listened to the first chapter, and by the end of it had gone through an awe-inspiring enlightenment.

    In the first chapter, 50 Cent talks about his hustler upbringings and Greene talks about the mechanics behind the rapper's growth and success. In it, the most important thing he talks about is reality and how we perceive it. He says that those who are constantly sharp to it and constantly allowing their perceptions to change with it are the most successful ones. The part that hit me at home was how we could dull our perceptions. He said that through becoming comfortable or withdrawing from the outside world, we dulled our perceptions and actually become far weaker and more susceptible to breakage and failure.

    As I was listening to this, I connected all of the dots, with my mouth hanging wide open at the realization of what I had done. I had in fact created a secure world where my perceptions were dulled by my constant fantasies, and my method of de-stressing was hurting me more than helping me. I could finally see where I was falling off, and what I had to do.

    As 50 Cent says, life is harsh and everchanging, and you have to keep your wits about you. If you don't, then you're bound to failure. To be trusting and confident in your beliefs is false. To be calculating and skeptical is truth. Do anything which distracts you from real life, and you shall only find painful failure.

    The ultimate lesson: Keep your head out of the clouds. Always make sure you know what is going on, and don't do anything that will throw you into the fog.

    I can say that I have locked away my headphones in an effort to stay away from my unhealthy comforter. I have decided that as a more healthy alternative, I will begin to try and dedicate myself to the same intensive studying in the game I went through back in February, when I was happy with myself and stress free as a result of it.

    In a Don McLean type of way, this shall be the day the music died. So bye bye music, and hello reality!
    "There is no better than adversity. Every defeat, every heartbreak, every loss, contains its own seed, its own lesson on how to improve your performance the next time." - Malcolm X

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    Default Re: I've Been Slacking

    I feel you on this. The last couple weeks I've been riding high (figuratively), and life was good, starting to see all of my success and hardwork come to fruition. Over break I had tons of plans of what I wanted to do and the dates I wanted as well, but more particularly with one woman. I'm on the online game role right now as well due to school so it is easy to fall in a routine.

    Now, starting tuesday, I've kind of hit the bottom of my rollercoaster and started to get down on myself/a bit depressed. Thus is life though and I'm starting to learn a lot. One thing I've found I enjoy is new experiences and situations while being very uncertain/unsure of what the outcome could be. It is fun though and I'm starting to like it. Another thing i've learned to do very well though throughout life is to pick myself up.

    So, I'd like to share a couple things that help recharge the batteries so to speak and a couple blogs I visit (type these into google btw):

    1. One good one for philosophy of being a man is as blog called: Laws of Modern Man

    While I don't agree with everything it says a lot of it can be pretty uplifting and I usually check it once or twice a week even when nothing is going wrong.

    2. The other blog I like to check out is: the rules of a gentleman

    Similar to above, it has a lot of good sayings/quotes on how a gentleman should act, and try to follow. Also, similarly to the above there are somethings I don't agree with. For instance some of the things are kind of supplicating to women, which I don't follow.

    Both are pretty good for inner game and getting the right attitude going to start your day or go to bed with.

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    Default Re: I've Been Slacking

    I also had this happen awhile back. I think its about challenges more than anything. As a man, you have to have goals... you can not be stagnant or you become complacent.

    I had wanted a few girls at work before I started gaming and thought that's all I needed for happiness (I'm exaggerating. It's more like it bothered me that I couldnt progress with them even though I did see definite ioi's looking back).

    So after I starting gaming, I was able to do really well with them. Eventually, the sheen came off and I realized that some of them werent worth my time. What I thought would make me happy was a flase alarm. So I had to branch out to meet other girls, which created another goal for me. So it's like I was creating new ways to progress. That's pretty much the secret... KEEP creating goals for yourself. Not only with women, but in life in general.

    Also, being laid back and hanging and not gaming WILL happen to everyone at times. Its a good opportunity for reflection. It gives you time to cool your jets and prepare for new conquests (ex. dowtime before a big vacation). Downtime is not always a bad thing.

    In fact, I believe this Downtime is what renews a guy's drive to want to game harder. You sit there feeling kinda down and then it clicks... WHAT THE HELL AM I DOING HERE? I NEED TO BE OUT HAVING FUN AND GAMING!

    You can't have UPS all the time without the occassional DOWNS.
    Between men and women there is no friendship possible. There is passion, enmity, worship, love, but no friendship.
    Oscar Wilde


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    Default Re: I've Been Slacking

    Quote Originally Posted by LockDown View Post
    Also, being laid back and hanging and not gaming WILL happen to everyone at times. Its a good opportunity for reflection. It gives you time to cool your jets and prepare for new conquests (ex. dowtime before a big vacation). Downtime is not always a bad thing.

    In fact, I believe this Downtime is what renews a guy's drive to want to game harder. You sit there feeling kinda down and then it clicks... WHAT THE HELL AM I DOING HERE? I NEED TO BE OUT HAVING FUN AND GAMING!

    You can't have UPS all the time without the occassional DOWNS.
    That is EXACTLY what happened to me! Now, I've just been powering it out as hard as I can and really forcing myself to change harder than ever. Recently, I've begun to flirt with everyone. It doesn't matter if they have a boyfriend or not, I want people to hold me in the same context that my younger, mega player brother is in.

    So far, it has yielded three different girls wanting to hang out with me, a renewal of conversations with two, and a whole lot of men beginning to give me more respect. Believe it or not, one of my Pick-up goals the other night was to learn how to play NHL 13, a popular game on my campus. Now, I got tons of neighbors challenging me to matches, and a few of them want to lax with me once it's warm out.

    I think another huge success has been my hyper-solidifying of my text game, and my new-found Facebook Status game. Just this night, I got huge popularity with this post: "Women are extremely brave. They wax their legs, go through childbirth, but I don't understand that when they see a spider, they go apesh1t". I believe that if you can prove yourself to be super popular on Facebook, it transfers over into real life. Right now, it's doing just that for me.

    As for my text game, this girl has been non-stop sh1t testing me, and I've just slammed each and every one away with my witty and clever comments. Here's my favorite one that she threw at me, involving an actor that she loved.

    Her - "Nope, your missing the height, the eyes, the hair, and well everything. Haha. Look him up, he is super sexy!!!
    Your especially missing the eyes!"

    Me - "Nah, he's missing my eyes, height, hair and everything
    Especially the eyes "

    The best part is I'm enjoying it all. I'm enjoying becoming awesome at this, and I'm enjoying that gradually people are beginning to see me in a new context, one that I would definitely prefer for them to see me in.
    "There is no better than adversity. Every defeat, every heartbreak, every loss, contains its own seed, its own lesson on how to improve your performance the next time." - Malcolm X

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    Default Re: I've Been Slacking

    I think you and I are in the same boat.

    I really have not had any passion or drive to do game, likely because of school stuff. I know I should make an effort to push myself, but my mind feels mentally drained from other stuff. My head tells me I should push through, but my body tells me otherwise

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    Default Re: I've Been Slacking

    Yup, I've been reading t-mals guide, and my text game has skyrocketed with the women in my life! It is also really fun being a flirt and teasing women. I've started to do it to everyone also just like you. Haha!


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