I must ask in a situation where I took it to a solo venture from a wingman who struck out early in the opening of the set, I ran into an issue. I was able to attract a nice group and keep them going for a while throughout the night, the problem I ran into was the isolation of one in which all of them had some type of interest in me, (I've mentioned this before in a recent post but haven't found time to put together the complete field report) heres the quick breakdown:
My opener was a simple opinion on the attraction and preference of black men within a group of 4:
1. HB8 Brunette, the only one out of the group who had previously dated a black guy, was interested, acted as if since she had the most experience she was the obvious choice. (ended up as my target)
2. HB7 Blonde, the obvious ringleader, was unhappy with her position at the end of the night she's the one who ended everything prematurely. (thinking I should've went with her.)
3. HB8.3 Blonde, the only one with a BF, throughout the night she gave me looks and pity stories about her situation, wanted to make me feel sorry I guess. One thing she did in particular was explain how she rarely went out and lived states away from her man...(hmm)
4. HB 6, the Redheaded mutt of the group, very quite and coy, could've been the freak.
My issue with this was the inability to show enough attention to the whole set, the ringleader at one point asked me to introduce her to a guy she seen me high five, but he was unable to cut the mustard.
How to better handle these types of situations? I have no problem isolating in the event I pluck one from the group, but this group tailed us, here and there, I kind of felt like it was a challenge for them all and the majority wanted an opportunity.