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    Default Beat the dreaded, "Friend Zone"

    Well, this is more of a comment than advice .. but I guess there's advice in it somewhere too. (Haha)

    So I've been friends with this girl online for 3 years .. we live over 5,000 miles apart so even if we did move things to bf/gf .. the distance would still be a major problem. We've met in person once and it went okay .. though it was a bit awkward at first for us both.

    Anyway, I basically put myself in the friend zone a long time ago by doing virtually EVERYTHING wrong. BUT .. the one thing I never did was quit. I adjusted and began to shift my approach, focusing more on her and her feelings rather than my own and what I wanted to say. And of course, NEVER as manipulation but to really give her what she wants .. because I know it's what I've got already. Time and patience .. focus and paying attention have been the key elements. Yesterday marked 3 years since we became friends and to mark the day, I made her a little something as a token. When I gave it to her, I said if you accept this, it means we're dating now .. not as boyfriend/girlfriend but, not just friends anymore. She agreed saying, "Yeah (in a kind of, "now that I think of it, you're right" tone) .. I guess we ARE more than friends." Nothing earth-shattering like, "Oh God I'm in love with you!" Lol! But to me .. that is a HUGE admission and signals the first step OUT of the friend zone!

    I posted this not for bragging rights or any other nonsense but to encourage others .. if there's a special someone in your life and things aren't where you would like them to be .. don't give up! It IS possible! After 3 years of, "I love you as a friend but not as a bf" to hear the words, "Yeah, I guess we ARE more than friends" was a really big deal! So never give up .. focus, adjust and persevere and there's a good chance things WILL turn around.

    That's all I got. Later!

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    Default Re: Beat the dreaded, "Friend Zone"

    Little sidenote. Flirt with every woman you see. Every. I keep same Tension on when im talking with 6,60 or 22 years old. It's just built into me now, every time i see woman or even girl (lol) I build tension between us. If you fail with target you always have change with her friends :P
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    recall in a way you can’t grasp now how much possibility lay before
    you and how fabulous you really looked….

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    Default Re: Beat the dreaded, "Friend Zone"

    Quote Originally Posted by TPix View Post
    Little sidenote. Flirt with every woman you see.
    Oh I do .. be sure! Lol! Built into me too. Hehe

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    Default Re: Beat the dreaded, "Friend Zone"

    "over 5,000 miles apart"

    You better hope to have a record breaking set of junk, a lot of travellers cheques or that you and her have saint-like patience because that simply can not last.

    If you can find the girl of your dreams and make it work, perfect, but when there's so many beautiful women on every street corner who are better in some or every conceivable way it makes me wonder what's got you so hung up on this one person that you're going to these lengths.

    Maybe my years of rejection have made me a cynic but this sounds like a tremendous case of one-itis. If you give up your home life and move halfway across the world to be with this girl as well, then you can kiss any sense of high value goodbye. You're completely at the mercy of her and what loyalty she has. Plus, people are different online than in real life. I've met girls I got on great with online and found them to be total bores IRL.

    I'd give a hell of a lot of consideration to this before you pursue it further.

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    Default Re: Beat the dreaded, "Friend Zone"

    Spoken like a true pua .. and someone who doesn't look beyond appearances to see the heart of another. There comes a time in every man's life (I said MAN .. not boy), when he realizes what he wants and finds it in one very special woman. When he truly sees that this woman, really is the other half of his heart. Like finding a precious diamond in a field of thorns .. he will fight and struggle and do whatever it takes to get to that diamond because the reward far outweighs any risks .. any difficulties encountered along the way .. and any resistance offered by those who don't have the same courage and perseverance and commitment. I'm not talking pickup here .. I'm not a pua by a long shot. I'm talking about pure, unbridled love. The kind of love that knows no bounds .. sees no obstacles as too great to overcome. TRUE love conquers all .. and when you find it, you've got to give it your all .. or nothing. And if you give it your best and it still doesn't work out .. at least you know did all you could, and didn't give up. I would rather know true love with one woman and never be able to realize it fully .. than to have a million intense sexual encounters. Because those all pale in comparison to the passion and the power of real love.

    Get it?

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    Default Re: Beat the dreaded, "Friend Zone"

    Quote Originally Posted by Skyper View Post
    Spoken like a true pua .. and someone who doesn't look beyond appearances to see the heart of another. There comes a time in every man's life (I said MAN .. not boy), when he realizes what he wants and finds it in one very special woman. When he truly sees that this woman, really is the other half of his heart. Like finding a precious diamond in a field of thorns .. he will fight and struggle and do whatever it takes to get to that diamond because the reward far outweighs any risks .. any difficulties encountered along the way .. and any resistance offered by those who don't have the same courage and perseverance and commitment. I'm not talking pickup here .. I'm not a pua by a long shot. I'm talking about pure, unbridled love. The kind of love that knows no bounds .. sees no obstacles as too great to overcome. TRUE love conquers all .. and when you find it, you've got to give it your all .. or nothing. And if you give it your best and it still doesn't work out .. at least you know did all you could, and didn't give up. I would rather know true love with one woman and never be able to realize it fully .. than to have a million intense sexual encounters. Because those all pale in comparison to the passion and the power of real love.

    Get it?
    How interesting. The way one perceives things in such a way. I sometimes wish I had that innocence I once had. Good luck to you.
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