Re: Sharing hotel room
i'm with t-mal. you need to be genuine. if you fail to show your intentions as true as they come the more unlikely she'll enjoy your company. if you make mistakes embrace it as a learning experience and laugh at it. roll with the punches. don't drown in them.
i wouldn't make the first move until you know her walls are open for you to proceed. learn fast and as much as you can on these threads from the forum... you need to learn to pick up on social queues to adapt to things and lead. stand your ground on things you know is best for everyone not just because you want to get her in bed with you.
my personal opinion is talk to her about the bed when you guys get to the hotel room--don't talk about it so much until then. make it a point that it's not that big of a deal. many people share beds and don't have intercorse. in all honesty i think you should just not make it a big deal unless she's got a boyfriend--then she has to worry about it or something. it's not your problem unless you messed up some where outside of booking the room. worse comes to worse you can just get a cott from the hotel... they can be anywhere from $40 a night to $90 a night depending on the quality of the hotel. if you do plan to proceed to test the grounds with her you need to be able to build and break rapport to the point that you're both enjoying your time. the more you're forgetting about everything the better--that's how you'll know things are going great. if you're in your head too much or worrying about her then you're likely to fail and end up just a room mate for the duration. keep it fun, challenge her lightly, stroke her curiosity and most importantly show interest but do not engage unless she's reciprocating to you. every light is green till it's red but you have to read your signs properly in such an intimate situation. things could go wrong very fast if you have 3 days.
logistically i think your first night--don't plan to make a move on her--be social as can be and make sure you're both having the time of your lives. forget about the bed being a problem. based on what i said already you have possible solutions. if you both can share a bed the first night and mid way through the 2nd day she isn't pulling away from you in any manner it's a really good sign that she's interested in your company. don't hold any expectations to her since you don't even know her. make your time all about yourself and the entertainment for those who are joining you. lead. if she's reciprocating on the 2nd day escalate. if you can get to an almost hand holding / hugging stage with her by the 2nd day start to try to kiss close before or during dinner so you know what to expect at the end of the 2nd night. if it doesn't look like it's going anywhere just be cool, be yourself and don't think about the problems. make sure you're having a good time. i think by the 3rd day you'll know if things are going well or awful. i think if you both pass out on the 2nd night in the same bed or something maybe pretend to be asleep and roll over leaving an arm on her to see if she's awake and reciprocates positively or negatively when you both should be asleep. don't grope her or try to have sex with her but this is a sign that if she likes your touch and if she's awaken from your touch she won't wake you up. if she likes it she'll leave it there unless she's a heavy sleeper. maybe a minute or two after you've place your arm on her somewhere on her arm or something pretend to wake up and if she reciprocates and is awake--then escalate but you'll know when you've crossed the line consciously or unconsciously.
your goal should not to be forcing anything on her. she has to make up her own mind about things. all you can do is show her some doors in the direction of how you'd like to take things if things are going well. anything more and you can easily be written off as too sleazy or if done too friendly you'd be friend zoned. make sure your conversations are wide in topics so you can slowly paint a picture for yourself about who she is and her comfort zones.
Every moment counts, get out of your head and enjoy it.