Re: what pua has taught me
Information is a double edged sword for us. Learning new things can be beneficial, but that same knowledge if used incorrectly can severely hurt us. This is especially true for negs, and that is why I have almost never used them.
However, I wouldn't necessarily say that being calculating in the game is a bad thing. I do it all the time. I approach each in-person situation with a preconceived idea of what I want to say, what I'm going to do, and what I would expect in a normal situation of that kind. During the interaction, if I notice something that would be in my benefit, I move to exploit it as much as I can. After it, I look at what I did right, what I did wrong, and whether the outcome was acceptable or not.
As for texting interactions, I take my time. With each response, I quickly run through scenarios of where I want to take the interaction. After I get a good idea, I send the message best suited for that. Although I alternate my response times in a rolling interaction between instant and 25 minutes, it hardly takes even a minute for me to figure out the best option.
The reason I believe I can be so overtly technical and still go about this normally whereas others would become nervous and screw up is because of two things. The first is that I have practiced and studied this stuff so much to the point where confidence, decisiveness, and naturality are all easy for me. The second is that my brain has always operated like that. I'm usually very rapid in my problem solving, and it helps when calculating what to say in a conversation.
In the end, it's all a matter of what works out best for us. Some strive on not thinking about it at all. Others, like myself, find comfort and benefit in always keeping our hands on the wheel and our heads in the game.
"There is no better than adversity. Every defeat, every heartbreak, every loss, contains its own seed, its own lesson on how to improve your performance the next time." - Malcolm X