Hey guys, first post but I've been reading a lot the past few days. I'm about to get out of a LTR and part of what's giving me the courage to do that is this Korean PT at my gym. But yeah, since I've been out of the market for 4 years I have no game at all. I do know some concepts/theories from listening to my friends talk though (plus what I've been reading lately).
Honestly, if it was any other girl I think I'd be alright but this one's a bit particular. First, she's only been in the country 2 years so her English isn't great. We can communicate but it takes a bit more effort (probably more on her part). Second, I see her at least twice a week at the gym regardless of whatever game plan I have going on. Third, I've heard Korean dating is a lot different to Western. I'm aware attraction is universal but I'm sure there's some cultural spin on this.
I hope some of you have experience with Korean girls ... I think she's older than me (haven't brought up age yet) but no idea how old.
So far I think I'm just skating by on my good looks (not to brag - I have no game since I was in a LTR but I'm tall and muscular).
A few things: I text her more than I should (if it were any other girl). This is because I've heard Korean girls expected you to text a lot. Not sure if this applies to the chase or only when you're already together. As a result I've been saying goodnight and goodmorning (which she has replied to every time except the last night).
I can't be cocky funny because she doesn't get it so I just smile and be confident and kino. I think I need to escalate soon though but I have work and so does she (she takes it pretty seriously which I find attractive since my last girl had no sense of responsibility).
Since we see each other in the gym (often while she's working - training someone) I'm not even sure how to act. I don't want to fuck up her work by butting in all the time but at the same time it doesn't feel normal to not do stuff with her after the texts I've been getting. Even when she's not with clients she's still trying to work out (but she is much more receptive to conversation when she's not with clients).
Anyway, fast forward - here's the progress I've made so far.
Introduced myself. She was a bit nervous/intimidated (and she was working) so I exited quick.
Got her number next time I saw her (she was alone, not with a client this time). She didn't really hesitate to give it to me.
First night of texting good. Lots of IOIs (or just straight up compliments? Stuff like how I have a perfect body, height, broad shoulders, etc.)
Second night of texting, a bit less enthusiastic.
Third day, I see her at the gym (as usual). Bit of kino, she seems comfortable with me touching her. She touches me back when I'm about to leave. However, conversation doesn't flow amazingly. It's decent - same old. Not really as good as I expected given her initial ioi.
Third night, not much texting going on. I teased her a bit and she didn't respond (she normally always wears a jumper but she wore a tank top that day at the gym so I said "First time seeing you without a jumper! Trying to impress someone? "). This was the longest she didn't respond to any of my texts. I ended up saying goodnight a few hours after and she replied a few minutes later saying she was having dinner and saying goodnight back to me. I get the feeling she doesn't respond well to teasing at all.
Fourth night, (Friday! No more work) I get a good texting convo going. I manage to get her to say something along the lines of "teach me how to dance". I also try and lock in a day to meet up with her for some 1on1. She said sure but after her clients. When I asked when she's finished with her work she said not sure.
Fifth night (Saturday now). Fucking raining like shit or I would have called her out. Texted once in the morning. No reply all day. Once again at night. No reply.
Sixth day (today). Haven't texted her since. Saw her at the gym. Same old. I kino a bit - hand on her waist when I say goodbye. She touches my arm when I leave. I did ask when she was done for the day but she said "I have a bbq on remember" (she told me about it earlier). I should have asserted myself but I just said "oh yeah" then forgot what I said after that. Anyway, that was my fuck up.
Not sure where to go from here. Was thinking I won't text her for a night and a day and then text her tomorrow night (I'll see her the day after - Tuesday - at the gym, she always has a client then).
I know I really need to take her out soon. Reckon it can wait another week for the weekend or do I have to do it on a work day?
What's with the random silence. I'm pretty sure she's still interested in me (maybe a bit less than at first though). Need to escalate soon?
Am I being too forward? There was one text where she said "I also hope I can be friendly with you" (not sure if she meant LJBF or not). I replied "Just friends? We will see hehe. Goodnight [nickname]." That was the best I could come up with then...