OK so this is something I never thought would happen lol. This girl at work has come out to me privately about being a lesbian. But now she is giving me IOI's which were never there. Confused? Me too lol?
OK here are the facts...
Girl from work, late 20's. HB 6 nice personality... funny outgoing college educated etc. Down to earth and sweet I guess. Seems like the classic stay at home suburban mom type (if she had kids and a minivan haha).
So she starts working in my dept and she seems to want to contradict me at every turn. Its all fun and stuff. I decide pretty quickly that she is not someone I want to per sue. But my game is pretty natural so I'm certain some of it was used on her. Early on, I realize she is different than other girls. She doesn't respond like other girls. Hangs a lot by my desk but nothing else really.
I jokingly tell her one day that "oh I get it... your into girls. That explains a lot!" Instead of a wise ass comeback, she gets all quiet and walks away. Bingo! I knew I hit something. Following months I bring up topics here and there when we're alone touching on sex (especially stuff like "do u think so and so girl is cute?" Or what type of girl do you prefer"). She has no idea of my intentions but answers seriously and openly.
After a few months of this, I just hit her with "were you surprised that I knew?" And she opens up like a huge weight is off her shoulders. She tells me a lot and also gives me massive compliments after I explained to her that "I just read people well" and that "my game is tight" and I read her signals well. I don't explain much about IOI's but I touched on it. Mind you, she has only complimented me before this on my work performance.
So I was riding pretty high (got double bonus because I figured out she was bi but now is strictly lez). Now here's the problem... the IOI's from her start becoming VERY strong. Touching, innuendos about us hooking up, sex talk. She was currently broken up with her longtime girlfriend. I just continue to game thinking if anything happens, it happens. These are things that she was too conservative for in the past... physically leaving my presence sometimes.
So literally a day after all this, she gets back with the girlfriend. But the IOI's are still coming. I have been with women in relationships but they usually never bring up the BF. So I am confused. I brought up how she would be good for a guy friend of mine and that its a shame (disqualify her and me) and doing a Freeze Out. But if she is a total lesbian, why even try?
I think that I am friend zoned but because of the actual sexual orientation issue, my game is all screwed up. I feel like her therapist now lol. Since she confided in me we talk a lot more and in hushed tones sort of like flirting but again... IS IT??? She also reciprocates kino. I understand that me being a confidant has relieved her stress a ton (because now she can feel like she doesn't have to hide who she is) so is that where this is coming from? And the really annoying thing is in front of others she jokes with them about me and her going out ... almost like she is daring me to tell everyone. But when I offered my phone number for a good work related reason (to reach me on a project while I'm away) she refused.
So so confused... or mad I guess. I have not been friend zoned in years.