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    Default Can you go to nightclubs if you can't dance?

    I'm kind of new to the PUA thing. I currently reside in a small town and I've used some PUA stuff a little, but little towns are a slow death and I can't expand to my true potential. I'm moving to a new city really soon and I'm excited to start really using PUA stuff, but something just hit me like a brick.

    I can't dance! At all

    I'm 23, but haven't ever been to a real nightclub, mostly because I'm so scared of dancing. I remember in high school, I never went to the dances because I was embarrassed. I went to one dance place when I was 18 with two girls, but didn't dance. Some guy asked one of the girls to dance and I just sat around looking like an AFC.

    When I think of sarging, I think of going to nightclubs, bars, etc... That usually means dance music and... dancing.

    I hope I'm not the only one on this forum that has this problem...

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    Default Re: Can you go to nightclubs if you can't dance?

    Dancing...

    The thing is, usually night clubs are so packed that you don't even have enough space to move your feet to dance.

    In most cases, the dancing space only lets you to do slight body movements according to the music's rhythm. And that's not hard at all.

    You don't need to catch everyone's attention while dancing, in fact you shouldn't. You only need your girl's attention. Just keep the beat and try to have fun.

    ...

    Little bits from my perspective, I used to suck at dancing and I don't claim to be a pro even now, but I'm obviously better. While I sucked at dancing, at least I was too good to follow the beat, because of my involvements in musical instruments.

    Anyways, what I did is, I picked some of the popular singer/dancers as role models and watched their videos, tried to copy their moves. Examples: Usher, Ne-Yo, Chris Brown, Jason Derulo...

    Was it necessary? Not really, lol. But I enjoyed it. And I get good amount of eyes turned on me when I hit the floors.

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    There was a good dancing advice in the movie "Hitch". Basically it suggests minimal movements, following the beat and keeping cool. Watch it if you didn't. It's really useful actually.

    Most of the time on the dance floors, women will do the work. They love to hit it off and go crazy. Just let them do their thing but don't just stand there like a tree, keep up with them a bit.

    ...

    And finally, no. Night clubs is not dancing only. There is the bar, tables, booths, even the restroom line lol. Possibilities are endless.
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    Default Re: Can you go to nightclubs if you can't dance?

    Cool... When I get to my new city, I'll probably try find a nightclub and just hang around the bar and try to put out The Vibe I'm going to go sarging solo, so it's gonna take more balls to muster up the courage for that, but I think it would be good to step out of my comfort zone.

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    Default Re: Can you go to nightclubs if you can't dance?

    Quote Originally Posted by Ice Breaker View Post
    I'm kind of new to the PUA thing. I currently reside in a small town and I've used some PUA stuff a little, but little towns are a slow death and I can't expand to my true potential. I'm moving to a new city really soon and I'm excited to start really using PUA stuff, but something just hit me like a brick.

    I can't dance! At all

    I'm 23, but haven't ever been to a real nightclub, mostly because I'm so scared of dancing. I remember in high school, I never went to the dances because I was embarrassed. I went to one dance place when I was 18 with two girls, but didn't dance. Some guy asked one of the girls to dance and I just sat around looking like an AFC.

    When I think of Sarging, I think of going to nightclubs, bars, etc... That usually means dance music and... dancing.

    I hope I'm not the only one on this forum that has this problem...
    Well your first option is to stop by your local Smoke Shop/Head Shop and pick up some legal energy pills aka Hi-Octane, Wally's, etc. Essentially legal molly. You can also buy that stuff online. Once you have some diet pills to help you dance then you watch some videos on youtube with liquid pop or liquid. Take one of those legal diet pills and you will teach yourself to dance. I taught myself and I look like a badass when I take a diet pill and just tearing it up with DJs in awe.

    I used to be something that of legend not so much now. Had crews try to invite me in, got into pop circles, had my own crew back in the day. Now though I dance just for fun. When I drink my dancing looks like I am just flailing about but when I take a diet pill I am like a freaking riot on the dancefloor. While the chicks used to love this the dancing scene has changed.

    The Dance Scene Has Changed
    The dance scene has changed much to reflect the dating scene. Go to a nightclub and watch hardly anybody cares anymore about "good dancers" even if like me you are dancing your arse off and looking like a badass still no girls care nor even notice. They used to though. They used to "ask" me to dance for them. Now? Now they just want to talk.

