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Thread: What's the next step? Hot Irish girl!!

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    Exclamation What's the next step? Hot Irish girl!!

    Sorry for the length, but it's good, I swear! I'll try to make it short and concise. Nicole is a girl I know through a friend. Long curly black hair, great curves, gorgeous Irish girl. I've known her about a year but we haven't hung out until this past week. She's 5 years older than me. I'm 24, she is 29. She is bubbly and loud and and seems like lots of fun. Not too high maintenance. We first met a year back at an improv show I was performing in. I do improv regularly with a well known group and I highly recommend it to anyone trying to break out of their shell. It's creates social value instantly. She also came to another show two weeks ago.

    I got invited to karaoke and Nicole happened to be there. I try to be challenging and fun. And it's easy enough to make her laugh. For example, we took a cruise afterwards down one of the nicer streets with big mansions and she pointed at one and said "oooo, I'd love to live in that one!". I replied "Are you kidding? I would never live there. That is totally Freddy Kreuger's house. Look, the red door, green roof." She went along with it and said "Let's get out of here! Keep driving!" She's mentioned that she likes how I have a way to intrigue without telling the whole story. I always say just enough and then direct it back to her.

    I'm not sure how to really go about the next step of attracting her so she chases me. I think things are going well so far. What is she shows up to the next show?

    She invited me to her bday last night at a bar. Half way through the evening she noticed she left her weed at home. I offered to drive. We happen to me big stoners. She left her friends there and we took our time since we can have some really great conversations and smoked a couple bowls on the way back. At the end of the night, I gave her her bday gift which was really simple and barely thought through, but I knew she'd love it. I got her a 20 dollar Mario pillow and I stuck some authentic looking prison chains around his head and arms. It's from a zombie costume of mine. I know it was ridiculous but the key here is I didn't give a fark what the outcome was. I knew she'd get a kick out of it either way. She and I happen to be actors so we both appreciate props and a good laugh. I told her not to open it until she got home and I hugged her goodbye and whispered "I hate you" in her ear. She gave me a hilarious look of "I can't believe you just said that to me!" Totally shocked. I left.

    Today, I was craving a hoot and I also needed to make a trip out to a small town to pick up my coat I left at work so I invited her along. She had the day off so she was totally down. The town we were headed to was where I went to high school. After picking up my coat, I decided to take a little trip through my high school. I made it seem off the cuff. All the teachers recognized me even though it's been 8 years. Even the teachers I never had stopped to say hello. We had a great sit down with my first drama teacher and Nicole was eating this up. I just sat back and let my teachers recall great memories. I invited my old teacher to a show I'm working on right now and Nicole want to come, too. Then, I told her I wanted to make a quick stop at my aunt and uncles farm to drop off something. We ended up staying for supper and a couple games. She fell in love with them. My uncle is super suave and can hold anyone's attention for hours. Had some great laughs. Couldn't have gone better.

    I just dropped her off home a couple hours ago and now I understand I need to keep my distance for a bit. I've seen her way too many times in a week. And I'm sure I've already conveyed to her I'm into her. Maybe some of the steps I took were premature, for sure. However, she just texted me, "Hey, thanks for the Mario. It's kind of my favourite thing ever" I knew she was going to think that...so that's exactly how I replied. I also have a sore throat where I lost part of my voice for a couple days. She was going to give me some lozenges from her place and she forgot. She texted me and said "Oh no, I forgot! Come to karaoke tomorrow if you're still hurting and I'll give them to you". I feel like replying back "Tomorrow I'm having dinner and with a Spanish man I know and his family. He's fascinating. We'll see." After all, it is true.

    So, after all that, what do you think? A good way to create distance?
    Any ideas on what's next? I need to up the sexual Tension for sure. We haven't touched enough but I'd always been the one to initiate. It's nice because I also have 3 other girls who want to hang out with me. I'm not a show off but do pictures on facebook with other women really help? Or do more damage to you're image?

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    Default Re: What's the next step? Hot Irish girl!!

    You are in luck because my girl is also named Nicole (except she is Columbian).

    Ok, I don't know who told you that you need to create distance. The only time you do this is if there is disinterest or a girl is playing hard to get. Disinterest is to be mirrored, Interest is to be awarded.

    I will give you two case studies from my personal experience.

    Girl #1: I saw her twice a week at her workplace a restaurant and once at her other workplace - a strip club. Apparently, that was too much for her. She eventually got creeped out/uncomfortable and even showed it by going on break while I was at the restaurant. It turned out this girl has some self-esteem issues, she needed a boobjob, takes lots of selfsies and post them on instagram so she can get comments from fanboys because she needs attention.

