Alright, here's one a little different for you guys. I have a friend who is really into this girl. He has been for 6 years. However, he is a nice guy. He doesn't get it. And he gets frustrated that nothing ever comes from his advances with women. He is 35. I'm 24.
I keep trying to give him pointers on what women don't like (since he does a lot of them) and tips on things to try. But he never listens. He never asks questions about it. He instantly brushes it off and says "nothing ever works", or "i just can't find the right sites" and to be honest, I don't think he's looked very hard because I have never once seen or heard him use any sort of neg or teasing at all. He dresses like a chump. Blue jeans and either a navy or black tshirt. ALWAYS.
He has a lot going for him. He is funny. Great at acting, improv and accents. A fantastic cook and I've heard he gives good massages but that was from a 20 year old a few years back. Don't ask me why he was massaging a 20 year old. She left that evening pretty creeped out for some reason. I wonder why.
Here is an example of something that happened the other day at one of our mutual friends bday. This friend, Nicole is her name, is the girl he has been into for several years. She is 29 and beautiful. Now, this part takes a bit of imagining. Nicole was sitting in a booth at a bar. To her left was another girl, and to the left of that girl was my friend, Darren, the hero of our story. The girl in the middle gets up to use the washroom and leave a gap in between Nicole and Darren. Nicole starts complaining about how cold she is on that side now and what does Darren do? He instantly slides himself over to fill that void, leaving his beer and food one spot away from him. What does Nicole do? She doesn't thank him or even turn to speak with him. She goes right back to her conversation with the friends on the other side of her. Then he justs sits there.
If I was him, and she started complaining I would probably start teasing her and say something like "ohh, was that a hint? You think I'm just going to slide over there and fill up that hole? Nuh-uh! I'm not your slave" (holy shite now that I think about it, that is nearly perfect for sexual innuendo)
So, how do I break it to him? I've tried, I really have. I want him to have the same sort of success and understanding that I do. But, he thinks he's going to turn into a jerk. Into someone he doesn't want to be.
I'm also into this girl but it has only been this past week that we started getting closer. I think I need to tell my buddy to shit or get off the pot before I move in though. Out of respect really. She has been showing me some nice signs so I don't want to drag this shite out.