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    Default Expand your social circle

    Being a PUA is not about how many women you can f-close, or how many girls you can approach. In fact its about having the ability to effectively communicate with anyone, be it male or female. Its about having a wide variety of social skills, and how much influence you have on the persuasion of another humans mind.
    I decided to make this thread to help AFCs and those new to the game to be able to expand their social circle, with both men and woman, ultimately gaining friends and links to as many HBs as possible for you. More contacts means more ways of meeting girls, be it meet ups at bars, clubs, parties etc.

    Organize Events:

    People like to keep in touch with the person who is always throwing cool events. Whether it is a trip to a nearby city, a house party or a day out go-karting, make some plans. You don't have to do all the work, but get people together and put new people in touch with each other. When you do organise some events, it's likely that your friends will also bring their friends that you haven't met, which gives you a great chance to expand your 'network'. Actively pursue your passions, for example clubbing, or going to the gym. You’ll start to recognise people you see often and form new friendships.

    Beat your Social Shyness:

    If you want to “beat” your shyness by learning to build confidence, it can take you a long time, because shyness is deeply wired into your emotions. Its proven that it takes 21-30 times of doing the same thing for it to become a habit/natural, so it won’t come instantly. If you’re shy about going to a party, or to a social gathering, then a simple switch that can help is to go EARLY. If you do this, you’ll give yourself some time to get used to the surrounding and feel comfortable gradually before it gets crowded with people. If you know the host, then you could offer to help out. That might allow you to be more comfortable by having something to do. Do you find yourself in the situation of declining people’s invitations, but regretting it afterwards, because you know you want to go? What you can do in this situation, is to accept the invitation, and have a back-up plan. This allows you to leave the place if you get too nervous and can’t handle the social pressure. You can tell the person that invited you that you don’t know how long you can stay, because you’re expecting a call from someone and you may need to leave to help him or her out with something. Expressing your opinion is important, but if you’re not used to doing it, it can feel scary. One way to overcome this is to use humor. Offering ideas in a light or even silly manner is less intimidating. The more you focus on HOW to socialize, the quicker you’ll find answers. I suggest that you stay open to new ideas when it comes to social skills like keeping conversations going, meeting people, and building your social circle.

    Accept every invitation possible:
    Of course, making your own plans is important, but if someone asks you to hang out, then that's even better. If someone invites you to do something, then you should go. Why turn down a free chance to get out there with people? When you've got more friends and different options competing for your time you can be more choosy. If you're more of a shy or solitary person it's easy to mull over the invitation and rationalize that it won't be that fun and that you don't want to go. Ignore those thoughts and go anyways. You never can be sure how fun something will be until you show up and see how it is for yourself. Sometimes you'll have to inconvenience yourself for the sake of your social life. You may get invited to a movie you don't particularly want to see, or someone might call you up on Friday evening as you're about to go to bed, asking if you want to go out. Whenever you have two or more people in the equation, you're going to have to compromise sometimes. Again, just being out there outweighs these minor annoyances.

    Will aim to keep this thread updated but didnt want to go on too much.

    -Zeus
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    Default Re: Expand your social circle

    great stuff mate, thanks for the ideas will surely be useful

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    Default Re: Expand your social circle

    No worries dude, glad its proven useful!

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    Default Re: Expand your social circle

    I hope I can put it into practice as well and will come back later with hopefully some constructive feedback

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    Default Re: Expand your social circle

    This is a very good post. I actually discovered this on my own and these things definitely improved my social life.

    For reasons I can't quite remember, I did the opposite of this when I was in college and I went from a normal guy with a lot of friends to no friends whatsoever. I am now just starting to get out of that massive hole I duge for myself.

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    Glad you enjoyed the post - also pleased to hear you are rebuilding your social - makes gaming a lot easier and works to your advantage

    -Zeus
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