How do I Peacock so I stand out but don't go over the top.
How do I Peacock so I stand out but don't go over the top.
this depends entirely on your personal style, if you want to be more conservative, go with a nice watch (it doesn't have to be a rollex, but it should be either flashy or unique in some way)
maybe try going with a ball cap from your favorite sports team (only if you have short hair)
sunglasses work nice too (as long as they don't make you look unfriendly)
even a ring or a necklace of some kind. any kind of accessory will make a nice peacocking item.
the key is that your items should be unique and possibly have a story to be told about them (or you should at least be prepared to say something about your item if the girl asks you about it (witch can and will happen)
Meh thought about it but decided a Pirate Sash is too over the top especially since I think it sounds lame. Maybe that is unique about MM, and while he can pull it off it feels too raver like/childish. These high profile Clubs and Bars I go to during the Summer don't approve of Rave like and in fact won't let you in looking like a little kid.
So I stick with my Buckle T-shirts cuz they're the best. You almost gotta have the guns out to get chicks. Some guys can pull off the long sleeve but not me. I like to accessorize so I buy a bunch of bracelets, necklaces, armbands, and just save them for going out. Bought a bunch of nice shoes I take good care of for this purpose. Plus save the special t's and jeans only for going out.
Aside from that got a tatt and getting another next year. This really makes you stick out is having good tatts but the places say no earrings on guys and not too many tatts so I follow those instructions as not getting too much ink. So when you put it all together I usually go out like that which I call getting "decked out". Girls get "dolled up" and to combat this with my t's, LUGZ/Pumas, Jeans, bracelets, necklace, armband, and tatt I am looking pretty sick. Just go out decked out no need to Peacock but only do what works for you.
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The key is dressing fashionable and unique while being congruent to your identity and the social context.
Personally, I hate the word "peacocking." It leaves the connotation of performance or putting on an act. One of the most important thing of being a PUA is establishing a solid identity and being confident in expressing it, and weeding out girls that are incompatible. So if you are a guy who doesn’t care for tattoos, don’t get tattoos. If you are a guy who tends to dress conservative, don't all of sudden get a foppish hat with a feather sticking out just to put on an act to be interesting and/or to fish for a compliment. That is called overcompensation and not true confidence.
What to do so you are not overdoing it? For example, if the venue you are attending has most men wearing jeans, designer long-sleeve shirts, and nice shoes, start with that look as a foundation and build upon it with differences that make you stand out.
- unique embroidery, interesting colors, unusual distress in your jeans
- if everyone is wearing a designer t-shirt, wear a vest, loose tie, suspenders.
- your shoes should not be a single solid color. Get shoes with distress or some sort of textured or patterned finish. Women notice your shoes.
Have accessories that stand out, yet small enough not to be 'clownish' No bling chains unless it's a look you can be congruent with.
- A big unique belt buckle. This also draws her attention to your crotch, which some hypnosis experts believe is a subtle sexual Anchor. If you can back it up with a big d1ck then go for it.
- A unique, noticeable necklace. Doesn't have to be expensive. It can be cultural, for example, if you are native american, something that identifies that.
- Cool rings, watches, bracelets that stand out.
- If you look good in them, designer glasses (with or without prescription), especially if you are an intellectual.
One thing I learned is you don't have to try too hard to "stand out."
Women have an appraising eye. They will notice the fine details, your grooming and fashion, with just a quick scope. Anything beyond that will look like you are trying to bring attention to yourself.
Come up with your own style that corresponds to your identity. For example, I work out and one of my genetic assets is my delts and arms (triceps). So I wear alot of sleeveless jackets/hoodies and let my shoulders/arms do the talking. No tats for me. I like au natural with a tan. If it is a nightclub venue, then I would switch to designer vest.
If you don't have arms, don't do this. I saw a guy once trying to pull this off but had no arms, wore glasses, and had a scarf (if you don't mind your arms getting cold wtf wear a scarf?). Not congruent, not fashionable, and muddies his identity.
I tend to go with the power of subtlety, but that is just me. Something that is subtle yet memorable is equally powerful. If a girl had to remember you that night what would that fashion landmark be?
