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    Default Alone VS depressed AFC friends

    I have been thinking this a lot.

    I have 3 old friends: #1 is really quiet one who has lot of insecurities, #2 is narcissistic ugly fat guy who tries to cover his insecurities with cocky attitude and constant "dlv" towards others and #3 who is still living at his parents house playing video games, socially awkward, depressed and has strange looking face.

    These are guys who I grew up with, at start everything seemed normal but trough time they become depressed, unlucky and unhappy. I was getting depressed myself, although I was alpha leader of our group we were lowest in social ladder. After I found out about game 7 months ago I was really depressed and hated my life. Now I´m full of life and I´m happy to spend my time with beautiful girls.

    Thing is I now spend 80% of time with girls and 20% of time with friends. I have one new friend but he lives in another city during summers but we call every day.

    Do you thing it´s wise thing to hang out with my old depressed friends? I mean I sometimes play online games with them and stuff but when I meet them to go to beach or something, it´s really hard to organize and they usually try to infect me with their misery.

    One of the 48 laws of power was to avoid unhappy, should I just be alone most of time and avoid friends I dont really care about? I´m just afraid that I´m going to be isolated from others if I do so.
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    Default Re: Alone VS depressed AFC friends

    Friends you really don't care about aren't real friends. Think about this.

    If you want to keep them, then you should separate your life into sarging and off sarging. Gaming, going to the beach with friends is also acceptable. Even going out with them. But then it is not going out to sarge.

    Maybe you find a sarging buddy.

    I have a similar problem but it is more, that my friends aren't interested in sarging. They are either suffering from one-itis or are in a LTR.

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    Default Re: Alone VS depressed AFC friends

    If you trust them you could try introducing them to the game. Maybe that'll be their medicine. If you demonstrate your PU skills in front of them, I'm sure they'll be amazed and want more more more.
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    Default Re: Alone VS depressed AFC friends

    I have a buddy I've been friends with for 10+ years. He married his highschool sweetheart, has too sexual a sense of humor, and complains about everything. Yet we are still friends and there for each other. I don't ask him to come out or anything I know he won't be interested in because we have our own fun with video games, movies, or joking around. I like the idea of having a flexible range of friends for different things I feel like doing. Some like to party while others don't. Just keep both kinds in your life.
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    Default Re: Alone VS depressed AFC friends

    Good thoughts guys! I dont want to introduce them to pua cause i know they wouldnt appreciate it and would just turn it against me. BatMan you opened my eyes. I keep these friends as someone who i play online games with and stuff like that. Im sure i will find more outgoing friends to do other things with. Pure gold as always man.
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    Default Re: Alone VS depressed AFC friends

    Monitor yourself after you have spent time with friends. If you ALWAYS feel that they are sucking the life out of you and you always feel mentally drained afterwards then you need to see less of them or just not see them anymore.

    If it's just a tough time that your friends are going through like a relationship breakup or losing their job then lend them a hand up. You will feel great once your friend is back to normal and they will appreciate you being there for them in their time of need.

    In your case you just have to limit the time you spend with them. Make new friends and add to your social circle.

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    Default Re: Alone VS depressed AFC friends

    Quote Originally Posted by dave_xxx View Post
    Monitor yourself after you have spent time with friends. If you ALWAYS feel that they are sucking the life out of you and you always feel mentally drained afterwards then you need to see less of them or just not see them anymore.

    If it's just a tough time that your friends are going through like a relationship breakup or losing their job then lend them a hand up. You will feel great once your friend is back to normal and they will appreciate you being there for them in their time of need.

    In your case you just have to limit the time you spend with them. Make new friends and add to your social circle.
    ^^This

    My best friend used to be a machine when it came to girls, then one day in school he had a panic attack and now he has severe social anxiety and doesn't go out at all. I still hang with him as much as I can because I enjoy his company.

    Sure your friends are depressed and depression is contagious but this can be changed subtly. Have you thought about gaming your friends to slowly coax them onto the idea that the game isn't about girls but more self improvement?

    Bonus points round: If you manage to show them and teach a bit you gain a new perspective of the game. Sometimes the best way to learn something is to try to explain it to somebody else.

    Finally, I know its cliché and all but bros before hoes man, if they have been there for you when you hadn't got self confidence you should be there for them. Think of the awesome karma points :P

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    Default Re: Alone VS depressed AFC friends

    If you are a leader as you claim to be, you will make new friends as you go out. There is nothing wrong with building a new social circle. Life is too short to spend it with people that add no value to it. I constantly look for people that allow me to live my life to the fullest. Good luck


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