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Thread: Thoughts on Helping Others

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    Default Thoughts on Helping Others

    Recently, I read Cody's farewell speech to the PUA Community, and there were parts that got me thinking about his reasons for leaving. He did bring up some valid points about his decision of departing. He was young and already a natural in the game, and all he got were pointless questions about guys with oneitis issues.

    Cody's reasons for not helping others was valid in his own views, and I respect that. He's experienced in the game, and he doesn't need to constantly re-affirm that to everyone he meets. However, I can't say the same for myself. I am not a natural, yet, and thus I need the constant re-affirming of what I believe is right and wrong.

    I have discovered that the more that I address issues that I know and answer to, and I hammer them over and over again, I actually become strengthened in my beliefs. If I learn something new, I feel the need to find a post that relates to it and put a post on. If no such thread exists, I make one. If I have a question that I noticed has never been encountered or addressed before, that's when I ask.

    So my skinny of this is the following: Help others to help yourself. That's what we're all here for.
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    Default Re: Thoughts on Helping Others

    Help others to help yourself. That's what we're all here for.
    i strongly agree with this, but take example from the text forum theres hundreds of threads asking the exact same question about good first texts, saying the same thing gets oldddddddddddddddd and frustrating when people dont search or read other threads because they think theyre the only one with the "problem" --> i disappeared for a few weeks cause i got over answering the same thing, but i do see your point, theres no way i couldve handled some situations in the past without someone else sharing their problem and someone else providing a response

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    Default Re: Thoughts on Helping Others

    I have to admit I did make a first text thread but sometimes I want something specific to a situation. As I grow with you guys I want to share my experiences and advice. I like the idea of helping others. Many people just look at other's posts but few actually reply with good advice. This site needs more people like you guys who stick around even when you have found success. The best things in life are what we give not what we receive.

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    Default Re: Thoughts on Helping Others

    I honestly don't mind answering the obvious questions for new comers, or less experienced users. Because the way I see it is they could look up the answer to their problem, but that's not really what they are looking for. What they really want is someone to tell them it's all good and that they should go for it, we've all been there at some point, and if that's what it takes to help someone get their game up then so be it. I'm always glad to help, because sooner or later I'll need it to.
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    Default Re: Thoughts on Helping Others

    Funny this thread popped up, batman and I talked about this a week ago. All I ask is people do some due diligence. Read a book. If you are going to post asking for advice follow up with how things went and become a real part of the community instead of gettin yyour question answered and leaving

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    Default Re: Thoughts on Helping Others

    Quote Originally Posted by Flyboy86 View Post
    Funny this thread popped up, batman and I talked about this a week ago. All I ask is people do some due diligence. Read a book. If you are going to post asking for advice follow up with how things went and become a real part of the community instead of gettin yyour question answered and leaving
    Very true to that. I try to read all sorts of different books just to figure out what to do and to come up with different ways to approach things. If I see two different conflicting views that seem to hold the same result, I try to figure out why it is so. I always try to logically break down my situations, and I share them with the community. Why? Because I know that there is someone out there who will make the EXACT same mistake. That is a given.
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    Default Re: Thoughts on Helping Others

    Generally, we are not answering questions here per say. We are giving an OPINION of the situation based on the details and facts that we DO have. We giving our personal perception of whatever the situation may be.

    Now it is true a lot of us have and do need some validation on the forums from time to time, which is why I have been so inactive lately. I have decided to find my own way through this mess, and when I come back I will have more knowledge and more failures/successes and pain under my belt.

    I havn't been doing too well though I'm on a 4 month dry streak hehe. I COULD get laid but I have decided I'm done with all my past women as lovers and I want to move on and meet some new ones.

    Now that I have thrown in my two cents I think that I'm going to go make my first question thread in a while .
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    Default Re: Thoughts on Helping Others

    Quote Originally Posted by Blistex View Post
    Generally, we are not answering questions here per say. We are giving an OPINION of the situation based on the details and facts that we DO have. We giving our personal perception of whatever the situation may be.

    Now it is true a lot of us have and do need some validation on the forums from time to time, which is why I have been so inactive lately. I have decided to find my own way through this mess, and when I come back I will have more knowledge and more failures/successes and pain under my belt.
    That is true. When it comes to this, there really is no truly right answer for everything. Not all situations are the same, and not all of them will work out like it's believed it should.

    The validation part I can also somewhat agree with. I say somewhat because I'm not sure what you mean by it. I am for validation in what you have learned because it helps to solidify it. I am NOT for validation in the aspect that you want to prove you are the best, because that is arrogance clouding your mind and just bringing you down to an undesirable level.

    We are all actually sort of Wings to each other in the retrospect that we help everyone here try to succeed the best they can. With this in mind, I think it's great to act in the public good of this community by constantly contributing. By the way, this will be my 201st post here on the forum. And as I said after my first 100, I'll be here for another 100 more
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    Default Re: Thoughts on Helping Others

    You're not good at something until you can effectively teach it. So, in reality, if you can offer somebody good advice and teach pick-up advice well, you're really reinforcing it in your mind. You actually learn by teaching. I learned a lot by reading and asking questions on here, and even learned some good stuff by offering advice to others.

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    Default Re: Thoughts on Helping Others

    what I mean by validation is in essence someone else agrees with us so we don't have to wonder if we are right, but I'm on my phone so I said that in it's basest sense
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