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    bttdj is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Just about every reason why I should not pursue!

    Hi I'm new and thought I'd drop a post to see what advice I get from a situation that is driving me crazy.

    I'll probably get some backlash too as it pretty much has 3 don't do's in it but hey.

    Golden Rule breaker 1: She works for me. As in same office reports directly to me.

    Golden rule breaker 2: She is in a long term relationship and is engaged.

    Golden rule breaker number 3: I am married with kids.

    Ok I guess you can slap me now! However there is something between us. We have been getting closer over the last few months and this came to a head when we "made out" as our American cousins call it on two separate occasions.

    We message each other 50-80 times every day including weekends but she says she loves her fiancee and doesn't want to cheat???

    She is attracted to me and has even said it would be too easy to have an affair but she is not that type of girl.

    When we are together even just sat in the office there is something there.

    So aside from "don't do it you will wreck your life" is there any advice out there?

    By the way she is smoking hot too. :-)

    Thanks

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    Ternarydaemon is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: Just about every reason why I should not pursue!

    "We message each other 50-80 times every day including weekends but she says she loves her fiancee and doesn't want to cheat???"

    Dude you are her orbiter! You only feed her attention for feelings, but either you havenīt escalated or she is not into fucking.

    By the way, don't risk yourself for a harrassment suit or something.

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    Default Re: Just about every reason why I should not pursue!

    Don't dip your pen into the company ink! A few fun times POSSIBLY but it MAY come at the expense of much more like your job, reputation, your marriage and the LOSS of HALF YOUR ASSETS. Spousal and child support is EXPENSIVE.

    The reward is not worth the risk IN THIS CASE.

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    bttdj is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: Just about every reason why I should not pursue!

    Ok new at all this. Thanks for response.

    So Orbiter? Does this mean she is just using me to feel good about herself? And that is all it will be to her?

    And yeah aware of the harassment potential

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    bttdj is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: Just about every reason why I should not pursue!

    Thanks Dave. Yes I get the potential pitfalls (numerous pitfalls) I would love to screw her though!

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    Default Re: Just about every reason why I should not pursue!

    Quote Originally Posted by bttdj View Post
    Thanks Dave. Yes I get the potential pitfalls (numerous pitfalls) I would love to screw her though!
    Lots of other hot ones to screw for you. If you do go down that route get yourself a second cell phone, have the bill come to the office, always pay cash when you take a girl out and use an alias and never your real name. It's just my advice to "attached guy" who still pursue the game. There are more rules for that but I just listed a few.

    I have seen too many of my friends get caught by g/fs and wives. It's ended up a costly mess.

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    bttdj is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: Just about every reason why I should not pursue!

    Fair points. I've never cheated before and she says she hasn't either so I wonder if there's more to it.

    I can't decide if I just want to bang her or be with her. Mind you at the moment the only thing getting screwed is my mind!

    I'm probably just getting led a merry dance though.

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    Default Re: Just about every reason why I should not pursue!

    Just no man. Don't even think about it!

    First off, work comes before pickup. There are tons of women outside your work to game, don't soil where you eat dude.
    Second off, you're married and have kids? What in the heck are you thinking!!

    I'm not even going to elaborate further, if you're going to go have an affair (Which is WRONG) go meet a girl from out of town, or online and game from there.

    The heck are you thinking dude

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    Default Re: Just about every reason why I should not pursue!

    Heh, when you slow things down with her and stop texting her ALL the time she is going to get pissed. You are on a slippery slope my friend. If you want to end this you need to sit down and talk to her, and use the fact that she is in a relationship and doesn't want to cheat against her when she gets upset.
    KISS - Keep it Stupid Simple


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