have you ever wondered why some guys seem to get women effortlessly, while other guys try and try and try but never achieve the sex life they deserve?
many pua's get one big thing wrong when discussing how to get women.
their main focus is solely about the approach/selling themselves
imagine that you're at a car dealership, the first salesman you meet is extremely friendly, cool to talk to, and has lots of b.s. stories to tell. however the car he wants you to buy is complete junk. sure he's good at giving a sales pitch, but what he's trying to sell isn't really worth buying.
now imagine you go to the next car lot, this time, the salesman is quiet and barely relates to you. however, he's selling an amazing car in immaculate condition. despite the poor sales pitch, the car pretty much sells itself.
now think about wich car you would buy. of course you want the nicer car regardless of the sales pitch.
woman think the same way about men.
they want the highest quality guy they can get regardless of how well he sells himself.
so now think of yourself as a product woman might want, however, you product can both increase or decrease in desirability. while having a good sales pitch does help you sell your product, ultimately increasing the quality of your product is the best way to sell more of it.
thus, we need to focus more on bettering ourselves than bettering our game.
face it, most guys who get results with women are valuable to begin with. having game without value is like trying to sell a junk car to someone who wants a quality car.
this is what women want. they want a man who possesses value in all three value areas.
the three types of valuein order of importance
2. genetic value
3. economic value
now, being a valuable person will be more achievable for some people over others. now I'm going to break down the three areas of value so you can better understand how to increase your value in all three areas.
1. social value
social value is base primarily on your ability to get things (services, favors, goods, ect...) you want from other people. pua's often refer to this as "social proof" but I prefer the term "social value" because it's not just about knowing people, it's about knowing the right people to get her things she may want. (yes women are extremely manipulative)
social value is also composed of your ability to create emotions in her and your ability to stimulate her. (of course that kinda goes back to your ability to sell yourself..)
the way to increase your social value is simple. make more friends, and spend more time socializing.
2. genetic value
genetic value is based primarily on your good health, your ability to protect her, your ability to please her in the bedroom, and your ability to provide favorable genes to her children. this is why people who are tall or skinny or muscular or good looking have a huge advantage in the dating field.
that's not to say you can't get women if your fat and ugly, but having favorable genetics will help.
now you're probably thinking "i can't change my genetics" and your 100% correct, however, you can make yourself appear to have better genetics by:
building muscle/ loosing weight
increasing your ability to protect her (learn a martial art or how to use various weapons and make it known that you can defend her)
increasing your height (wear boots when you go out)
wearing clothes that fit well.
peacocking (not too much)
these are all ways of appearing to have a healthy body wich is one of the big things women want in men
economic value is all about your ability to provide for your family. (and its why rich guys have it a lot easier with women) women want a man who can provide a comfortable lifestyle for them and their children.
increasing economic value is all about increasing the "appearance of wealth" (because lets face it, if you're a millionaire who never buys anything expensive no one would ever think you have money) this is usually done by having status symbals or "indicators of wealth" these primarily include:
a good job (or at least one that seems like a good job)
an expensive apartment
jewelry/ peacocking items
name brand clothes
travel/vacations (tell stories about them)
and any other personal property that appears to be worth money
basically she wants to be able to live an above average lifestyle, and marrying a wealthy man can help her accomplish this.
increase your value in all three areas, and you won't need to rely on game near as much.
because ultimately your value is what will seal the deal when it comes to getting women.
become higher quality and you will find yourself with higher quality women.