Re: Bit of a specific situation (Korean girl)
Quick tip: decide beforehand when you want to go. And when she asks "what time?", then you go "11am, we're going to the best brunch you've ever had". If you ask her to decide, you're not confident. You're a man, man! And if she can't, usually she will offer another time that works better for her. And if she really can't, well... go anyway!
"Yeah, client waiting."
*Touch her arm*
"Let's go out on the weekend."
"Weekend? What time?" "What time are you free?"
"Ummm ... talk later, client" *makes cute texting gesture*.
Also for the texting (I will go back to it below), you were right that she probably loves texting, but "good morning/good night" are boring. You become expected, and predictable. Keep her on the edge!
Now, for the whole "Korean/Japanese" thing... This is my specialty haha, so let's share the knowledge! I have moved in the US two years ago from France, but unfortunately am absolutely not interested in American-culture girls (too "manly", no romantism - though it might be specific to New England girls haha), so...
Mikalichov's guide to Japanese and Korean girls:
Disclaimer: I will use "Asian girls" during the explanation, but I am specifically referring to "girls coming from East Asia and having been in the US (or your country) for only a short time and still have their original culture". So it is more about culture than ethnicity. I also have a lot more experience with Japanese and Korean girls than with Chinese girls, so your mileage may vary. I will also compare them to American girls a lot as this is what I know and what a lot of PUA material is about. As usual when talking about this kind of topics, I hope that won't offend anyone. I don't want to make a stereotype, just sharing my experiences.
With that said:
Most important thing is that Asian girls are a loooot more sensitive than American girls, so you will have to tone down a bit. Most of the PUA stuff you learn about still works, but you have to tone it down.
Most guys they have had experienced with were super beta. So if you over alpha her, she won't be able to handle it. But you still have to be alpha.
For example, you can neg them, but it has to be subtle. Say something like "Oh God, are you always such a pain in the ass? ", and she might cry. Yeah, I've seen it happen. This:
..was the most I have been able to get away with. And I still had a bit of trouble as she thought I was saying she sucked. So go for NEGS that would work in high school. I personally don't do NEGs unfortunately, so I don't really have examples. The few "kind of NEGs" I do are actually also part escalation or part compliment, I will talk about it later.
Her: "I'm a nice girl!"
Me: "Oh no, I don't think you are that nice...
Same goes for escalation. As with all girls, you have to escalate. But TONE IT THE FRAK DOWN. For example, things I do to American girls:
- randomly slapping her ass when she passes near me
- "Should we go to your place? Because having sex right here on the floor would be awkward."
Do this with an Asian girl, and she might pass out.
Do a lot of physical escalation, going for shoulders -> hands -> hair -> face. Be veeeery careful and subtle with verbal escalation.
As far as I've seen, Asian girls don't do Sh!t tests a lot, as it is a very "conflicty" thing, and they tend to avoid conflict. This is good. However, they will test you, but in more subtle ways, so you might even miss it sometimes. And this is bad.
They will ask you a lot about your girlfriend, or if you are a "player". Be careful, as they want a guy who is confident, and chased by women, but not a guy who have had hundreds of girls, or who gets a one night stand every week. My technique is simply to not say anything ever, or say something that's an obvious lie. Avoid problems, and build some mystery.
Her: You have a girlfriend?
Me: Maybe? / Who knows? / That's a secret/ Nah, I'm looking for applications, send me your resume, you can be my Friday girlfriend.
Her: How many girlfriends have you had? (rarely had it, as they are afraid of the answer, but it might happen)
Me: That's a secret / I stopped counting at the second thousand
Some of the techniques I use that work well with Asian girls:
^This works very well, as it's pretty cute, innocent, but still more than they are used to. Holding hands is also a pretty big deal for them (that what bf/gf do), so it starts triggering emotions.
Her: "Where do you come from?"
Me: *grab her hand, and start putting it in a specific shape, and drawing in her palm with my finger* "So this is France you see? Paris is there, Germany is over there, Spain is there, and fark Italians. And so my place is blablabla"
^Again, very cute and innocent. But also, Asian girls tend to be VERY concerned by their looks, so they will genuinely be grateful. Moreover, it's a kind of NEG, as it implies you realize she's not perfect, and you don't care. And finally, it gets her used to you touching her face, and comfortable with it.
Me: *talking about random stuff, stops in the middle of a sentence* "Oh, wait, don't move." *go for her face, and remove an imaginary peck of dust from her face* "Here, better, you had something on your face."
Her: Oh, thanks!
It is a classical PUA move, but works especially well with Asian girls. Mikalichov #1 recommandation. Do it as soon as you've had a bit physical contact with her.
^Again, it works as they are concerned with their looks. Makes them more comfortable. And clears the way for the kiss. Also, I love passing my hands in hair, so it's a win-win situation haha. Be careful to not interrupt the conversation while doing it, else it will be awkward.
Me: *while talking, and without stopping, rearrange her hair, like putting them back behind her shoulder to clear her neck*
^THIS. This is my secret move. I laughed so much the first time, as I didn't expect it to work at all. And it works wonders, if you got a bit of connection with the girl.
Me, while she is coming towards me: *hand gesture to make her stop (palm facing her, you know, the cop stuff)*
Me: *hand gesture to make her rotate*
Her: *smiles, rotates*
Me: *totally check her out, smile* "Nice
I love your [piece of her outfit that looks important]" *hand gesture to allow her to come*
Her: "Hihi, thanks" *come to you*
This works, because it is pretty playful, but still quite innocent. Also, Asian girls tend to be pretty submissive. Also, since she probably put some effort in her outfit, she will like you checking it out. IMPORTANT: even though you comment her outfit, don't deny you were checking HER out if she calls you on it (unlikely as they don't often go for conflict, but you never know). Go like "Oh yeah, definitely. Nice legs too."
This whole move does several things. First, you take dominance, and you come out as super confident. Second, you place her in the Mindset that she is your woman. And finally, you show to EVERYONE AROUND that yup, you can lead woman around like a boss. Social proof through the roof.
Finally, a short word on texting. Yes, Asian girls are big on texting. Whether it's text, LINE, Facebook, they litterally never stop. Good thing is that it makes it easier to get their number (they often actually ask for mine before I have time to say anything).
However, all the usual texting rules apply: keep her on the edge, interested, amused, surprised, etc. Lots of good texting guides around, so I won't repeat them.
All the above rules apply too: NEG and escalate softly.
And finally a couple more rules regarding how to type. You might be surprised by the ridiculously over the top smiley faces they use, like ヾ(･∀･)ﾉ” or ヽ(*・ω・)ﾉ. They are fun, and cute, and all that.
Don't use them.
They are an overly girly thing, even Japanese/Korean guys don't dare using them. However, since Asian girls use these overly emotional faces, you can't just go "Hey girl, let's hang out". No smiley face at all will end up creeping them out. As a rule, I always try to put one or or in a message. Not more, not less.
And finally finally, write as you speak. This is not a major point, but helpful. Unlike American girls, they see texting as a full part of conversation, and will just write the first thing that comes to their mind. So do the same - or at least, pretend you are You are a PUA, so thinking about what you write is important, but say it out loud. If it sounds natural, you're good to go
That's it! I don't think I have more now, but I will add it if I can think about everything. I'm open to any comment or remark
Seduction is a martial art. Reading books and talking to experts is important, and helpful. But you won't progress unless you go out there and fight.