    Many people go to the Club and never set foot on the dancefloor. I have done this and gone to clubs where I was just drinking all night, opening sets, watching people dance, talking to girls, hitting on bartenders, and just drinking. My best nights out were where I didn't dance. But I will still pick up a pack of those legal diet pills sometime next year when I am ready to show off since I don't need to drink when I do that and helps me dhv sometimes. Essentially my dance is called Electro dance (little bit of EDM but a lot my own stuff). My own style there. Not as fun as it used to be but on a good night one guy in the club walked by and said "There's no way you can farking move like that." Yeah peeps are jealous but meh it's whatever anymore. There is nights I go to Clubs and Bars and don't dance specifically when I drink. Now Clubs and Bars are mostly meetup markets not places or havens for dancers. I will go out and dance with a diet pill when I get a knack to throw down. But mostly I just go out to drink without dancing, throw down in Sets, and meet new people. Yes you can go to Clubs and Bars if you don't dance and I have done it many times without feeling any "social pressure". But the thing is you need to try to learn to dance because a girl may smell your bluff one day in a Club and ask "Why aren't you dancing?" how will you respond? Try to learn a little bit so you won't risk looking like a douchebag in a Club who knows nothing about dancing especially when you want to grind with a girl. I used to hate grinding now it is like second nature and I am really good at it in fact I love it. Or the classic "Do you want to dance?" Yes I have been asked this after the dancing scene changed so it is slightly still alive so don't go unprepared or unknowing. I can still grind very well when drinking just can't bust.
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    Default Re: Can you go to nightclubs if you can't dance?

    Quote Originally Posted by mackdaddyjacK View Post

    But the thing is you need to try to learn to dance because a girl may smell your bluff one day in a Club and ask "Why aren't you dancing?" how will you respond? Try to learn a little bit so you won't risk looking like a douchebag in a Club who knows nothing about dancing especially when you want to grind with a girl.
    This is exactly what I'm talking about. I feel like I might be able to get away with not dancing for a while, but one day a chick is going to want to dance and I'm going to feel like a loser if I can't. I don't expect to be the best dancer in the world, but I at least want to have enough skill to get by with...

    Also, I've heard of party pills before. I've never tried any before, but what exactly do they do? Are they just an energy supplements that gets you really hyper and un-inhibited? I know they make several legal high pills that give you tracers, slight body highs that they market to night clubs.

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    Default Re: Can you go to nightclubs if you can't dance?

    Haha seriously bro? You don't need a damn pill for that, you're taking it way too far.

    When you're in a situation where you have to dance just move to the rhythm, the bass is usually so loud that you will move involuntarily. You don't need to be doing head spins in the middle nor dance like the stars to impress anyone.

    You can start by laying back at the bar and just feeling the beat, maybe nodding with your head a bit and then gradually escalate till you get to the dance floor. But don't just focus on that, have fun and enjoy your night above all.

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    Default Re: Can you go to nightclubs if you can't dance?

    Quote Originally Posted by Ice Breaker View Post
    This is exactly what I'm talking about. I feel like I might be able to get away with not dancing for a while, but one day a chick is going to want to dance and I'm going to feel like a loser if I can't. I don't expect to be the best dancer in the world, but I at least want to have enough skill to get by with...

    Also, I've heard of party pills before. I've never tried any before, but what exactly do they do? Are they just an energy supplements that gets you really hyper and un-inhibited? I know they make several legal high pills that give you tracers, slight body highs that they market to night clubs.

    Well for starters get a couple drinks and approach a girl on the dancefloor is your first step. Use a dancefloor opener "Hey I thought you looked cute prove me wrong" essentially a flirty neg to get the ball rolling then once you have opened her if she goes cold then keep gaming if she just stands there gawking then move your hand to her hip and move your hips to the beat. Once you start that she will help you lead if you don't know what you are doing. You have to watch the eyes because that will give you the information to test for compliance. For the record I hated grinding told all my GF's that. Then one day say a Gamewinner walk in the Club HB9 42 year old banging bod walk on the floor alone. Obeyed the 3 second and did a come from behind approach. Tapped her on the shoulder "Are you having a good time?" She ignores comment and doesn't move. Say to her again a little closer "Are you having a good time?" Keep in mind grinded once before and hated it. She turns around and feeds me "the eyes" compliance was there and she was just gawking.


    Move my left hand to her hip and move my hips. We start grinding (dancing while touching each other), nothing crazy just simple. She puckers up and I back down as I got scared. I know failed K-close but I had a cold streak of 2 failed K-closes as I didn't understand the chemistry dynamic as a noob from passes from women and this was starting out on game then 2 successful K-closes on passes from women on a hot streak now. As you may want to know when they look in your eyes all dreamy and they are grabbing you or looking weird at you time for the k-close! Don't fail to pick up on that as dancing and grinding with them will bring expectations of making out. As far as the legal pills just saying what I do for fun to dance not for macking on women.
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    Default Re: Can you go to nightclubs if you can't dance?

    I have a similar problem, I hate and completely suck at dancing. Does anyone here think getting lessons would be a good idea? I have yet to meet any women really who don't like dancing and I always have girls that are friends of mine trying to get me to dance when out. Usually I have to be pretty tipsy to do any dancing.

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    Default Re: Can you go to nightclubs if you can't dance?

    Take dance classes for your personal improvement not to impress chicks or anyone else. If you do it for yourself, I totally recommend taking classes. Never stop learning, never stop gaining experience.
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    Default Re: Can you go to nightclubs if you can't dance?

    Yeah it would be for personal improvement. I personally don't like dancing primarily because I'm uncomfortable doing it so it would be to get out of my comfort zone and boost confidence. I also hear that dance classes are a great place to meet women.


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