Ok guys, I thought I throw this up because Valentine's Day is right around the corner. I’m just wondering how everyone is planning to run their VDay game on a target. Some of you may have that one special girl, some of you who are better multi-taskers may have SEVERAL!
V-Day is always a bit tricky. You don’t want to come off as a chump/AFC who makes a deal out of it, but at the same time, you kinda want to do something. Although it's traditionally a “special” day of romance/love/sex (and depression for some), you want to come across as treating it like any other day. And all you lurkers reading this, if you are thinking of sending flowers and roses, do yourself a favor - slap yourself on the head. Hard. Close your eyes, breath, and let that silly AFC notion go.
Ok, I’ll go first (because I technically started running mine as of last night.)
1. I won’t be around that weekend because I will be going to a big 4-Day nerd convention because I CAN!
2. The HB has a boyfriend.
Anticipating our Monday meet might fall through, I decided to run a VDay Boyfriend Destroyer (thanks to Kyl3). For more info on boyfriend destroyers, refer to Xavier’s thread http://www.puaforums.com/how-seduce-...technique.html
The funny thing...IT FAILED (but you guys can still learn from it!)
So, I was chatting up my long game HB at our Saturday nite dance waiting for a slower song. I found an opening in our conversation because she brought up the subject of VDay.
Convo and BF Destroyer bomb went like this:
ME: So what kind of plans you got this Friday?
HER: I’ll be busy during the day.
ME: Oh, well, at night, I bet your boyfriend got something really special planned for you. I bet you are going to get a huge teddy bear. And he is going to wine and dine you with expensive dinner. And surprise you with lots of roses. It’s a night he is going to treat you like you are the most special person in the world.
(Here, I am using a Strawman fallacy – You hype something up so much to a ridiculous ideal that she can’t match that expectation. So she undercuts it herself.)
HER: *Shrugs* We’re probably not going to do anything.
ME: Really? That doesn’t sound like fun. I'm sure he loves you, but you gotta understand after two years...he is so comfortable and secured in the relationship, he doesn’t feel the need to go out of his way to appease you -- *She cuts me off*
(Here, I use “the lack of passion” element that LTR’s suffer.)
HER: No, it’s not that. It’s just that he never does anything on Valentine’s Day.
(Uh oh...not going according to plan. I’m thinking "WTF? Is this guy Jehovah Witness?”)
ME: What do you mean? Like never?
HER: *Shrugs non-chalantly like she doesn’t care* We never did celebrate ever since we dated. We never go out for Valentine’s day.
(DOH! FAIL! What are the chances of this happening?)
(So by now, in my mind, my first impression was ‘What kind of suck ass boring relationship is she in!? I know the girl is low maintenance but damn she gives it a new meaning. I held my tongue because the important rule is - and no matter how tempting it is - Never bash the boyfriend or she will defend him.)
(I had to think fast. And this is where wit and experience saved me)
ME: Well, damn, you know, if you were my girlfriend, you know what I would do to you on Valentine’s Day? (directive/giving her value…)
*I give her a serious look. She doesn’t answer. Instead smiles, blushes, and looks away.*
ME: I would wrap you in a bubble wrap.
HER: I never heard that one before.
ME: Then I would pop all the bubbles.
(So in conclusion – I manage to recover and still add emotional value to the conversation.)
My plan come Friday on VDay: Send her a “holding pattern text”
ME: Hey [X], normally I would be wishing you a Happy Valentine’s Day, but since you said you are not doing anything…I’m going to have to say - if you are not smiling and feeling sexy this evening, then you’re not thinking of me
HER: (And if she is doing something)
ME: Well I’m having a blast with other nerds at a convention pretending to be superheroes. I bet my Valentine’s Day can beat up your Valentine’s Day.
Then I’ll go enjoy the con and play Dungeons & Dragons. Aww yea.
Okay guys, share them gameplans!