    Girl #2 - Beautiful salsa instructor (btw her name is also Nicole) At one point, I see her at four times a week! (Three times a week, she is my salsa instructor, once a week we are both students at a ballroom dancing class). Like your girl, she is beautiful, confident, congenial, positive, everyone loves her. Every time I see her. She is happy to see me. Hugs me and kisses me on the cheeks sometimes.

    What did I learned?
    First, Fvck girl No. #1. They are no reflection of your game. If they are insecure, that is their problem and let them be someone elses.

    Second...Girl No. #2 = a gem. (Unless you are a real creep that like the guy who tweeted Mckayla Maroney 100x a day)

    So my words to you is this: If there is attraction and/or comfort going on between you and her (which there is), there is no rule how often you should see her. It did cross my mind that maybe I should cut back seeing her after what happened with the other girl. But why? All that does is reinforce your anxiety and cause you to over-think and doubt yourself. All those things undermine your confidence and inner game. If a girl thinks you are seeing her too much, then 1) she doesn't really like you 2) she is insecure and you probably wouldn't want her anyways or 3) both

    The next thing you need to start doing with your girl is you need to start flirting and escalating sexually. If you wait too long, you will get FRIEND-ZONED. My very first flirting attempt was a facebook message I sent:
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    ME: Hey Nicole, speaking of “holy water” and “prayers”...I got a great idea! For Halloween, I’m gunna go dress up as a devil. As in the handsome kind. Wanna be my fallen angel?
    HER: Haha alright smooth operator...:P

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    My first ever flirty text I sent to her.
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    After 5 lines of me asking her to put me and a friend on the VIP guest list at a club
    11:18a HER: I should be able to add you...I dunno about a plus one though :/ that ok?
    11:19a ME: Yea do what ya can
    11:27a ME: Thx Nicole. And btw, if you are not smiling, then you’re not thinking of me
    12:44a HER: Lol! Well now I’m laughing
    1:41p HER: U r on the list for tonight
    ---------------

    You need to flirt and escalate in person as well. This happened a few nights ago when I was walking her to her car with another guy who is fond of her.

    ME: Alright, say something to me in Spanish. I wanna see if I can figure it out with my linguistic skills.
    HER: Donde...w/e w/e w/e w/e
    (I’m thinking “Where is…? Where did you park? Where did you park your car?” Finally, “Ah fvck it.”)
    ME: Ok I got it. You just told me I’m the most the sexiest Asian guy you ever laid your eyes upon.
    HER: *Gives me a pointed look* You obviously don’t speak any Spanish.

    The other guy nearly burst out in laughter.

    And because your girl is named Nicole, I'm going to share with you my personal patented text message opener. This is specific only to this girl. Use this when you want to stay on her radar in case you can't see her for an extended period of time.

    ME: "Hey Nicole, didn't you know that in Latin, you are named after Nike - the Goddess of Victory? Your name means "victorious people." So if you are the winner, that means I'm the prize :P

    So start flirting and get sexual. They key is you need to be honest with your intentions if you want to be more than just a friend. Most guys fail here because they are afraid of rejection. But these same guys are the ones who fail in escalation. You see, a lot of times, guys want to be indirect and try to pretend they want a hot chick and treat her like a buddy to hang with, and when they try to escalate, it gets awkward. So do not hesitate. Because he who hesitates, masturbates.

    On FB, nothing wrong in having photos of you and other girls. It helps with your social proof. The only time it damages you is if you try to bring attention to it, you can dlv yourself. For example, sending her photos of you and other girls. Also, if you have too many photos like that, it can work against you. Just the right amount to show that you are not some guy that has ZERO girl friends.

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    Default Re: What's the next step? Hot Irish girl!!

    My brosiah,
    You are overthinking this so much. Read this back to yourself. As I was reading this, all I was thinking was " ERMAGAWD THIS GIRL WANTS HAWKSLEY'S D SO BAD WHY HASN'T HE PULLED A MOVE YET". So heres the game plan. Don't go to Karaoke. That's sort of a hard situation to pull a move in. I would ask her to hangout this weekend. I don't care what you do. Coffee, iceskating, theme park, whatever it doesn't matter. Remember don't ask her on a "date" ask her to "hangout", it"s way less pressure for her. Then while you're on this "hangout" just touch her, flirt with her, build sexual Tension. It already seems like you have a connection so this shouldn't be too hard. Then once the sexual tension is high enough, and she's showing ioi's just pull that move man. Go straight and kiss her like you're kissing Olivia Wilde. Like you mean it. Then once you K close and it's established you both like each other (which I think has already happened) you can work from there.

    Best of luck bb
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    Default Re: What's the next step? Hot Irish girl!!

    Hey guys. This is fantastic! Thanks so much. I love people who give me detailed messages. I understand completely and I will do my best to brush up on some flirty banter.
    I definitely will not go to karaoke tomorrow. If I see her at the next improv show, great!
    thanks again bros!


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