Re: Problem with a Girl in My Office
Usually I'd say to just accuse her of trying to hit on you and that it's not working. But this is a professional environment.
So looks like you'll have to be upfront. But how is more important.
It's crucial you begin with a compliment. This'll make her more receptive for the next part. Just like in relationships you would do the same (Honey, I love you and what you do, but....)
So start off with "I really admire your work ethic and forward personality, but..."
Now the next part is also important. You have to say "I feel like..." because people get defensive when you accuse them. Such as "You always/never..." So stick to "I feel like."
"I really admire your work ethic and forward personality, but I feel like you think you're my superior, which we both know isn't the case."
Try and change the subject after this, but a discussion could take place. If it gets there then you want to focus on boundaries. Not about her and what she has to change about her personality or tell her she's wrong blah blah. Just let her know what you expect from her as far as boundaries. Hope this helps and good luck.
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