This is a letter to the nerdy 'nice guy', frustrated with women.
I have fond memories of being the cliche nerdy nice guy who always got rejected. The one from the movies, you know? With the inhaler?
Then PUA happened, I stopped giving a shit about what people think about me and I got laid like crazy. Yay! Thanks PUA! Became an athletic jerk who is happy. #oppositeofbefore
What I didn't expect was to come full circle though. I'm turning into a nice guy again, and a nerd. But you know what? I'm getting more action now than I was as a full on jerk PUA (April avg. sex count = 2.3 girls/week vs 1-2 per/month when sarging all the time). Instead of hiding behind a computer because I'm afraid of being judged by people in person, I now work on a computer to do and make really badass things. Things that keep getting me invited to parties - not D&D parties, but real parties where I'm introduced to women.
I'm also turning into a nice guy again.
Not nice as in "I'll pretend to be a friend and do anything to please you when secretly I only want to marry you (so you have to be mine forever), but it's ok, I'll wait until you break up with your boyfriend and see that I treat you so much better anyway"... That's not nice, I only thought it was.
Now I'm nice as in "I won't lie about what I want,
I won't tell everyone you know that we had sex,
I will respect your needs and feelings,
I will protect you if YOU need it, not because I need it,
I will learn about you and come to understand you more deeply than nearly anyone in the world but I'll come to that understanding after a single conversation because I've learned to do that quickly... not because I'm obsessed."
I could keep writing that list for hours, it's a code I live by and one that gets me all the action I want with minimal effort.
So nerdy nice guys, I want you to take these words to heart: It gets better, but stop being an asshole and be a man.