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    Default Gaming a pair of girls in a relationship?

    Does anyone here have any experience with gaming two women that are in a relationship together.

    One of them is a bit more reserved but she almost always accepts my flirting and doesn't seem to be bothered by it, even flirts back at times. We were friends first and just kind of grew on each other.

    The other one isn't really that experienced with guys and she is curious. She always wants to see me, and is always flirty and is attracted.

    I text one, the other usually texts me, and I do my best to keep the attention even between the two, but that isn't too realistic. We all 3 have different schedules and lives, and I like each girl individually for her own reasons.

    One thing I have noticed is that my flirting is ACCEPTED and I can tell the attraction it builds, but often times it isn't returned, or only lightly and I think this is to avoid jealousy issues between them.

    This is twice this year something like this has happened to me, its like I'm SUPPOSED to figure this out.

    ATM I'm just going with the basics. Fun, witty, flirty and confident/decisive/alpha. I do things like tell them they are pretty, give them hugs/smiles, kisses on the hands or cheeks, tease them playfully and make them laugh and most importantly of all, when I am with them I take the lead. They often comment on that fact as well. They like the fact that I can just step in and guide them to having a wonderful and fun experience.

    This isn't really a question post so much as me asking for your guy's take on the situation if you have one.
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    Default Re: Gaming a pair of girls in a relationship?

    Do you tell them they are trying to pick you up? Like intimating that they secretly want you.

    I mean you seem to be doing ok but you need to game them normally. How much have you actually tried to kclose? Did you talk about their relationship while they are both there? It seems like if they like your advances then you should press on.

    If they didnt, they would tell you. Dont act like they are in a solid relationship. They could be curious about being together especially if they are young.

    I totally see a threesome in this for some reason lol
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    Default Re: Gaming a pair of girls in a relationship?

    Well an update is they both broke up. I saw girl #1 at her work while getting my last check, she invited me out but then said she had to go hang with another friend.

    Later that night girl #2 (now my primary target) messaged me and wanted to hang. She kind of rejected my physical advances for the most part, but then again she is going through a rough time. I had a chance to kiss girl #2 but I didn't do it. My gut told me not to, so I didn't. We went for a nice 30 minute walk or so, talked and laughed alot. I did tell her that she could talk to her other friends about the breakup, she was hanging out with me so she could leave with a smile .

    We ended up meeting with girl #1 but it got a bit awkward.

    I'm just going to roll with it and see how it goes.

    I know I need to learn to send some mixed signals, but I'm not really good at that sort of thing, I need some real work on it.
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    Default Re: Gaming a pair of girls in a relationship?

    Yes mixed signals are required imo. Also escalation. Grab her hair or grab her hand just as a joke. Keep telling her you "want to be careful because she is on the rebound" and how you "are so awesome you dont want her falling in love." Also call her "too fiesty" or a "silly girl." Teasing her is a form of Push Pull.

    I think your main thing is that you need guts. It sounds like your hesitating in some instances. Dont hesitate ever. Being careful is a wuss move. Dont be rude but keep it teasing and fun.

    Oh and next time you get a chance for akiss, go to her ear first and whisper something flirty like "no. You are trying to get me to kiss you. But its not working." Or something similar. Then kiss her cheek and neck lightly. If she approves, keep doing it (while also smelling her hair and stroking it ) and then go in for a full on kiss.
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    Default Re: Gaming a pair of girls in a relationship?

    I kind of dig that, though I have my own moves I use in these specific instances. And yes some of my hesitation is because she is on the rebound. Girl #1 doesn't seem to have any interest in speaking with me anymore, which makes me a bit sad but I'll live. I get some of the cocky funny stuff, but what would really be cool is some examples of mixed signals and what not, that seems to be a major sticking point for me.
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    Default Re: Gaming a pair of girls in a relationship?

    Mixed signals: basically, you have to show interest slowly... little by little over time. Not alot right away. It has to seem like you are barely giving her a chance to hang out with you. But as time goes on, she proves herself to be more than just a pretty face so you become more interested. She is seducing you (but of course, in reality, you are in control).

    Mixed signals are done by pushing (showing disinterest) and pulling (showing interest).

    A list of pulls (not definitive):

    - touching/letting her touch you
    -kissing (not just heavy making out)
    - listening to her and showing u pay attention
    - compliments (on something cool you learned about her. NEVER about her prettiness. Clothing, hair, nails are OK but dont go to far.)
    - gifts (but this is the one you use the least. Never make it a big gift)

    Pushes:
    - teasing/negging.
    - physically pushing her away
    - ignoring her/ walking away from her
    - not giving info about yourself easily (let her work for it)

    Often, the two work together. Ex...

    "You know, your kind of cute... for a dork."

    (Look into her eyes, holding her hand) "you know, you'd probably make a good girlfriend. On second thought, " (push her away)," you dont make enough money to support me."