Basically echo-ing what Immortal said:
You want something that is congruent with you. When I'm trying to "Peacock" in the summer time, I'll wear a bright colored V neck from express, that hugs my muscles. Or I'll wear a brightly colored tank top, kind of like the the frat houses wear. If you have toned, defined arm muscles, that in itself is a "pea-cock" & girls will notice, especially if you're wearing a PACSUN tank top or something.
In the Winter time, I'll wear some bright colored Hurley or Buckle hoodies, or pull overs at parties, or if I'm just running to the store I dress up nice, & wear a designer black Pea-coat. Is this something you should do? I don't know. I don't know what your personality is like. It works for me, because it's congruent with my personality, & who I am.
Jeans are big thing. You need to find yourself 2-3 pairs of good jeans. I have 2 dark, & 1 light pair of designer Lucky jeans. Get yourself a pair of light Khaki's too. They go with almost anything.
So you need to figure out who you are, and then pick out clothes that are congruent to that. If you're not a thug, then don't walk around in a wife beater and jean shorts.
My method of peacocking is to go extremely fashionable. I'm not talking about being like Mystery and looking like a Dr. Seuss goof with a giant fuzzy top hat. The best way to go about with it, as everyone else says, is to be interesting fashionable.
I am huge into fashion. When it comes to looking nice, I like to mix and match and really go over the top. Doing a lot of research on men's fashion sites can give you some insight on what is cool or not. You don't have to buy what you see, considering you can buy the individual articles or have something similar for far less. Another important thing is to make sure that an outfit actually accentuates you instead of looking like a 5-year olds cut and paste with an issue of People's Magazine. Try it on, and then judge it accordingly.
As the rapper 50 Cent says, one stays ahead of the norm when they establish what the new norm will be. Create your own fashion, and separate yourself from what the other guys would wear. Just make sure you don't look like an idiot while creating the next fashion craze.
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When I go out, I wear relatively expensive brands of clothes in order to give me a boost with the more attractive women. For pants I wear jeans: Rock Revivals (about $160 a pop) and True Religions (about $300 a pop), for shorts: I typically just wear cargo shorts as jean shorts look sleezy to me and gym shorts are meant for the gym, the brand doesn't really matter, I normally get Aeropostale as they are cheaper (about $15-$20) and you can't tell the difference because the logo is so small.
For shirts: Hollister and Ambercrobie & Fitch V-necks and T-shirts (that are tight if you know you have a nice defined body) and when it's cold out I wear one of those black V-neck sweaters with a Hollister logo over a white (or the same color as the logo) T-shirt underneath. I also wear Raulph Lauren Polo's that you can get at TJ Maxx for about $35 (which most people think are $95 because thats what you'd pay buying it from an actual Raulph Lauren outlet).
Accessories: I have a cheap $30 watch I bought at Sears that has the same design as a Rolex that I have a hard time convincing people it's worth less than $100 lol. I also wear bead Rosaries that match the color of my outfit. Boxers from a name brand rather than typical Fruit of the Loom or Hanes (like American Eagle or Hollister).
The outfit combination I just described above gets me so many looks and complements even at the mall where you buy the stuff at so it makes me stand out so much at parties. Pretty much you want to just stay at one level above everyone else. My everyday outfits typically consist of Levi and Rue 21 jeans with American Eagle shirts and hoodies that are very color coordinated. If I had the money (which I don't) to have enough clothes I first described I would wear that daily, but thats not realistic so I only on occasion wear them going about my daily business or reserve them for going out, otherwise on the daily I wear more reasonable clothes that are still a name brand and look nice but don't cost you a whole paycheck.
Dressing like the first makes you appear wealthier and able to waste more money on extravagant brands, making you seem more stable and the second would appear that way as well but not to the same extent, the first would mean your typically wearing at least $500 of clothes (including shoes) everyday and the second would be no more than $200 (estimating about $120 for the shoes and Rue 21 jeans and Levi's are around $30 and American Eagle is almost always on sale so no more than $40 for both a T-shirt and a hoodie).