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Thread: Sharing hotel room

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    Default Sharing hotel room

    Hi forum, I'm new here and my very first post!

    I am going to a music festival next month, and will be sharing a hotel room with a girl for 3 nights. We got in touch on the facebook page of the festival, rooms were pricey and agreed to share. I don't know this girl, except for the few msgs we exchanged on fb. As it happens we'll also be sharing the bed because I've booked a double room ;-)

    Are there any tips on how I can proceed? She is attractive from her fb photos and theres no mention of any relationship. But I have no idea if she's looking to get intimate or just wants to share a room cos hotels are pricey/unavailable. Should I initiate something on fb before we get there?

    Tips/ suggestions?

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    Default Re: Sharing hotel room

    Well, if she is willing to share a room and bed with you, then that means she trusts or feels okay with you.

    I think there are plenty of easy openers in this scenario. Build and break rapport might be something to try, or a little Push-Pull. Make her laugh, have some funny personal stories ready.

    I think you guys definitely will talk about the festival and music. Sync by finding if there are any bands or songs that you both particularly like. Build an emotional connection so to speak.

    When she's talking to you, look into her eyes, not the face, and gaze don't stare. It also might be good to lean back a little. It is okay to break eye contact every five seconds, but don't look down but to the side. A good technique is triangular gazing; look at her left eye for a few seconds then at her lips for a few seconds, then at her right eye for a few seconds.

    Other than that, I'd wait for the experts to come up and provide you better advice.

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    I would try to keep it lite and fun ..., tell her you are concerned with sharing a bed because you hog all the covers, or you often sleep walk in search of pizza, or you recite the Gettysburg Address in your sleep ..... it already sounds like she is a cool girl so have fun with it and make it like sharing a bed is no big deal..... I would run your normal game, if she imitates go for it but don't you press her for action. Surprise her by not being the guy who is trying to get lucky just because you are sharing a bed.... it will pay off in the long run .....Good Luck and have fun

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    Default Re: Sharing hotel room

    I'm new to PUA, so I can't really comment on before getting into the bed.

    I say wait until you meet her in person first. If she isn't receptive of what you're initiating on FB, she could potentially back out due to not feeling comfortable. Just try in person throughout that first day/night and see what happens. From life experience, if you're in the bed with her, you're good to go.

    Which music festival btw?

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    Absolutely!! You should definitely get talking to her on facebook before hand, just don't go all next level creep on her!! You've already got a great reason to friend her on fb and start talking to her. Don't wait until the festival to start building attraction, the more you know about her, the easier it will be (unless you plan on both of you being completely sideways, then just get her drunk haha)

    Read up on how to have fun, flirty conversations first. There's a ton of threads on here that will help.

    I would approach it with the attitude that you guys are sharing a room so you may as well make sure she's cool enough to hang out with. Don't focus on getting laid, that's just a bonus for her if she plays her cards right.

    drgnsfire12's post is bang on the money.
    Keep it light and fun, don't make out that sharing a bed is a big deal, and don't be the guy that starts hitting on her straight away.

    "tell her you are concerned with sharing a bed because you hog all the covers, or you often sleep walk in search of pizza, or you recite the Gettysburg Address in your sleep"
    Haha these are gold .

    One last piece of advice; don't try and cram yourself with information in the next month trying to make this the perfect weekend. You'll overwhelm yourself and more than likely be more lost than ever. Just be yourself and have fun with it.

    Does she already know that you booked a room with only one bed?

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    Default Re: Sharing hotel room

    Quote Originally Posted by Kvn07 View Post
    Absolutely!! You should definitely get talking to her on facebook before hand, just don't go all next level creep on her!! You've already got a great reason to friend her on fb and start talking to her. Don't wait until the festival to start building attraction, the more you know about her, the easier it will be (unless you plan on both of you being completely sideways, then just get her drunk haha)

    Read up on how to have fun, flirty conversations first. There's a ton of threads on here that will help.

    I would approach it with the attitude that you guys are sharing a room so you may as well make sure she's cool enough to hang out with. Don't focus on getting laid, that's just a bonus for her if she plays her cards right.

    drgnsfire12's post is bang on the money.
    Keep it light and fun, don't make out that sharing a bed is a big deal, and don't be the guy that starts hitting on her straight away.

    "tell her you are concerned with sharing a bed because you hog all the covers, or you often sleep walk in search of pizza, or you recite the Gettysburg Address in your sleep"
    Haha these are gold .

    One last piece of advice; don't try and cram yourself with information in the next month trying to make this the perfect weekend. You'll overwhelm yourself and more than likely be more lost than ever. Just be yourself and have fun with it.

    Does she already know that you booked a room with only one bed?
    Hi, thanks! Any tips on how to get going on fb without putting her off?

    She doesn't know I've booked a room with just a queen bed. So don't know if she expect twin beds. When we reach there, I'll either pretend to be surprised myself or blame it on the hotel.

    What are the best ways in the room to get something started? Apart from the obvious trying to get her drunk?

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    Default Re: Sharing hotel room

    Run your normal game and forget that you are in a hotel room ....and if she is really uncomfortable with sharing a queen bed BE A GENTLEMEN and offer to sleep in the floor. Don't be the lame AFC guy who is going to be creepy and tries desperately to hook up with a girl because circumstances have put you in this situation ... be alpha, you've done this before, it's no big deal, I'm a gentelman, and you are safe with me .....Good Luck

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    Default Re: Sharing hotel room

    I'm gonna pretend you didn't even say anything about "getting her drunk".