    The key is to know and act like she wants you and she is fighting a good battle for you but isnt exactly winning (or the outcome is up in the air).

    This battle continues until the seduction phase comes in. But i am not a MM junkie so dont quote me on that. I just mean you do it alot until your ready to get physical. Never completely stop, but initially its very important.
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    Default Re: Gaming a pair of girls in a relationship?

    I'll take this stuff into account. I tend to do either under or over do Push Pull, and for some reason its been something that is rather difficult for me to internalize.

    That being said, I saw girl #1 at a mutual friends, she seemed really happy to see me, and wanted someone to go to the liquor store for her. I was making a plate and told her I was going to eat that she could take this other guy, but I would be there when she got back.

    Even he said it was weird how she just dropped him off and left (they have been friends longer than we have). I was going to text her and see what happened but she is in a pretty bad mental state right now, and doesn't really respond to my texts very well, if at all. She did Kino me a bit, complimented me on, a new bracelet I had and made some small talk, but nothing I would consider an ioi.

    Girl #2 has started a new job, and did text me at like 2 in the morning out of nowhere. She said "I AM a princess lollolol!" I asked her why that is and she didn't reply until the next day, as well as liked a couple posts of mine on FB. I consider that an IOI. Either way I consider that late text her trying to run a bit of game on me.

    So I'm kind of at a crossroads here though. The last time I froze these girls out for a week or so then texted girl #1 telling her I missed her and they were both texting and hanging out with me like crazy, so I'm thinking about just giving these two a while and then starting back up, only this time I'm going to escalate and find out exactly where I stand, like a boss too. They still don't respond to my flirting, but I'm sure neither of them has been in a very flirty mood since the breakup. They both love each other, just girl #2 is younger and wants to experience rather than be stuck in a relationship. They def need some Me in their lives.
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    Default Re: Gaming a pair of girls in a relationship?

    Dude... u dont really need to find where u stand. Assume you are in. If either reject a makeout or reject continued persuit THEY WILL TELL YOU. Asking about status and "where we stand is beta." Do not confront. Jus pursue. It sounds like your doing OK.

    And never text i miss u. Say watsup or wondering how u been but even these are beta.

    If it were me, i'd be gaming both at once. ... as in, gaming both in front of each other. Its takes balls but thats the point. If u are going to drop them anyway... just do it!

    I would telling them that its ok... they knoe they both want u and are curious as to why they both like u when they have each other. Be cocky and funny. Tell them u might give them a chance if they play their cards right.

    If u try my suggestion, lmk. I dont really think i have anything else to say about this unless u take my approach.
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    Default Re: Gaming a pair of girls in a relationship?

    So you've got two HBs who've just broken up. Both of them are still into you but they've both got fresh wounds. It sounds like both of them are still into each other which is probably holding them both back; if that's the case neither is going to want to get into anything serious with you in case it ruins their chances of recovering with one another.

    In this instance I'd make sure they know you're not looking for a relationship or anything serious. What LockDown said about pointing out that you don't want to be just another rebound (and I'd do it as if I'd been through way too many rebounds) is sage advice.

    I'd come from an approach as if I was actively trying to avoid their advances but they were making it really hard for me; implying that I was just in it for the friendship but giving lots of positive reinforcement for them flirting with me- biting my lip and looking away (ever so briefly), acting bashful, letting them catch me looking lost in thought with a slight smile on my face.

    Right now both of their egos are wounded and they're feeling unsure about their own attractiveness. Let them hunt you. Show them that it's working.
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    Default Re: Gaming a pair of girls in a relationship?

    Well LockDown, I'm not "dropping" them bro. They are both still friends of mine, its not like I just picked these girls up and can drop them and probably never have to see them again. I'm just saying give them a bit of time to miss me, as well as I kind of have a busy schedule for the next couple weeks anyway. Also you are right about the "I miss you" being beta, but it worked in that particular instance, though its not something I normally do. Also I would never flat out ask where I stood with any woman...ever...perio d.

    You are totally right about gaming both girls in front of each other and what not. I have done it some, and though they generally don't flirt back much they don't shoot me down either.

    I also appreciate your breakdown, its actually pretty close with my own conclusions and tactics. I'm not going to lie here, I am in new ground as far as actually gaming physically attractive women. So yea, I'm totally in new territory here. Either way I'll let you guys know how it goes as I probably won't initiate contact with them for a couple more days.

    EDIT: Also I just re-read your first reply LockDown and I'll be reading it often until I can internalize that stuff. I do great about the teasing and giving them a hard time but I usually go too far. As far as using body language as well I havn't paid a whole lot of attention in this aspect but I'll give it a go. I realize now I tend to skip steps or stay in one area too long. Now I'm just rambling...
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