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    Default On the dangers of drunkness and language barriers

    I'd like to start by saying that nothing bad happened, but tonight I had to reflect a bit on the dangers that barrier languages with a drunk girl can pose in terms of legal consequences and similar.


    BACKGROUND
    Walk back home from a few beers with friends.
    Meet this girl, right away she stands so close to my face/lips that I have to force myself not to take a step back.

    She's very drunk, but she can still talk without slurring and walk without problems -was walking pretty fast actually-. So I had some qualms yes, but decided anyway to go for it.

    I say to go get a beer, she grabs my hand pulling me somewhere but I pull towards my place saying "my place".
    Her English is elementary at best, I'm not sure she understood but we kept going, most of the time holding each others hand.

    AT HOME
    At home she goes sitting straight on the bed. We kiss, I run my hands on her body.
    Probably there was no need, but I still felt like I should have made her feel "safer", so to stress that she wasn't alone with a guy she didn't know I said I had flatmates: "one guy from Ireland and German girl" -it's actually Hollande, but I deemed too complicated for her.

    She repeats in disbelief "girl from Germany?" a couple of times. I guess she understood I have a girlfriend from Germany rather than a flatmate.
    She stands up and goes for the door of my room, put her shoes back and goes for the main door without saying anything.

    My efforts to explain are useless. Her English is too weak to even understand simple sentences like "I said I live with a German girl, not that I have a German GF" and anyway she doesn't want to listen to anything anymore, I'm not sure what went theough her head.
    She moves ahead of me and darts out of the condo's main door without turning around.

    I go back home, put the shoes back and go out to see if I can find her to try to explain -and bed her, of course -.

    OUTSIDE
    But when she sees me at the metro stop she moves away quickly and looking very annoyed.

    She goes talking to a guy, and points at me.
    I very much doubt she said I was the guy who wanted to make love to her and switched the candles on for her and gave her water .

    At that point I quickly move away from the place.

    (POSSIBLE) DANGERS
    What if it had been the police rather than a random dude?
    It's not unlikely, it's close to the center here, there's a lot of police.

    I don't speak a single word of the local language, I didn't have any ID with me (ID and insurance card are mandatory).

    At the very best I would have spent quite some time in the local police station and most likely given a fine for not having ID and insurance with me (maybe even had to pay for a translator).

    Of course the girl was angry and annoyed with me, but what if she had been so angry till the point she would have said I wanted to take advantage of her, took her home and started touching her without her consent?
    What if she said she was 20 but was actually a minor?

    I really think it was a real possibility..



    So yeah, just sharing, watch out for drunk/high girls, and especially so if big language barriers are present and you're not in your home country.

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    Default Re: On the dangers of drunkness and language barriers

    Yeah I try not to chase drunk girls that are too stupid to understand simple things haha, but yeah a drunk girl is a dangerous thing. I had a buddy that met this girl at a party, they had already known each other before through mutual friends, anyway they talked all night, before, during, and after they had gotten drunk. They ended up doing the deed that night, and everyone knew about it. Everyone at this party was a big group of friends so we were all talking about it, and the next day she went straight to the campus police and told them she was raped. Long stories short, we had to testify that it wasn't rape that we saw, she was all over him the whole night and he is a really stand up guy, they ended up hooking up cause they were drunk and end of story. Well she insisted that she was raped but it never went through. It basically ruined her credibility and ruined this guys college life, spreading all kinds of rumors and humiliating him even though he didn't do it. Just word to all you guys out there, be extra cautious with a drunk girl, even if you are drunk too. The double standard in play

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    Default Re: On the dangers of drunkness and language barriers

    I guess it's a certain moral thing with me, but I can't bed a drunk girl. (Well if she's obviously drunk. Tipsy is still within my bounds :P) If I were caught in a situation like that I'd just let her crash at my place on the couch so she wouldn't be on the street.

    I actually remember one girl I brought home from the club. We were cuddling on the couch and I used some push/pull and we began to have sex. I guess halfway through she became self aware and started to cry. I stopped everything immediately and told her it was ok and that we didn't have to do anything. I left her on the couch and went to sleep in the other room. It may seem AFC, but it was just my morals.

    Besides...she knew what I did in the morning and admired the hell out of me. We dated for a few months after that and had (sober) sex a handful of times. So I guess not so AFC with those results lol.
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    Default Re: On the dangers of drunkness and language barriers

    I don't see that as AFC at all, there is a difference between game and human morals and decency. My motto is, if you feel even the slight bit that whatever your doing is wrong or going against what you believe in, then you shouldn't be doing it. Game is one thing, moral code should always trump game


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