    Also- girls can smell bullshit a mile away. She's GONNA know you purposely booked the room with one bed.

    You're gonna have to be a man & be up front & honest.

    Lying will only screw yourself.


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    Default Re: Sharing hotel room

    Your questions actually made me cringe mate!! But I'm going to put my hand up because I think it may be my fault..
    Quote Originally Posted by Kvn07 View Post
    (unless you plan on both of you being completely sideways, then just get her drunk haha)
    This is poorly worded and bad advice on my part. Sorry, please ignore it.
    What I was trying to say, jokingly, was that if you guys are going to be out drinking all day then there's a good chance it may just happen.
    Again, it was poorly worded and not actual advice, so you're better off just ignoring that part.

    If you're just after an easy lay by getting girls drunk then you've come to the wrong place. If you're after some magic line or trick that will guarantee you a lay, then you will be disappointed.

    Now moving on..
    Have you done any research on how to have a fun conversation with girls yet? Learn how to flirt and escalate without being creepy and you'll be golden. The sooner you start, the sooner you will have questions and the sooner you will start to learn.

    There was a reason I asked you if she knew about the bedding situation and T-Mal, as always, has nailed it. Don't lie about it and don't try and pretend you didn't know when you turn up, you will only hurt yourself.
    You have to tell her asap!! Use it to your advantage and test the waters with her. Tell her the right way and you can find out just how open she is:
    "So, I just got the booking confirmation from the hotel and they have given us a queen room. I have emailed them and told them that I wasn't sure if who I was sharing it with could be trusted to keep her hands to herself lol So I requested a twin room instead.. I hope you're not too disappointed haha "
    Something like this is cocky funny, and she won't be expecting it.

    Don't wait until you're back in the room to make your first move, be escalating from the start. Incorporate plenty of Kino early on and if the opportunity presents itself go for the k-close before you're back in the room.

    Lose the Mindset of trying to be sneaky and having to get her drunk and you should be golden.

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    Default Re: Sharing hotel room

    i'm with t-mal. you need to be genuine. if you fail to show your intentions as true as they come the more unlikely she'll enjoy your company. if you make mistakes embrace it as a learning experience and laugh at it. roll with the punches. don't drown in them.

    i wouldn't make the first move until you know her walls are open for you to proceed. learn fast and as much as you can on these threads from the forum... you need to learn to pick up on social queues to adapt to things and lead. stand your ground on things you know is best for everyone not just because you want to get her in bed with you.

    my personal opinion is talk to her about the bed when you guys get to the hotel room--don't talk about it so much until then. make it a point that it's not that big of a deal. many people share beds and don't have intercorse. in all honesty i think you should just not make it a big deal unless she's got a boyfriend--then she has to worry about it or something. it's not your problem unless you messed up some where outside of booking the room. worse comes to worse you can just get a cott from the hotel... they can be anywhere from $40 a night to $90 a night depending on the quality of the hotel. if you do plan to proceed to test the grounds with her you need to be able to build and break rapport to the point that you're both enjoying your time. the more you're forgetting about everything the better--that's how you'll know things are going great. if you're in your head too much or worrying about her then you're likely to fail and end up just a room mate for the duration. keep it fun, challenge her lightly, stroke her curiosity and most importantly show interest but do not engage unless she's reciprocating to you. every light is green till it's red but you have to read your signs properly in such an intimate situation. things could go wrong very fast if you have 3 days.

    logistically i think your first night--don't plan to make a move on her--be social as can be and make sure you're both having the time of your lives. forget about the bed being a problem. based on what i said already you have possible solutions. if you both can share a bed the first night and mid way through the 2nd day she isn't pulling away from you in any manner it's a really good sign that she's interested in your company. don't hold any expectations to her since you don't even know her. make your time all about yourself and the entertainment for those who are joining you. lead. if she's reciprocating on the 2nd day escalate. if you can get to an almost hand holding / hugging stage with her by the 2nd day start to try to kiss close before or during dinner so you know what to expect at the end of the 2nd night. if it doesn't look like it's going anywhere just be cool, be yourself and don't think about the problems. make sure you're having a good time. i think by the 3rd day you'll know if things are going well or awful. i think if you both pass out on the 2nd night in the same bed or something maybe pretend to be asleep and roll over leaving an arm on her to see if she's awake and reciprocates positively or negatively when you both should be asleep. don't grope her or try to have sex with her but this is a sign that if she likes your touch and if she's awaken from your touch she won't wake you up. if she likes it she'll leave it there unless she's a heavy sleeper. maybe a minute or two after you've place your arm on her somewhere on her arm or something pretend to wake up and if she reciprocates and is awake--then escalate but you'll know when you've crossed the line consciously or unconsciously.

    your goal should not to be forcing anything on her. she has to make up her own mind about things. all you can do is show her some doors in the direction of how you'd like to take things if things are going well. anything more and you can easily be written off as too sleazy or if done too friendly you'd be friend zoned. make sure your conversations are wide in topics so you can slowly paint a picture for yourself about who she is and her comfort zones.
    Every moment counts, get out of your head and enjoy it.


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