Re: Post-fight actions
It sounds like you need to lead. Less gaming applies when you are trying to salvage your life. Life comes first over gaming. Seperate the two. Make it clear you arent acusinf her of stealing. Treat it as a mistake in the past. I suggest you hold off on gaming her till you can decompress if you can get your cash back. When you seperate the issues of money compared to the relationship it should be clear you are asking for her help. If all of your money is gone when she can't pay you back or isnt willing to then you need ti cut her off intimately and see what can be worked out. Be nice and non judgemental for now. Ask for her help clearly as a friend. If you need to get it in writing and say its a reminder for the both of you.
In my personal opinion it sounds like she's avoiding responsiblity. Its a red flag if you ask me. Anyone who isnt taking responsiblity and willing to help you out when they can on their time it doesnt look good for the future. I'd make it apoint after you discuss your financial problems with her that you want to address that kiss on that day and that it happen but that was an emotional situation for you. If you meant it, say it. But make it clear that the money thing doesnt effect how you feel about her as a friend or someone who is interested in her. See about qualifying her or qualifying yourself to her. Qualifying will help you and her determine where to take things based on her response and expectations. Make it clear with her as well as yourself that you both have 2 different issues--the money and your effections. Do not punish her in anyway--she can walk away at anytime leaving you hopeless financially since she is your ticket to that money. If anything use the rules of gaming to get her to give you the money. The game still applies in having her invest and give you value so she can see youre worth your word and value as an individual to her
Every moment counts, get out of your head and enjoy it.